Death is coming

The closer death creeps up upon me the less I am able to understand the reasons for life or living.

Yes I have experienced a close family member dying and unlike television it takes decades to handle such a thing. To think I am going to put my family through such a thing when I finally leave is more horrific to me than the thought of death itself.

My life was and is still a learning experience but when all said and done what am I to do with all this accumulated learning over my lifetime if I just die. There is no logic or reason to this.

Long ago I became aware that the God story that is sold to the majority is just a nice story to give mankind with a message of a basic layout of how nice life could be if everyone followed these ideas. Not many in life do and if one thinks about it the good and evil structures actually depend on each other. The good that can be experienced in life is only understood as good when there is it's opposite to compare it to. This is not rocket science only common sense in reality. I am not saying we need to experience bad but understanding in it is needed to appreciate the great things many of us can have in our lives. From birth to death there are many ways mankind helps his fellow man. How many ways can you help?


Thursday, February 25, 2010

Dealing With A Split - 3 Brilliant Prescriptions for Taking Care of it Quickly

By Tim Nelson

How Long Does it Take to Deal with a Split?

Mensurations and survey results variegate a lot. Sometimes it takes no more than 48 hours. Others find it can take approximately half the duration of the relationship. It would take 12 months to heal if, for example, the relationship lasted for 24 months.

Why does it alternate so much? Simply because it depends on you. It is determined by the one who is trying to get on with life after the end of the relationship. How we get on after the dissipation of a relationship, combined with our attitudes towards the events has a huge imprint on the duration of the hurt, 'sorrow' and sadness lasts.

The ones who are good at getting over a dissolution of a relationship have the same philosophy. They want to move on. The want to avoid feelings of regret over having wasted time by being anguished over a relationship that didn't work out, besides they just want to start enjoying life again.

Smart Ways for Getting Over a Break Up

In addition there are smart ways to approach getting over a break up that will help you to move on much quickly. The top three smart actions that you can undertake to get over a break up quickly are:

Use Your Support Network: Reach out to close friends for support. Intimate friends will help you deal with it. They excite you, discuss it with you so that you can process everything.
You emotions fill up with joy when you're with them (make the correct choice - make sure they have positive or optimistic characters). Thanks to this counsel you will feel much better and it will help you to....

Have Pride: You do not let others affect your life to the degree that you are not getting on with your life. Please explain why you would give someone permission to make you feel like this?
You are in control of your mind and your choices. Your ingenuity is the only thing you have totally in your hand in this life. Glorify in yourself. Do the right thing and make the most of your life and get on with it. No matter how things stack up.

Paint a Negative Image of your Ex: This is the nuclear firepower solution to put an end to your bad feelings and to move on. You can use it to lesser or greater degrees depending on how bad you feel. It's time to be a little narcissistic so that you can forge ahead with your life and make the best of it.
To do this you need to remove the fake ideal image you created in your mind of your former lover. No one is pure perfection, additionally there are thousands of potentials lurking out there, and some are surely much better than your ex. However at this moment, your mind is befuddled. It is intolerant. So to fix it, and create a better perspective that will enable you to move on, you need to make some adjustments.

Write down what aspects of the relationship weren't right for you. The reasons for which it was not what you needed after all. What factors didn't your ex possess resulting in imperfection? If they were unfaithful, why did they do it? How were they impolite to you? What were their maddening routines? What were the things you didn't have in common? Figure out what it is that you are looking for in a relationship. Think back on the things that your ex was lacking and that you wished she had?

When you have this tally. What we call the 'Ex's Jaundiced List'. Review it daily in the morning before you star the day to remind yourself why you will be better off without them. This will alter that mistakenly 'flawless form' that you made of them. What will come out of it is that you will appreciate the world with all its flaws and you can move forward. The length and details contained on this list will determine how ruffled your feelings still are and how often you find yourself thinking of them.

This set of tips are only the tip of the iceberg. There are many other really effective strategies to getting over a break up.

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Bipolar Mood Disorder Reviews & Guide

By Anne Durrell

Bipolar disorder is also called BPD or perhaps called manic depression and it is a disorder that is known by extreme mood shifts. Mood swings occur in most people; but, an individual with bipolar disorder suffers from extreme conditions of both major depression and intense elation as well as over optimism.

This is dangerous since the depression may be so extreme they cannot function normally during those cycles and also think about or even act out suicidal thoughts. However, the excited (upswing) can lead to dangerous behavior such as over spending, and activities they may not otherwise engage in.

Lots of individuals with bipolar mood disorder will also have periods of normalcy between the moodiness where they act and come to feel much as everyone else. Some persons with bipolar disorder may encounter mood swings often and of short duration and others sometimes have lengthier durations of both moods.

Bipolar disorder may start as early as the teen years but a diagnosis may be delayed because the moodiness could be ignored as being normal teen moodiness or even attributed to ADHD. By age 25, the symptoms are more definite and a diagnosis made less difficult.

Further complicating a proper diagnosis of BPD is the fact an individual might experience mixed states and have signs and symptoms of both depressive and manic states present at the same time.

The causes of BPD are not known, some scientists suggest there might be a genetic link but study results are not consistent. Even so, people who go on to have bipolar disorder may well exhibit symptoms in childhood. Based on some research the symptoms tend to be so subtle as to be very easily mistaken for standard behavior or even another issue like ADHD.

Older people suffering from bipolar disorder could have issues in many areas of their life. The high intervals cause them to be overly optimistic, engage in risk taking behavior, as well as become financially indiscreet or sexually promiscuous. These issues could be never-ending.

Throughout bouts of depression, someone struggling with bipolar mood disorder might not be able to function or to maintain a job. Suicide is often a risk also.

There's a lot of drugs that might be used to deal with BPD. The explanation for that is that though certain prescription drugs are effective on some individuals, other people show absolutely no signs of improvement.

Lithium is the only medicine proven to reduce the chance of committing suicide in despondent BPD patients. The medication Lamotrigine has proven to be effective in preventing depression symptoms in some BPD sufferers. Antipsychotic medicines might be used to combat agitation of a BPD individual in the manic stages.

When symptoms are relieved and emotional swings are in remission the patient must still keep on using the medicine or a relapse is likely. Some sufferers with bipolar disorder describe the impact of the drugs as causing them to feel flat or drugged. That reduces medication compliance with individuals with BPD.

There are successful treatments for persons with bipolar disorder and mood stabilizers can be a major portion of the treatment plan when helping stabilize the patient with bipolar disorder. Because the moodiness may be so harmful to personal relationships, financial status and job performance BPD is going to be treated aggressively in most instances.

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