Are you on the fence about staying with your current girlfriend? If you can't decide whether to stay or go, ask yourself the following:
Are You Happy? If you are generally unhappy in the relationship, this is problematic. Basic happiness is the barometer to use when you are deciding whether or not to leave.
If you are unhappy in the relationship, you need to decide which way to go. Either work on it harder and try to fix things, or break up.
When you break up with someone, sadness is a normal reaction. Don't think you have made a mistake if you leave your girlfriend and then are unhappy for a while. In the long run, you have a better chance of being happy with someone else.
Could you Be Happy? Maybe you aren't happy right now but your relationship is usually pretty good. This can be a bad period that you and your girlfriend are in. If you think this is just a temporary situation, especially if there have been some big life changes happening that you are having to adjust to, you may want to hang on a while longer.
If you are unhappy and you can't figure an outside factor that may be making your relationship rocky, this is more serious. You don't want to sit around and wait for improvement that may never come. You would have a better long-term chance at happiness with someone new.
Have You Told Her? You might be surprised to find that your girlfriend would be shocked that you are so unhappy. She may genuinely not know what is wrong - and if she doesn't know, she can't do her part to fix things. If you haven't told her of your concerns, you should be honest with her. She may step up and make the relationship worth keeping.
On the other hand, if this is a pattern that is a bad sign. Does your girlfriend start out great after you discuss problems, make attempts at reform, then backslide over and over? If so, she's unable to make the lasting changes you need her to make to allow you to be happy as her partner.
Are You Happy? If you are generally unhappy in the relationship, this is problematic. Basic happiness is the barometer to use when you are deciding whether or not to leave.
If you are unhappy in the relationship, you need to decide which way to go. Either work on it harder and try to fix things, or break up.
When you break up with someone, sadness is a normal reaction. Don't think you have made a mistake if you leave your girlfriend and then are unhappy for a while. In the long run, you have a better chance of being happy with someone else.
Could you Be Happy? Maybe you aren't happy right now but your relationship is usually pretty good. This can be a bad period that you and your girlfriend are in. If you think this is just a temporary situation, especially if there have been some big life changes happening that you are having to adjust to, you may want to hang on a while longer.
If you are unhappy and you can't figure an outside factor that may be making your relationship rocky, this is more serious. You don't want to sit around and wait for improvement that may never come. You would have a better long-term chance at happiness with someone new.
Have You Told Her? You might be surprised to find that your girlfriend would be shocked that you are so unhappy. She may genuinely not know what is wrong - and if she doesn't know, she can't do her part to fix things. If you haven't told her of your concerns, you should be honest with her. She may step up and make the relationship worth keeping.
On the other hand, if this is a pattern that is a bad sign. Does your girlfriend start out great after you discuss problems, make attempts at reform, then backslide over and over? If so, she's unable to make the lasting changes you need her to make to allow you to be happy as her partner.
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