Death is coming

The closer death creeps up upon me the less I am able to understand the reasons for life or living.

Yes I have experienced a close family member dying and unlike television it takes decades to handle such a thing. To think I am going to put my family through such a thing when I finally leave is more horrific to me than the thought of death itself.

My life was and is still a learning experience but when all said and done what am I to do with all this accumulated learning over my lifetime if I just die. There is no logic or reason to this.

Long ago I became aware that the God story that is sold to the majority is just a nice story to give mankind with a message of a basic layout of how nice life could be if everyone followed these ideas. Not many in life do and if one thinks about it the good and evil structures actually depend on each other. The good that can be experienced in life is only understood as good when there is it's opposite to compare it to. This is not rocket science only common sense in reality. I am not saying we need to experience bad but understanding in it is needed to appreciate the great things many of us can have in our lives. From birth to death there are many ways mankind helps his fellow man. How many ways can you help?


Sunday, December 30, 2012

Tips For Comforting The Bereaved

By Amanda Griffin


While it's true that funeral customs in Singapore are very systematic, it doesn't mean that families of the deceased can actually handle the loss very well. Death in the family is not easy to bear and it is true for many cultures. Fortunately there are certain things that you can do to bring comfort to a friend who is suffering from grief. It's important to know these tips so that you know what to do during the time of bereavement.

The Dos

Read a book about grief in order to widen your understanding about it. This way, you'll be able to assess the depth of your friend's suffering. Among the best things to do is to show that you care and to express your sympathy. You do not need to use many words. Just sitting beside your friend will be sufficient to make him or her feel your support and sincerity.

Listen to and share stories about the departed. Make sure that you listen to the family even if they tell the same thing over and over again. If it is your turn, share your amusing stories about the deceased. If you are not directly associated with each other, you can share a funny story that the deceased's relative shared to you. Joyful memories will help remove the emotional burden from the family.

funeral services in Singapore are usually held in funeral homes which typically provide private rooms for the family of the deceased. This is also true for the Crematorium Singapore funeral service providers offer. In these rooms, you'll find a space where you can let your friend cry out. Always remember that a grieving person will only find a way to move on if he or she can express all those feelings. When this moment comes, be ready to give a hug.

The Don'ts

According to experts you must avoid telling clichs like "it is God's will," "I understand how you feel," or "Everything will be healed in time." Never stop listening to the family when they tell stories and don't tell them to stop crying. As you know, crying is an instinct and it is done to remove all sadness from a person's heart. So allowing your grieving friend to cry while consistently expressing your sympathy can help them feel relieved.




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Saturday, December 29, 2012

Funeral Home Singapore: Comforting Those Who Suffer Loss

By Anne Sanders


While it is true that funeral customs in Singapore are quite systematic, it doesn't mean that families of the departed can actually handle the loss very well. In most known cultures, death brings sorrow to families. That holds true for people in Singapore as well. Therefore, you have to think of ways to comfort a friend during their time of grief. Fortunately, there are some common tips that you can learn and follow to comfort a grieving friend.

The Dos

Read books about grief so that you can widen your understanding about it. Before doing anything, you have to understand how your friend suffers. Other emotions related to grief are anxiety and hostility. If your friend shows these signs, then it means he or she is totally stricken with grief. This is when you have to show your sympathy and you should let your friend know that you care. Using too many words is not necessary.

Listen to and share stories about the dead. Make sure you listen to the family even if they tell the same thing over and over again. If it is your turn, share your entertaining stories about the deceased. If you are not directly related to each other, you can share an amusing story that the deceased's relative shared to you. Happy memories will help remove the emotional distress from the family.

funeral services in Singapore are often held in funeral homes which typically provide private rooms for friends and family of the deceased. It is also true for the Crematorium Singapore funeral service providers offer. In these rooms, you can find a space where you can let your friend cry out. Always remember that a grieving person will only find a way to move on if he or she can express all those feelings. When this time comes, be ready to give a hug.

The Don'ts

Experts say that you should avoid telling clichs like "It is God's will," "I understand how you feel," or "Everything will be healed in time." Don't discourage your friend from telling stories. Moreover, don't advise your friend to stop crying. Allowing your friend to simply cry out can be one of the greatest things that you can do.




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Thursday, December 27, 2012

Face To Face With Death And Bereavement

By Sandy Carter


Many individuals perceive that death is mostly a painful ordeal to handle. The bereavement of a cherished one, regardless of whether predictable or unpredicted, normally leads to melancholic emotions of anguish and grief. Lots of people dislike the thought of death, possibly because the very sense of it describes a mournful conclusion.

Persons who come into contact with a loss of a loved one may possibly go through several kinds of emotions. These feelings, more often than not more intense and more powerful than in normal circumstances, are generally exceedingly burdensome to manage. Most individuals become gloomy, irritated, anxious, frightened, reprehensible, fatigued, confused, unprepared, terrified, enraged, ferocious, emotional, begrudging or just plain empty. Some individuals find it hard to focus, enjoy, dine and accomplish daily activities. Certain people divert their attention toward immoderate quantities of alcohol, food and games. Several individuals face adverse physical effects like impatience and nausea. A large number of individuals notice themselves skeptical about their spiritual views because of disappointment. A few people appear alone and meaningless, lacking enthusiasm in any kind of pastime. Some people may find this hard to believe as true, but all of these are normal methods to react to death.

The sorrowful course generally takes time. Countless methods and guidelines have been created to help bereaved people. To help the bereaved deal with the death of a buddy or family member, encouragement and relations must continually be available. Children should receive ample caretaking and communication. Adolescents, on the other hand, must retain regular involvement in different social activities.

If you're going through a recent loss of a cherished one, there are other valuable things, besides encouragement and communication, which can help you get through this complex stage. Bear in mind that it is okay to cry. It doesn't matter if you're a man. It's normal and natural to cry. Allow the pain to leave you. Talk about your cherished one. Communicate your emotions with other people. Let your associates and family know what you're going through. Find time to heal. Healing your wounds will not happen overnight. Don't rush the process.

Going through a loss of a loved one can be really demanding. Good thing you can actually lessen this almost impossible loads of strain with the help of professional casket services. With their help, you don't have to go through the heartbreaking process of choosing the casket that is right for your decedent. Almost all people might think the thought is absurd, but hiring proficient casket services can actually help you decrease your strain levels during this hard time. You aren't alone for the reason that the professional provider of funeral services Singapore like Buddhist funeral Singapore can actually help you go through the death of a loved one with less stress. They have a team of experienced funeral consultants that will be with you every step of the way.




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Wednesday, December 26, 2012

Benefits Of Grief And Loss Counseling NJ People Need To Know About

By Corinne Hyde


Life is quiet interesting due to the challenges and happy moments that people go through. It is almost impossible for one to have a very smooth life without any kind of challenges. Inability of dealing with the challenge can make someone to lose hope and feel like there is something very wrong with them. There are various challenges that one may face in life. They include financial challenges, family challenges among other things. There are different gains associated with grief and loss counseling NJ residents need to know about.

One can have suicidal thoughts once they feel like it is impossible to deal with the pain one may be going through. Such a person can feel like there is no reason in leaving since someone important to them has left them. This individual needs to visit a counselor in order to overcome this problem and not have such thoughts.

Apart from thinking about committing suicide others can even think of causing harm to other people. Some of the shoot outs that have been happening in the United States may be attributed to lack of people dealing with pain. This is because sorrow can make someone do crazy things.

An individual has a role to play in the society and they can only do this if they are in the right state of mind. Grief interferes greatly with the psychic of someone such that they cannot even work and earn a living due to the pain they may be going through. The person therefore needs to visit a counselor who can assist them in dealing with the issues.

When one has gone through grief and they go through the counseling sessions and they are okay, they are in a better position to assist another person who may be going through the same sorrow they went through. In addition a person who is suffering is more likely to listen to the advise of someone who went through the pain and conquered it. This is because they feel they can relate with the person.

Some individuals turn to substance abuse once they are faced with difficult situations in life and they are not able to handle them appropriately. Visiting a counselor is important for one to overcome the issue. After successful sessions one is in a position not to turn to substance abuse for solace.

When one loses someone that they really loved, they are greatly traumatized. It takes a lot of time and counseling in order to deal with the trauma. Inability of dealing with the trauma can lead to one even developing health complications like having a heart attack, high blood pressure and ulcers among other illnesses. These illnesses are very serious and may even lead to death of an individual.

There are various benefits one can get by using the service above. Due to the benefits associated with grief and loss counseling NJ residents are visiting the counselor every time they need to deal with pain. This has made people overcome their concerns and sorrows thus becoming better members of the society.




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Monday, December 24, 2012

Discover the secret to more time than you ever wanted

By Andy Jensen


We have an age old problem, don't we? We never seem to have enough time. Time is an essential resource that governs everything we do. We consider time so fundamental that we assign its measurement to sophisticated atomic clocks. Yet though we're well into the 21st century, we still have no effective means to save, store or extend it. Time ticks away, whether we like it or not, until our precious reservoir runs dry. Then, life as we know it, is over.

How can something as pleasant as life, be ruled by something as cruel as time? The Bible says time is not a mistake. In fact, God considered it to be ideal, in the beginning. Most of us recall the words that, "In the beginning God created the heavens and the earth" (Genesis 1:1). God designated the beginning as the point at which he set up everything in heaven and on earth. From that point onwards, time existed. God went on to establish light, the universe, fish, birds, animals, and of course us. When he reviewed everything, "God saw all that he had made, and it was very good" (Genesis 1:31). The key here is that "very good" in ancient Hebrew means things were perfect. So nothing needed any improvement. Not even time.

So when did things fall apart? Not long after the creation. By then, "the Lord God had planted a garden in the east, in Eden; and there he put the man he had formed" (Genesis 2:8). Sadly, Adam refused to live according to God's instructions. As a consequence, "the Lord God banished him from the Garden of Eden to work the ground from which he had been taken" (Genesis 3:23). But things soon became much worse! God said "Cursed is the ground because of you; ... it will produce thorns and thistles for you" (Genesis 3:17, 18) Even today this curse adversely affects everything we do. Outside of God's care in his perfect garden, work efforts are hindered. God says, "By the sweat of your brow you will eat your food until you return to the ground, since from it you were taken; for dust you are and to dust you will return." (Genesis 3:19). Things are difficult now. We cannot get as much done. Everything is hard work. Finally, death awaits us when time runs out.

Thankfully, that is not the whole story. God plans to restore his universe to its former glory. Because of his great love for us, he wants us there with him. He has already sent Jesus to start the rescue. Jesus lived and died and rose to life again, in full and final payment for mankind's rebellion. As a result, our original friendship with God can be restored. Take a moment to read about it in Romans chapter 5. Soon, in a remarkable way, God will use the thing we fear the most, death, to bring new life. Just as we pass away, this present heaven and earth has an expiry date. John saw in a vision there will be "a new heaven and a new earth, for the first heaven and the first earth had passed away" (Revelation 21:1). Just as there is an afterlife for us, a perfect new heaven and new earth will rise from the ashes too, but this time without the curse.

What implications are there for time? Will it affect things in heaven? Will we even do anything in heaven? The Bible says, "we are God's workmanship, created in Christ Jesus to do good works, which God prepared in advance for us to do" (Ephesians 2:10). Now nothing says we cease to be God's workmanship or stop doing marvellous works when we reach heaven. But everything will be hugely different. For the first time, unhindered by the curse, we'll experience the pleasure of wholesome and rewarding accomplishment. Imagine the satisfaction of unrestrainedly completing all we seek to achieve. Teamwork will be a delight, unimpeded by glitches and poor communication. Individual responsibilities will freely benefit from our full and passionate attention. Perhaps we'll be able to deliver extravagantly like the master craftsmen and women of old.

Surely, welcome news like that is widely received and understood, right? Actually, many misunderstand the importance of time to God and his universe. A common quote is "With the Lord a day is like a thousand years, and a thousand years are like a day." (2 Peter 3:8). This does not indicate time to be irrelevant. Instead it reveals God's patience and decisiveness. He doesn't want anyone to perish, yet can still be trusted to deliver judgment day. It's not a description of what we can expect in the new earth. Not surprisingly there is someone with a vested interest in confusing the issue. Try as he might to ignore it, the devil is scheduled to be "thrown into the lake of burning sulfur ... for ever and ever" (Revelation 20:10). He will leave no stone unturned to mislead us into believing eternity is a timeless wasteland. Because without time, just about everything we understand would be unbearable. For example, what if nothing had a beginning? Imagine never attending another party or concert because nothing ever started. Imagine never meeting a new friend. Or worse, what if nothing ever ended? Imagine a life playing a harp (pick your pleasure), forever. Time allows for fresh beginnings and change. Time itself is not the enemy.

What is time like in heaven? Much like it is now, only without limitations. The Bible has many references that show how time operates. First, John records that, "there was silence in heaven for about half an hour" (Revelation 8:1). Half an hour is a period of time. Also, the martyrs "called out in a loud voice, "How long, Sovereign Lord, holy and true, until you judge the inhabitants of the earth and avenge our blood?" ... and they were told to wait a little longer" (Revelation 6:10-11). The requirement to wait presumes a finish time. That point is reached upon announcement in heaven that, "the time to reap has come, for the harvest of the earth is ripe" (Revelation 14:14). For a more concrete reference to time, we need only consider the description of the tree of life. It produces "twelve crops of fruit, yielding its fruit every month" (Revelation 22:2). Our future paradise clearly operates by a regular and timely schedule. We can look forward to a comforting and dependable rhythm of life.

The answer to not having enough time is clear. Eternity will provide a rich and inexhaustible supply. Though life here is spoiled and thwarted by the curse, life in the new earth will provide an abundance of opportunity, success and fulfillment. We'll finally have time to shine.




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Sunday, December 23, 2012

Funeral Pre-Planning Steps And Benefits

By Hillary Mason


Most individuals map out their future. They plan where to go for college, which company to work for right after graduation and even how to live their life after retirement. Seemingly, people plan for almost everything in their life. However, there is one thing that they usually fail to prepare for - their funeral. This is quite understandable given that death is not something most people don't think about. Also, pre-planning one's funeral can truly make one uneasy.

However, as death is inevitable, accomplishing this task is necessary. Moreover, taking care of this matter as early as possible can spare the departed person's loved ones from future stress. They can just concentrate on grieving and remembering the life of the departed. Pre-planning a funeral can also lift a huge financial burden off the shoulders of the deceased individual's family.

So, how can a person pre-plan his/her funeral? Basically, the first step for this task is to locate funeral services Singapore providers that offer funeral pre-planning. Of course, to receive the best service, one has to ensure that he/she picks a highly recommended Funeral parlour Singapore has. To accomplish this quickly, one can ask trusted people for recommendations. Another option is to utilise the Internet for more extensive results.

Following the selection of funeral pre-planning service provider is the preparation for the actual funeral. This is the stage where discussions about the funeral details with the funeral director happen. The goal of this stage is actually to iron out details of the funeral.

Some of the important matters that need to be decided are the type of casket to be used, the venue of the funeral service and the kind of ceremony to be done. Deciding on these matters may be difficult given one's limited knowledge about them. But there is no reason to worry! Again, during this process, the funeral director was around to give advices or suggestions which can help one come up with the finest decision.

Once the main points of the funeral are fixed, what needs to be done next is to make a copy of the plan and inform loved ones about it. After this, one can solely focus on saving and paying for the bill.




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Saturday, December 22, 2012

All That One Needs To Know About New Jersey Bereavement Counseling

By Brandi Little


The loss of a loved one is a harrowing experience. Those left behind go through a pendulum of emotions. The experience is distressing and this makes it hard for the individual to cope with it. The best way to deal with it is through the help of New Jersey bereavement counseling. This will enable the individual to deal with this loss in a healthy way.

The inability to deal with grief is very dangerous. It takes an emotional toll on individuals. As this happens, individuals have their own various means by which they cope with the bereavement and grief. This means, however, are not suitable. Most keep their emotions to themselves and crowd themselves in work or other activities. This will eat them from the inside making an emotional meltdown imminent. They therefore need to take care of this through counseling.

After the suffering of a loss, individuals have many options by which they can receive support. Among the options is to participate in, group counseling sessions and support groups. These groups offer lessons on grief and loss. They also teach on how to deal with them. Additionally the presence of individuals who have undergone the same experience makes it easy to share, as they all understand each other pain.

It is common for some individuals to feel uncomfortable sharing in groups. This is understandable as most people feel the need to grieve on their own as they come to terms with what happened. To such, an individual professional counselor would be of great help. The confidentiality offered is appealing to the individual. This step will help them heal and learn to accept the loss as part of life. Ultimately, it leads to their recovery allowing them to resume life.

An individual recovery is dependent on the professionalism displayed by the therapist. This calls for the therapist to display compassion towards the individual. Such individuals are fragile, as the loss they have suffered has caused them a great deal of emotional pain. This compassion makes them feel wanted and loved contributing to the healing process.

The process has been identified and broken down into five steps. However, individuals are unique. This makes these steps unique too as they do not have a necessary order by which they occur. Professionals are best equipped to handle grieving individuals, as they know exactly how to take every step.

Anger is a byproduct of the grieving process. This anger if not checked could be disastrous to an individual well being. It is common for people to feel helpless, this helplessness turns into anger as they ponder on the things that they could have done to save the individual or to have made their time on earth a bit better. This leads to heavy regret, regret that causes emotional distress. This distress could turn suicidal hence the need for professional help.

Professionals in New Jersey bereavement counseling are certified therapists. They have undergone the necessary training to ensure that they offer the best of care and service to those bereaved. In addition to this, it also allows them to deal with situations appropriately.




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With Grief Counseling NJ People Can Learn To Cope

By Brandi Little


When a tragic event occurs where lives are lost or a person becomes traumatized by the event, one of the things that should be available is grief counseling NJ residents can go to. This helps people sort out their feelings and come to terms with what has happened. Even if coming to terms means accepting that someone dearly was loved. In the meantime as a friend or caring person these are some things you can do to help someone who is grieving.

A person who is grieving needs to be able to express everything that they are feeling. This means that they could be happy one minute and crying the next. They may also express anger or even rage while they are talking and sorting out their feelings. The best thing you could do for them is to simply listen to them while they do this.

Let them know they have your full attention. Most people are able to read body language, and you want yours to truly make them feel like your attention is to them. While avoiding hugging them, lean close and simply focus on them. Give them eye contact once in a while, but do not stay staring at all times. Staring at all times may make them a bit uncomfortable and make them hold back on their feelings.

You want to avoid any body movement which can seem as though you are not paying attention, or that you feel uncomfortable with what they are saying. This can make the person shut down emotionally if they feel you are becoming uncomfortable with what their thoughts. Fidgeting or a lot of movement of leg can feel as though you are uncomfortable. Constantly looking at your watch will also feel as though you are anxious to leave.

Do not be quick to give an opinion about what they are feeling. Do not try and interpret anything that they are telling you. Simply allow this time to express what they are feeling so that they can sort all of the emotions they are experiencing.

When someone who has experienced a tragedy, people feel the need to say something to try to make the grieving person feel better. Usually people say phrases that say things are going to be alright, or that you understand what they are going through. These common sayings do not have any positive effect on the person who is grieving.

Unless you have truly experience the exact same situation, then you cannot truly understand what they are feeling or going through. Even if you have gone through a similar situation, keep in mind that it affects people in different ways. Therefore it may not be possible that you truly understand what they are going through.

After a loved one passes on or a tragedy happens emotions tend to be heightened. This is why it is important to help a loved one cope with the situation. The best thing for them is to seek grief counseling NJ area has available. A professional can help them accept and cope with the tragedy that occurred.




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Saturday, December 15, 2012

Death And Loss: The Stages Of Grieving

By Albert Arce


As we live, we nurture death. Death is the inevitable end that every person is destined to experience. According to the famous Japanese writer, Haruki Murakami, death is not the opposite of life but an innate part of it. It is a truth that we can't change. So when we go through a death of relative, friend, family member, colleague or a loved one it creates a painful impact in our lives. The kind of sorrow and pain that's too deep, neither genuineness nor kindness can cure. Nonetheless, we do not have an option but to go through the process and learn something from it. Grieving is a an inherent process that allows us to reflect and ultimately be at peace enough to go on.

A Swiss American psychiatrist, Elisabeth Kubler-Ross started several studies about near death experiences, death and dying and she came up with the well-known "Five Stages of Grief". She explained that there are 5 fundamental stages of bereavement however, a person who is grieving does not necessarily go through all the stages nor in particular order.

DABDA is the generally known acronym of the five stages. Letter D stands for denial. It's the brief defence mechanism which can be either unconscious or conscious. Letter A stands for anger. This stage is characterised by a strong emotion of rage and envy, wherein the individual blames himself or other people to release the tension he's experiencing. Letter B stands for bargaining. This stage involves the feeling of hope that it's possible to negotiate or postpone on the loss. Letter D stands for depression. This is the phase wherein the loss is recognised and the person starts to grieve and cry accompanied by sorrow, doubts and fear. Lastly, letter A stands for acceptance, wherein the person begins to accept the truth and attempts to begin a new life without the person who departed.

As humans, we have high regards our loved-ones, in connection to that, we conduct a funeral ceremony to remember the life of the individual who departed. In the Merlion City, funeral service Singapore offers a comprehensive services and concern regarding the culture, beliefs, practices and religion of the dead. In fact, funeral services in Singapore reveres the religion of dead individuals by providing belief and customs sensitive rites such as Buddhist, Taoist, Catholic or Christian funeral services.

There is no question that losing a loved one is indeed a roller coaster of emotions. It is physically, emotionally, mentally and spiritually draining, not to mention the stresses of planning for a funeral ceremony. Today, funeral services in Singapore are equipped to provide decent peaceful funeral services. Most of the companies are pretty helpful and empathetic during these bereavement moments.




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Thursday, December 13, 2012

How To Pick The Best Provider Of Funeral Prearrangements

By Cindy Ingram


A decent and beautiful funeral service is what relatives would want to give their deceased loved one. It might sound simple, but making this happen can be extremely challenging given their emotional state. Moreover, when they spearhead the planning of the funeral service, family members become subjected to more stress.

Would you like your family to have the same fate? Certainly, you would say no. Therefore, start doing something to save them from the stress of planning your funeral. Make funeral arrangements ahead of time!

If you reside in Singapore, making this happen shouldn't be difficult with the presence of numerous companies providing funeral prearrangements. While finding a funeral and Casket services Singapore provider isn't difficult, you should not pick one without knowing their services and products. Simply put, do research before you choose!

When pre-planning a funeral, it'd be best to get the services of a funeral company that offers a wide range of products and services. Doing this alleviates the need to deal with many suppliers and the stress that goes along with it.

Since one of the major parts of funeral pre-planning is selecting a casket, it's imperative that you check the casket selection of the funeral services provider. As much as possible, pick a company that has a vast selection of caskets. This is to make sure that you would obtain one that fits your preference and your budget. Meanwhile, if you plan to have a customised casket, be sure you choose a provider of Singapore casket services that does personalisation.

However, it isn't enough that a funeral services Singapore provider has a large collection of caskets. Its products must also be elegantly crafted and most importantly, durable. So, don't fail to examine the caskets of these funeral services providers. Find out what others have to say about their products, too. Typically, high quality caskets are associated with trustworthy funeral services providers.

Pre-planning your funeral may make you uneasy. But trust that making funeral arrangements ahead of time is probably one of the best decisions you can make for yourself and your family. By doing this, you allow your loved ones to grieve without further worries, and you ensure that you get the funeral service you want.




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Benefits Of Learning Wake Etiquette

By Timothy Sanders


At a time of loss, things can be very painful to handle. The right words and the right actions don't seem to come out natural, particularly when people are overwhelmed by depression. When you're a friend or a distant member of the bereaved family, you should make it a point to pay respect to the departed in the most respectful manner. Making a visitation or going to a wake, even for a few minutes, can let them know that you are willing to give them support.

When you make a visitation however, you must be aware of proper wake etiquette. Understanding what to do and what not to do lessens your chances of appearing disrespectful and offending the bereaved family members. Here are some reminders that you must know during a visitation:

Wear only dark coloured clothes. Wearing dark clothing allows you to express emotions of grief. Avoid utilising light colored clothes because they denote joy. Wearing these clothes may offend the bereaved family, as these light coloured ensembles may convey inappropriate intention to celebrate.

Don't be loud. Naturally talkative people ought to be careful of how they socialise during a wake. Unlike ordinary conversations, they should keep their voices and energy to a minimum. Why would you want to overwhelm the mourning family with your loud voice? Although seeing old friends while making a visitation is entertaining, be sure to stick to your goal: that is to remain sorrowful of the event.

Remember to pay respect to the bereaved family all the time. In the event that death pervades your family too, you are sure that they'll give you the respect that you deserve. If a sudden death hits your family, contact a Singapore funeral parlour services provider straight away. Such Funeral parlour Singapore provider can help you surmount the struggles brought by death in a stress-free manner.




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Wednesday, December 12, 2012

Funeral Home Singapore Extends Help To The Bereaved

By May Anne Ferrell


The funeral home Singapore-based companies provide is marketed as a venue where the bereaved can actually find comfort and serenity at a time of deep sorrow. It is possible to find a funeral home which features a chapel, family room, visitation room, arrangement room and lounge area. Such provides the convenience of having everything easily accessible and readily available. Yet for the ones who decide that they don't really need the additional amenities, a choice is given to them too. In particular, relatively smaller venues are alternatives the can actually consider since they're suitable for families who like to limit the visitors to just some of the deceased's closest friends and relatives. Smaller as they may be in comparison, most of them are nonetheless flexible enough to be extended in order to accommodate the funeral and memorial services for the dead.

Aside from the venue itself, the one tasked to arrange the funeral takes a look at the Singapore casket services they can carefully take into account. Caskets are always mentioned in the discussion of funeral arrangements since their purchase is one of the most expensive in death related matters. The materials of which they were made greatly influence the price. The less expensive ones are commonly made of pine or a composite of hardboard. Expensive caskets are built using steel, mahogany and bronze among others.

The options for the venue and the casket are just two of the items that can be found in any Singapore funeral service list. Budget and preferences determine the package which the bereaved will ultimately purchase. Yet beyond the selections, flexibility and convenience extended to those left behind by the departed, the funeral homes seek to extend support, comfort and understanding as well.

Sadness and tears may fill the air during the moment of mourning the passing of a person. Even so, a funeral is a celebration of life. It's an opportunity to honour and fondly remember a unique existence. Arranging a funeral may be an important responsibility yet it is a good chance to express a person's gratefulness by paying tribute and last respects to a remarkable person who has touched lives.

Moreover, during a funeral, the people who gather to pay their last respects to the deceased can find and extend their support and comfort to one another. In a way, it helps the mourners find a closure during this these trying times. To some extent, it helps them to cope and find strength in order to move on despite the great loss.




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Funeral Services Practices Of Christians

By Anne Gable


When a person dies, Christians believe that God will judge them. Heaven and hell are waiting for them after their life on earth. Other Christians also believe in purgatory, a place where the dead go to if they had done forgivable sins. For Christians, a funeral is where family and friends gather to give thanks for and remember the life of the dead on earth. It is also where they grieve for the lost of their loved one. The Christian faith has many denominations. Each one practices slightly different funeral customs from the next.

For example, before the funeral, Catholic Christians keep a vigil, or a series of prayers, songs, and homilies for the departed. They may hold the funeral at the home of the dead, in a funeral parlour, or in a church. Catholic funerals may also hold a procession to the burial site from the church or the funeral home.

Meanwhile, Protestant Christians follow different funeral customs. There are similarities as well, dependant upon the denomination of the Protestantism faith. Many of them hold the funeral at a church or at a funeral parlour within three days of the death. Guests can contribute to the funeral by giving food and flowers. although playing of worship music is allowed, most Protestant funerals are formal and quiet events.

Most of the time, the disparities in Christian funeral practices also depend on the customs of a country. In Singapore, many Christians hold funeral wakes in a funeral home or an HDB block where the dead had resided or their family lives. funeral for Christians Singapore traditions also observe the rules of Catholic or Protestantism belief, but there are usually Singapore customs that are incorporated in the funeral.

Christian funerals, simillar to funeral services of other religions, are held with deference for the dead in mind. A priest or a minister officiates the mass or ceremony, and the wake is customarilly held within three to seven days after the death. Christian funerals are normally sombre affairs, but some sects encourage a happy celebration to remember the life of the dead lived. Visitors often offer assistance in the form of money or in kind. They are even urged to offer flowers, food, or, if applicable, donations to the chosen charity of the departed's family.




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Tuesday, December 11, 2012

Healing Yourself After The Death Of A Relative

By Helen Price


It is never easy to deal with the demise of a loved one, especially if your family is a closely-knit one. Depending on the gravity of the situation, there are those who find it easy to acknowledge the reality that a family member has already passed away, while others will need more time to heal from the loss.

It's vital that you give yourself sufficient time to grieve, which is an essential part of the healing process. It is okay to spend time alone if you think that it's the best way for you to handle your loss. But remember that in doing this, you also have to learn to understand the present situation so that you may finally move ahead and just take pleasure in those happy times you and your loved one had together.

There are people who cope with their loss by reminiscing the good old times they had with the departed. A better way to do this is to share such wonderful experience and stories with other people so they will better appreciate how noble this person was when he or she was still alive. This will greatly help you in facing the fact that death is actually an inevitable part of everyone's life and by this, you then shall be able to overcome any hard feelings you may have towards the situation.

It's okay to say "yes" to any help that is offered to you which may be in the form of coordinating with the Funeral director Singapore memorial services firms offer as their representative. Knowing a person dear to you has already died can be stressful enough. It would be totally comprehensible to feel extreme exhaustion from attending to every detail of the Funeral Services Singapore families arrange for the deceased. So make sure to pay attention to your physical self too and take time to recharge your mind and body and be able to face this reality of life.

It could really be difficult to gain the courage to accept the aching truth that somebody you love has to depart this world. The hurt will be there, but only you can dictate how and when it will subside. Aim to be surrounded with friends, family and other people who matter to you the most. It can be through them that you may be able to rise above this tragedy and ultimately embrace and be grateful for the life that you currently have.




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Monday, December 10, 2012

All That You Need For A Proper Memorial Service

By Patricia Campbell


Grief overcomes people when they lose somebody they love through death. Their first emotional reaction is understandably shock. It's difficult for them to believe their loved one's death. Considering the suffering that they feel can stun them, they would also find it difficult to make decisions right away, such as dealing with the funeral arrangements of the dead. The devastating hurt of losing a beloved can incapacitate the people expected to make arrangements for a proper funeral service.

But no matter how they feel, they know that their loved one should have the best memorial service. In Singapore, many memorial homes serve the needs of people who believe in various faiths and follow various traditions by performing various memorial rites. Funeral services Singapore venues also offer a one-stop place for funeral arrangement needs, such as flower arrangements, casket selections, hearse service, obituary placements, transportation for visitors, food and refreshments, and video and photo services.

For the surviving family members of the deceased, the paperwork is perhaps the most stress-inducing requirement that they need to finish. Fortunately, most Funeral parlour Singapore services also offer assistance with paperwork. They can help secure the death certificate and the medical records on the cause of death of the demised. And if the deceased was covered by insurance, they would help contact and inform the provider of the death.

It is also customary for funeral parlours to engage religious persons to officiate ceremonial rites. Since Singapore is home to a variety of cultures and spiritual beliefs, funeral homes usually have contacts with celebrants of different faith, like monks and priests. This way, all religious faiths would feel welcome and they wouldn't have to be concerned about trying to find a person to preside over the ceremony themselves.

Funeral homes can serve as a haven and a crematorium. while the cremation takes place, the friends and family of the deceased can hold a private wake. It's recommended to hire the services of a funeral director for those who wish a trouble-free funeral planning. Most funeral homes provide clients directors to spare the family the hassle of the preparation.




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Friday, December 7, 2012

Hiring Funeral Planners - A Decision Families Won't Regret

By Cindy Hess


Death is inevitable. Although it is definite, no one really easily accepts the loss of a loved one. Death, as often said, typically brings sorrow and pain to families and friends. This is the reason why planning and arranging a funeral isn't an easy task for any grieving family. Yet, they need to do this to give their departed loved one a proper burial.

Arranging a funeral is not as easy as reciting the alphabet; maybe, even not as simple as organising a birthday party. For a grieving relative designated to attend to this task, additional mental and emotional stress awaits him/her. However, nowadays, this shouldn't be the case, especially in Singapore as grieving relatives can enlist the help of a Funeral director Singapore memorial services provider has.

A funeral director or planner basically helps families in preparing for the interment and other funeral-related concerns. On behalf of the family, he/she makes preparations for the embalming, funeral and burial or cremation rites of the departed. This professional, along with his/her staff, also take care of seemingly small details like ushering visitors and making the funeral seat plan.

In addition, the funeral director also guarantees the completion of pertinent documents like obituary notices, death certificates and burial permits. Sometimes, this individual's service extends even after the interment as he/she assists in choosing and sending thank you cards to those who showed their support to the family. Even if it's not officially listed as a part of his/her duty, the memorial planner/director also counsels and comforts the bereaved family and friends.

Clearly, funeral directors provide people with invaluable assistance during a tough time in their life. It is, certainly, a wise idea for grieving families to enlist their services. However, they should not just settle for any funeral director. To make sure that they'd get first-rate service, they should choose a trustworthy funeral parlour in Singapore offering funeral planning services.

Reliable funeral services providers are known to hire well-trained and experienced funeral directors who are knowledgeable about the different death-related religious and cultural traditions. Therefore, bereaved families are guaranteed that their and their demised loved one's funeral wishes are followed and executed properly with respect to their religious or cultural traditions.




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Tuesday, December 4, 2012

Common Casket Options

By Michal Henderson


Death is unavoidable for all. But understanding that fact doesn't make it less painful for the surviving family members. Still, when the time comes for a family member to die, we have to make plans for their funeral. There are lots of things that need to be organised in a funeral service. And probably the most expensive thing in the service is the casket. In Singapore, caskets cost from a thousand dollars and up, depending on the type and make.

Caskets are sometimes alternately called coffins because they have the same use, which is to hold the body of the deceased person. They have slight distinctions, though. Coffins are pointed hexagonal or sometimes octagonal box that has a wider width at the shoulder and smaller dimensions at the head. A casket, meanwhile, is a rectangular box that has the same width and height from top to bottom. It is typically padded, and has divided cover for viewing.

The most common material used for coffins is wood, whereas for caskets it's either metal or wood. For wood, there are pine, oak, mahogany, and maple. Metal caskets are usually made from copper or stainless steel. There are even caskets that are made from gold, platinum, or other expensive materials. These caskets normally can be custom-built and purchased in advance.

The material used to build the casket does not matter to a lot of people, though. Many of them only care about how the casket looks. They can choose from the usual casket colours, such as white, black, grey, and in the natural wooden veneer, or from a non-traditional shade, which normally is the favourite colour of the demised. As for the appearance of the casket, they can either choose a half-couch or a full-couch. This determines the outer lid of the casket. Full-couch means the full body of the deceased can be shown, while half-couch can expose only the upper body part.

In Singapore, many funeral homes offer Casket services besides other funeral necessities. Caskets aren't refundable after use, of course, but there are memorial homes that allow casket rental for those who select cremation since caskets are only needed during the memorial service for the viewing. Fitting and delivery are also usually included in most casket services in Singapore if the family of the dead opted not to buy from the funeral home.




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Sunday, December 2, 2012

Getting Help When You Need It Most

By Albert Price


If you have not made funeral arrangements yet, take our word for it and start planning now. Do not wait for the time when you are forced to make a difficult decision made more challenging by the fact that you are to deal with your own grieving process. Experts suggest that you can start the plan by carefully looking at the funeral services Singapore based services providers have to offer.

Expect to deal with matters concerning the venue and schedule of the wake; floral arrangements; funeral rites; placing of obituaries and final resting place among others. The representative of your funeral services provider will guide you all the way through. The people working for such providers present the choices you can seriously consider. It's good to know that they likewise understand how hard the process is for you so they're willing to exert efforts to help you through the best way they possibly can.

Remember that a huge portion of the funeral expenses will go to the purchase of a casket. In Singapore casket pricing can range from as reasonable as S$900 to as steep as S$5000. The difference in prices is largely influenced by the material from which the casket is made of. The choices of casket materials include the elegant steel, the decent wood and the practical plastic to name a few.

funeral service in Singapore relieves the bereaved of a lot of stress. The reputable providers take care of the other essential concerns so that the family won't be burdened by matters which the former is more capable of handling anyway. Funeral services providers normally offer the expertise of a funeral director who is capable of acting as a guide to the ones left behind by the deceased as they make arrangements for the departed while they themselves go through the painful process of grieving.

Death is inevitable but unfortunately, not most people are prepared for it. It truly makes a difference to start planning about it as soon as possible. Doing so will make such crucial decision much less stressful to make. Grieving for someone dear to us is an event in life which we cannot escape. All of us will have to face this emotional and psychological challenge sooner or later. Hopefully, it won't catch us unprepared.




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Saturday, December 1, 2012

How To Attain Reliable Grief Counseling

By Faye Hunter


In the event of the death of a loved one of a close friend, one is usually left in great sorrow as in many instances one fails to imagine how life there after is going to be like. There are instances where people commit suicide as life becomes sour and torturous to them. In an effort to avoid this one needs to seek the help of all the people they can access. In order to attain good grief counseling NJ occupants should not hide they pain. This allows the experts to effectively offer assistance as they have knowledge on the problem.

Discussing problems always make them to fly away. One should never doubt the power of sharing difficulties. This thus should be a major consideration for anyone who is suffering in silence. When one talks to others they share their pain and thus it is lessened from their hearts. People who do not talk always find themselves with heavier mental burdens than those who discuss with the right people.

It always pays to share the experience with a well trained and experienced counselor. The end results of doing this are very positive to the client. The experts always find a way of making their clients feel okay regardless of the issue. This therefore should be a consideration for those looking to end their pain and sorrow in the shortest time possible. The expert gives good advice and also shows that client that it is not the end for them and life still has so much to offer.

Death is a natural occurrence. This means that however we love one another they will die when their time comes. This should boost the morale of the grieving person as they are sure of their own death. They should for this reason find strength within themselves to move on as life cannot stop at the death of their loved ones. One should put in mind the many things they need to achieve and get the courage to move on from these.

Holidays and vacations are a good way of getting away from the stress and agony of a loss of a loved one. One for this reason needs to consider this fact during their time of mourning. The results of doing this are likely to be beneficial as one gets busy with other gainful and fun activities thus forgetting the loss. It thus should be a good point of deliberation for those looking to end their sorrow.

Getting together with other people who have been affected by the loss always works in dealing with the issue. It always is advisable that one seeks the audience of those who have been equally hit by the tragedy. One thus gets too talk about their feelings with those feeling the same way and the burden is shared.

A wise person considers keeping the memories of the departed person out of their reach until they have healed. This goes a long way in forgetting the person as they are not constantly reminded of them. In return the recovery process is faster and therefore less painful.

In order to attain favorable grief counseling NJ occupants are advised to engage competent experts for the very best outcomes. This allows one to ease the pain as they discuss with good persons their pain. It this also ensures that one does not bear the pain for a long time.




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The path of a Missionary

By Penelope Ian Brown


There is always an significant distinction within evangelists and missionaries. Many times, ministers say that "everyone is a missionary." The ministers who say that are typically attempting to convey some truth but the peril in saying that is that cross-cultural missions usually vanishes and the motivation for it dies down.

Pastor John Piper states "Evangelism is speaking to anyone anywhere the gospel. You don't have to succeed at it. Evangelism is happening even if somebody is not getting saved. But you need to say it. So saying the gospel to anyone is evangelism. It could your mother or your father. It could be a Christian, but usually we think of it as somebody who is not a Christian. Missions is doing that by crossing a culture. It usually involves learning a language, learning new cultural things where there is no church in which people are doing evangelism of those in that culture. They don't have any access to the gospel."

Therefore "missions" in such a situation is cross-cultural evangelism to those of us who have no availability to the gospel- It is sermonizing the gospel in a location where it has never been heard. Paul's statement in Romans 15:20 sums up missions. He writes "It has always been my ambition to preach the gospel where Christ was not known, so that I would not be building on someone else's foundation."

A christian missionary is a leader. Like Christ, all Christians are called to be servant leaders. Leadership is impact. And christian missionaries influence people for Jesus. While all Followers of Christ are called to be emissaries for Jesus, missionaries are supporters for Christ in an unknown land. They must be eminent leaders.

The missionary is helpful at uniting with people. One method to unite is by meeting felt needs.The missionary regenerates himself. Besides uniting people with the gospel of Christ, the missionary makes it a concern to instruct others to become missionaries too mainly those who will adopt the mantle from him.




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