Death is coming

The closer death creeps up upon me the less I am able to understand the reasons for life or living.

Yes I have experienced a close family member dying and unlike television it takes decades to handle such a thing. To think I am going to put my family through such a thing when I finally leave is more horrific to me than the thought of death itself.

My life was and is still a learning experience but when all said and done what am I to do with all this accumulated learning over my lifetime if I just die. There is no logic or reason to this.

Long ago I became aware that the God story that is sold to the majority is just a nice story to give mankind with a message of a basic layout of how nice life could be if everyone followed these ideas. Not many in life do and if one thinks about it the good and evil structures actually depend on each other. The good that can be experienced in life is only understood as good when there is it's opposite to compare it to. This is not rocket science only common sense in reality. I am not saying we need to experience bad but understanding in it is needed to appreciate the great things many of us can have in our lives. From birth to death there are many ways mankind helps his fellow man. How many ways can you help?


Thursday, April 4, 2013

Crazy Stop Smoking Tips

By Marinthe Sijstermans


We all know that there are many different methods to stop smoking, some a lot more effective than the others. This article is about stopping smoking all by yourself. Whether you have tried before or you are doing so now for the first time, the following techniques makes it both simple and easy.Now, there are two myths about smoking that I would like to see disappear in a puff of smoke before we get to the 'how to' part of this article. The first is that some smokers put off the idea of stopping smoking thinking that they need to be fully committed to the idea of stopping and totally willing. Well, that is just not true. Most people wanting to stop smoking also feel that another part of them wants to continue, or still enjoys it, or is scared about the idea of stopping. The good news is that as long as the part of you that wants to stop is more motivated than the part that still enjoys it, then you can have success.[]

There are a number of quit smoking aids available that can help you give up your smoking habit. These aids include nicotine patches, hypnosis, counseling, herbal and non herbal medication. You may want to consult your physician and choose one of the aids that suit you the best.

Please note that the more you actively carry out and engage with the tips below, the more you increase your chance of success. Good luck!Be clear about your reasons for wanting to stop.Create a list with your reasons for wanting to stop smoking. What will the benefits be? List all the things that you dislike about smoking or the things that you are fed up with that relates to smoking. This could potentially include things such as the smell, putting yourself out socially as a result, the cost involved, the negative effects on your body, etc.Set a date and commit to it.

Start exercising. This will help channel the excess energy you feel and make you fit as well. This should also lead you to drink some water, that is a great cleanser for your body.Stay busy. This will help you keep your mind off smoking and getting tired by the end of the day will help you sleep better. There are countless activities if you take the time to think about them. What can you do at home ? What can you do outside ? Even the smallest task needs focus, and you are not thinking about smoking during this time.

You will be happy to know that cravings do not last. If you have a craving, find the balance between trying to ignore the discomfort and talking/focussing on it too much. Instead, be aware of the discomfort and turn it to your advantage by using the excess energy to exercise or enjoy a favourite hobby. Or you can simply distract yourself. Take it one day at a time.Instead of thinking that you might never smoke again, tell yourself that you are only not going to smoke for one day. Then do another day and another, until you have done your first week.Deal with cravings by substitution.

Reduce your intake gradually. It is really very difficult to stop smoking overnight because your body will feel a lot of discomfort. If you get rid of your cigarettes overnight then you are likely to start the habit all over again because you can't do without the nicotine.Do not set very high expectations of yourself when you do stop smoking entirely. It is not just a question of will power. You will only feel bad about yourself when you inevitably pick up your habit all over again. In fact, you should expect to have relapses a few times at least before you are eventually successful in quitting the habit.

Don't be surprised by this: it's all part of the process. The way through this conflict is to experience it and resolve it, and not avoid it in any way.In order to resolve this conflict, you simply ask yourself this one, basic question: "Am I willing to accept my desire to smoke in order to stop smoking and stay stopped?" In other words, here you are feeling uncomfortable and unsatisfied because you want a cigarette but aren't smoking one; do you think it's worth it to you to feel this way in order to break free from a life of smoking?

What you are doing is making a connection with the memory of your addiction: the memory stored in your mind that thinks smoking would be wonderful. Adverse thoughts will also be part of that memory, but don't use them to cancel out your desire because you need to work on accepting the desire, not denying it.When figuring out how to quit smoking, some people will repress their desire to smoke from the moment they stop smoking. In that case, you will need to pause frequently, perhaps three or four times during each hour, and induce a desire you can really feel. It may take a while to work, but eventually you will feel a strong desire: an empty, uncomfortable sensation that you know would be relieved by smoking a cigarette.

A friend of mine, James, who attended a quit smoking program, gave an ideal example of this. He told me that at his last attempt, three years ago, he decided to stop smoking at the same time that he was going to redecorate his house. In other words, his strategy was to avoid as much of the difficulty of stopping smoking as he could by keeping busy painting and hanging paper.He threw his cigarettes away and got rid of anything that might remind him of the smoker he used to be. The plan appeared to work and he managed to stop smoking with very little difficulty. He stayed stopped for a month, with smoking totally forgotten, until something happened that took him by surprise.

Take advantage of familiar situations where you would have smoked, such as the end of a meal, as opportunities to induce your desire. Instead of jumping up from the table to get on with the washing-up, sit there for a while, as you would have done, let yourself feel your desire to smoke and think through your choice not to smoke - for now.Later on, as you become more familiar with these methods of how to quit smoking, your desire may only last a few seconds, but making a deliberate effort to acknowledge it by inducing it can make the difference between success and failure in the long term.If you lead a very busy life, inducing your desire will be especially important. Busy people can stop smoking for days or weeks, barely aware of their desire to smoke in the background of their crowded minds. But just because you don't take the time to deal with it properly, the desire doesn't vanish; it keeps coming, like a nagging child demanding attention. Or it can suddenly and unexpectedly explode, perhaps at a time of crisis, arid, because your conscious mind hasn't practiced dealing with it, you can suddenly find yourself on the verge of smoking.If you stop to induce a desire - and this only takes a few moments - you give your desire the attention it requires. As a result it becomes easy to live with and, most important of all, you are in control of it.




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How to Stop Smoking

By Babet Koolwijk


Have you been feeling like you are fighting an impossible cause with your attempt to quit smoking? Have you been feeling like you have attempted quitting for too long and are annoyed due to your defeat? Do you find it encouraging to grasp that you aren't the sole smoker who did not stop smoking? Or maybe you find comfort in the fact that many smokers take multiple undertakings before ultimately conquering the smoking fixation?[]

If you want to grow the will and the motivation to succeed, you will have to learn the implications of quitting. Try to use the "cold turkey method" that means instant stop. The first milestone would be the first day. If you are able to stay without smoking for a whole day, you are on the good path. Three days is another important milestone, as the nicotine would start to be eliminated from the body. After two weeks, you won't think about a cigarette every moment of the day, but the satisfaction of quitting would start to disappear.

Those who smoke constant fight day by day with their longings for more nicotine. It is a material that once in the body has a very tough time letting go.Folk who have smoked for only two months can still discover quitting smoking to be terribly hard. People who have smoked for a number of years, the postulate of giving up smoking is two fold.Becoming entirely smokeless can constantly take several months. In the strenuous adventure to becoming smoke-free, it is important that you retain this mantra in your head : Nothing is really unlikely, you can do it! And to help further in your journey, these are a number of easy and effectual techniques to stop smoking.Really deep breathing is the biggest straightforward strategy you may use to help begin giving up smoking. Try and do these steps 3 times whenever you are feeling the desire to pick up a cigarette.

Breathe in the deepest lung-full of air you can and slowly exhale, pursing your lips so that air comes out slowly. As you let out air, shut your eyes and slowly let your jaw lower onto your chest.In the initial few days, drink plenty of water to slowly flush out the nicotine and other chemicals out of your system. Stay away from alcohol, sugar, and coffee, as each of these have an inclination to excite the desire to light up a cigarette.Keep the intake of greasy foods to little amounts as the body's metabolism could slow down a bit with no nicotine. A little dieting restraint is necessary.There are plenty of oral replacements available in the market at this time. You can use cinnamon sticks, dental gum, or man-made cigarettes as a replacement.These things make it simpler for people to get over the requirement of popping a gasper into the mouth. Probably by the 1st week of being a non-smoker, you may discover that you will not have any use for oral replacements any more.

Perspiring helps flush out nicotine through your sweat. Also, if you notice yourself getting more and more fit each time you work out, possibilities are you'll feel more reluctant to light a stick knowing pretty well what it can do to you.Encircle yourself with encouraging folks. Ask for support from folk who matter to you. Your family, pals, even trusted work-mates. It helps to have people who care for you encourage you to keep going.Smokers also have developed habits or rituals that surround their smoking habit. These may include meeting buddies at the job during smoke breaks or going to a favourite bar to smoke and enjoy a beer. When you are eventually in a disposition to stop smoking your trigger spots will remain there. It's important for someone who is making an attempt to stop smoking to include other changes into their lives.For an example, if you usually meet for a smoking break two times each day it could be helpful to use that occasion to go for a walk. Through monitoring of your environment and adjusting your methods it is conceivable for you to stop smoking whatever smoking level you were at.

Stopping smoking may take a divergent period for each person and there's not one correct or specific stop smoking program that will make sure of success. Should you are aware of your triggers and are free to evade them when compulsory, you will have an improved likelihood of giving up smoking and succeeding. The desire for nicotine can continue for years following your success at quitting smoking, so don't be shocked when you crave a cigarette awhile after you stop smoking. Just consider your own health and the health of those around you, and that alone should be inducement enough to get you to start taking cigarettes seriously.

Research shows that smoking is the most common preventable cause of death. Millions of smokers all over the world die because of a smoking related death. It is important for your health that you quit smoking and start living a healthy life. Quitting also helps you keep many health conditions and problems at bay. When you quit smoking, the circulation of blood in your body improves by leaps and bounds and your blood pressure becomes normal again. When you stop smoking, your sense of smell and taste also return and you become a healthier person. Quitting smoking is a good thing and breathing also becomes easier when you do so.

But the sad part about this is, most smokers are already aware on what these methods are. Probably, a huge percentage has tried doing several stop smoking tips but for some reasons, these didn't work for them. For example the most common quit smoking advice is to use nicotine patches and gums, however they supply your body with the content that makes smoking even more addictive. This is one of the reasons why nicotine gums and patches never work - instead of keeping you away from the addictive content; these products just supply your body with this stuff.But today, there are more creative ways on how you can quit smoking, and listed below are some:

If you think smoking helps you kill boredom and loneliness, you should keep yourself involved in music, art and literature. Many people feel that a meal is incomplete if they do not smoke. In such cases, you should pamper yourself with a delicious dessert after your meal. If this does not work, you can take help of smoking cessation treatment options that are available on the market. Medications such as Champix can give you additional support if you want to quit smoking. If you are really serious about quitting, you should write down all the reasons why you want to quit.

Making a personal smoking cessation plan will be a lot more helpful than the one you will find on the internet. This will also help you understand yourself in a better manner. Write down your plan about how you want to quit smoking. You can either quit smoking cold turkey or give it up slowly. Quitting cold turkey is not easy. Many smokers quit at least 5-6 times before they give it up forever. When you quit smoking, withdrawal symptoms of this problem are high and you need to manage your cravings.When you stop smoking, you will experience restlessness, fatigue, sleeplessness, frustration and anger. This is when Champix can help you quit smoking and stay with your decision of not smoking again in your life. Quitting can be tough but you can do it if you are ready to change your life for better. The trick is to always stay motivated, and determined. The more focused you are, the easier it is for you to give up this habit. Keep your eyes on the goal and ensure that you stay strong in spite of the temptation to smoke.




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