Death is coming

The closer death creeps up upon me the less I am able to understand the reasons for life or living.

Yes I have experienced a close family member dying and unlike television it takes decades to handle such a thing. To think I am going to put my family through such a thing when I finally leave is more horrific to me than the thought of death itself.

My life was and is still a learning experience but when all said and done what am I to do with all this accumulated learning over my lifetime if I just die. There is no logic or reason to this.

Long ago I became aware that the God story that is sold to the majority is just a nice story to give mankind with a message of a basic layout of how nice life could be if everyone followed these ideas. Not many in life do and if one thinks about it the good and evil structures actually depend on each other. The good that can be experienced in life is only understood as good when there is it's opposite to compare it to. This is not rocket science only common sense in reality. I am not saying we need to experience bad but understanding in it is needed to appreciate the great things many of us can have in our lives. From birth to death there are many ways mankind helps his fellow man. How many ways can you help?


Sunday, October 31, 2010

Procrastination As The Worst Enemy To Getting Things Done

By Paul Stuart

To run a productive and successful business calls for efficiency and meticulous planning on the part of the owner in order to expand and boost its services or the products. There are a few tips that one can use to avoid falling into the usual productivity traps. You can sidestep them completely and increase the productivity levels by far.

Procrastination: When tempted a lot to keep postponing the harder work you have to do for later, and think you should have a go at the simpler tasks first. This is a bad idea.

Procrastination tends to kill motivation because you will keep rescheduling the tougher tasks which will make them appear tougher than they really are. You need to form the habit of dealing with tasks as soon as they land on your desk as fast as you can without choosing; but the only priority should be the order of which ones are needed first.

Non Prioritization of work: It is very wrong to have the mentality that all tasks are equal and it does not matter however way you go about tackling them even without following any particular order; so long as you are busy working.

A rush begins when you suddenly realize that there are some tasks which were needed earlier than the others and that some were actually more important than the rest. This is why successful and productive people must prioritize work according to their importance and urgency.

Checking the email first thing in the morning: You might be thinking that it is a very wise move to first check the emails to see what is new every morning, but this is not what is recommended as fresh mail tends to distract you from the original schedules.

To keep off this trap, you should stick to the schedule and put in a whole hour of solid work before checking the mail each morning.

Some people tune their email program alerts to come on every time a new mail arrives, well what you will need to succeed is to turn that alarm off because it only serves as a distraction to you. Just stick meticulously to the tasks at hand and clear them all in the fastest time possible. This is the best way to grow and improve our business.

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Broken Relation Grief - You Can Overcome The 5 Five Stages

By Louis Cruz

Broken relationship grief and emotional grief are not much different. In fact they are about the same since emotional grief also has five stages. They both consist of the loss of someone special. Losing somebody you really love is a very hard event in life. But we all must at some point in the road of life encounter this experience. So knowing the five stages and becoming familiar with the stage in which you are will let you conquer and allow you to endure this hard time.

Denial

An attitude of denial ordinarily occurs after a close loving relationship is broken. A relationship that existed for years and out of the blue is finished could be very traumatic. You might one day come out of work and expect your ex to be outside waiting for you when you then recall that you broke up and that your ex is not coming.. And possibly never coming back to pick you up or meet you at work. This may be a difficult matter to accept. So you tell yourself, "Is this really happening", or "this cannot be".

Anger

Anger is the next emotion that we experience in this second stage. All stages are important but this stage is delicate. During this stage you are at the risk of manifesting your anger in the wrong way and to the wrong people. You may get angry at God. But believe me it is not his fault. Crazy things may go through your mind. You may think of getting even with your ex boy or girlfriend or even rejecting the people who so dearly love you and try to support and comfort you in this delicate time. This is definitely a stage where you need to make an effort to think before you talk and dedicate much time to reflection.

Bargaining

This is a very crucial stage. What makes this stage difficult is that the pain is making you wish that nothing is happening and that everything will go back to the way it was before. You wish it to be normal once more. So you start bargaining with your ex making promises hoping that you may convince your ex to come back to you. You may also end up making promises to God hoping that he will assist you to get everything you want. Or perform some miracle or something like that. You get false hopes in this stage. You are still trying to hang on to fake hopes and still suffering from denial.

Depression

At this stage you are finally realizing and feeling that all is lost and that there are no possibilities of you getting back together with your ex. So you sink into the stage of depression. You cannot see a clear future. You do not know what the future will hold for you and you begin to experience sadness and emotions of bitterness and frustration. The emotions are overwhelming and cause you to feel sorry for yourself. You also feel defenseless. All these emotions are in their peak in this stage. Of all stages this is a time to look for support in the persons who love you. It may they be family or friends. It is important to not lose faith completely. If you are spiritual, look for help from heaven and use all means possible to overcome this stage of depression. Understand that as time goes by, you will overcome this stage and realize that the future is really not that dim. There are still many beautiful things in life and beautiful people to meet. This takes us to the next stage.

Acceptance

You have gone through some serious stages of grief due to a broken relationship. But now you have fortunately come to the stage of acceptance. Despite the fact that the majority of the previous feelings still exist but you are not combating a great deal against destructive thoughts and false thoughts of hope. This stage of acceptance is not a stage of resignation. Put simply, you just have not given up on life. Quite the opposite, you now accept that you will not be sharing your life with your ex and reset your mind to accept this new life and realized that there is a future without your ex. You are driven to develop your goals gradually so that you can insure a bright future. You also recognize that your broken relationship is in the past and that you must go forward.

As you go through these stages you will finally get to the phase in which you will appreciate the things you experienced through this tough time. Continue to look for support in good friends and always have someone you can talk to. Pray and meditate a lot.

Please remember that countless others are coping with your same challenge. You are not alone. You can and will make it through this broken relationship grief.

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