Death is coming

The closer death creeps up upon me the less I am able to understand the reasons for life or living.

Yes I have experienced a close family member dying and unlike television it takes decades to handle such a thing. To think I am going to put my family through such a thing when I finally leave is more horrific to me than the thought of death itself.

My life was and is still a learning experience but when all said and done what am I to do with all this accumulated learning over my lifetime if I just die. There is no logic or reason to this.

Long ago I became aware that the God story that is sold to the majority is just a nice story to give mankind with a message of a basic layout of how nice life could be if everyone followed these ideas. Not many in life do and if one thinks about it the good and evil structures actually depend on each other. The good that can be experienced in life is only understood as good when there is it's opposite to compare it to. This is not rocket science only common sense in reality. I am not saying we need to experience bad but understanding in it is needed to appreciate the great things many of us can have in our lives. From birth to death there are many ways mankind helps his fellow man. How many ways can you help?


Sunday, January 15, 2012

Grief and Grieving: Beyond Stages and Phases

By Sandy Ingram


In everyone's life, there is the one love affair that in spite of giving all that you have to the relationship, your partner still breaks your heart. The sharp jab to your belly and excruciating pain of abandonment is unique in its ability to incapacitate you and make you do regrettable blunders. The desperate attempts to save what you alone believe is a relationship worth saving produces humiliating encounters with your ex-love that hurt you even more. If your beloved happily moves on to a new love, you are left alone to wither and cry without the benefit of your lovers healing embrace. What can you possibly do to feel better? Here are five techniques to help you survive love grief.

Personal vs professional experience My personal experience as a counsellor working with many clients over the past years has given me lots of exposure. Yet nothing, not the training nor the experience has really prepared me for what life had in store for me on my journey with the grief of losing my child.

There are two problems with this argument. First, the empirical data is too weak to lead to grand generalizations: grief is just too multi-dimensional and unruly. Second, the empiricists could be right when they claim that today's counselors do not shorten the grief cycle, but they erroneously conclude that "grief work" is not necessary. Let me explain.

What Are the Odds Can you meet someone in high school, marry and stay together forever? You can, but it happens rarely these days. You have probably broken it off with other people in the past that you had grown tired of and perhaps, they suffered. You may have felt badly about hurting them, but you were over them and moved on. The difference here is only who walked away first. Most relationships fail, until you find the Right One.

Cut in half I feel emotionally cut in half, carrying a double edge sword: One side being happy for the twin that I have with me in physical form, the other side being ripped apart by grief and loss for the twin that I lost, the one that will never grow up with us. She was so small and her image will remain edged in my memory as I held her helpless little body in my arms for the first and only time.

The tears are shed in private. I usually keep to myself when I'm sad. That is most likely the reason why people think 'I'm fine'. It is as if I can see them sigh in relief as they don't have to deal with the uncontrollable reality of their own relationship with grief. Want to know more? Have a look at my blog.

I was able to improvise a grief-work based solution, while in the midst of the debilitating pain of losing my soulmate. I see no reason for grief theorists not to come up with their own creative prescriptions for measurably reducing grief. If they fail, the empiricists will have won the war; those who grieve will be collateral damage.




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Key Information About French Campsites

By Pierre Fontaine


The French and the tourists from the other neighbouring countries in Europe enjoy camping in France, the wonderful country which boasts of thousands of camping spots uniformly dispersed throughout the country. As a result you would find a camping ground wherever you tour in France. Travellers use the tent or choose the caravan to stay.

There are several hostels in France that allow you to erect tents in their back yards in case you cannot locate a camping ground nearby. A number of camping spots in France are found on the river banks and near lakes and even at the ocean thereby enabling you to enjoy the scenic serenity around you.

Camping sites are of course not seen anywhere near locations of historic interest in France and hence it will be good if you can make your own arrangements for travelling between the camping site and the visiting place.

In France during winter almost all the camping grounds are closed and some of them are kept open only during summer to accommodate tourists who throng to France during summer thereby filling these camping sites to capacity.

In France, school vacation is in summer and so most of the French families opt to take their annual vacation in that period.

During summer you may not find accommodation in the camping sites if you get there late in the day. Staff of course will do their best to put you there if you have walked from your earlier destination on foot.

Prices for staying at camping grounds in France vary in accordance with the facilities that are available on site. Camping grounds in France are given ratings, normally between 2 and 4 stars. The price for setting up a tent is the same as that for bringing a caravan to a camping ground in France.

Electricity charges are added of course to the caravan charges. There is a specified price for a group of three people to stay in these camping grounds in France with great discount packages available for children below 12 years of age.

Sauvage or unauthorized camping is forbidden in France and if you do that you will be in trouble. No doubt many still do that. If you are going to be the one to stay, if you do not make your presence felt by making noise or lighting camp fire you can escape being caught for sauvage.




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