Death is coming

The closer death creeps up upon me the less I am able to understand the reasons for life or living.

Yes I have experienced a close family member dying and unlike television it takes decades to handle such a thing. To think I am going to put my family through such a thing when I finally leave is more horrific to me than the thought of death itself.

My life was and is still a learning experience but when all said and done what am I to do with all this accumulated learning over my lifetime if I just die. There is no logic or reason to this.

Long ago I became aware that the God story that is sold to the majority is just a nice story to give mankind with a message of a basic layout of how nice life could be if everyone followed these ideas. Not many in life do and if one thinks about it the good and evil structures actually depend on each other. The good that can be experienced in life is only understood as good when there is it's opposite to compare it to. This is not rocket science only common sense in reality. I am not saying we need to experience bad but understanding in it is needed to appreciate the great things many of us can have in our lives. From birth to death there are many ways mankind helps his fellow man. How many ways can you help?


Wednesday, September 21, 2016

Important Pointers In A Depression Hotline

By Dennis Sullivan


Some people who cannot cope up with the stress mostly feel depressed. Either they became crazy or acts hostile toward themselves and to other individuals too. Before any conflicting situations occur, its best for patients to be given enough attention they need. In such manner, its possible that they wont have to resort to harm, injuries and other suicidal acts.

Some institutions have figured out a way to handle special cases that involved attempted suicidal acts. There are professionals and certain agencies that handle depression hotline. If you are someone who has this kind of job and wishes to help people, there are things you can do in your own ways. Here are few important reminders you must keep in mind.

Be non judgmental, keep calm and sympathetic too. Once you get to know the concerns of people, your main role is to lend an ear. Dont say something bad which can cause more problems. Listen first before providing your opinions. Before you give your advice, think multiple times if its helpful or not. Ideally, being calm in handling the situation might make situations controllable.

Arguments should not be considered. If you argue to a person on the line, chances are he might do things which could risk his life. Once he shows sign of losing patience and control, do acts that will make him return to his senses. Typically, depressed individuals basically need someone who would listen to what they say. Thus, its important to be very careful on what to say.

Offer some hopes. Give assurance that help can be provided and always say positive things that could deterrent an individual to continue his suicidal attempt. Alternatively, provide good suggestions and advice that will keep him calm for a long time. Keep on talking and try not to lose signs of connection so you know what is currently going on with his situations.

Never be surprised. While there are factors that are pretty normal, some might definitely surprise you a lot. But no matter how shocked you are with what you discover, its basically important to remain calm and show no sign of surprise especially in your voice. Avoid any lectures that might only cause stress on their part. Besides, putting more fuels on fire surely cause a problem.

Take the calls seriously. Depressed patients are certainly leading a troubled life. Thus, they seek attention from other people. As a matter of fact, they might require someone who will not laugh of their misfortunes. No mater what happens, prevent yourself from laughing or even make fun of the current situation. Any attempts to suicidal is a serious matter.

Dont make promises concerning confidentiality. Contact the nearest medical agency or the families and friends of an individual before its too late. Ask for an immediate help practically when you think that his situation is now into a serious level.

Working on such hotline is such an important task. When emergency arise, take the necessary actions and measures. Never let the things to turn astray otherwise you cannot helped someone. Putting the life of a person to risk and jeopardy is not good.




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Getting Involved With Suicide Hotlines

By Donald Turner


It is important to consider volunteering in a service that helps people and fosters well being as its primary aim. Crisis intervention is often a field where this comes into play. For reasons of unique to an individual, people face areas of distress in their lives. The problematic issues may be so strong it compels one to end his life. If you feel resilient enough to be of help in these areas, perhaps you should volunteer.

The first thing to ask is if there are specific populations you are curious about. Suicide hotlines are one of many specializations in this discipline. The reasons for personal turmoil vary, they might constitute rape victims, the homeless, the ostracized, sexually abused and victims of racial discrimination. You can also come at it with pure academic interest initially. Wanting to learn more about a group, make the activity a venue to augment your knowledge.

These agencies will not directly assign you to shoulder sensitive calls. One thing to expect is a training period. This is an ideally standardized process because high quality facilitation is a benchmark for a sufficiently funded institution. When you learn, you will gradually understand what it takes to assist the distressed. You will gain expertise in building rapport, listening and giving appraisals and some ethics that are aligned with the values within your agency.

Mock calls and role playing is expected. You might take turns with a partner in given scenarios. This prepares you to respond spontaneously and appropriately when confronted with callers. Difficult situations are dramatized and you might be told to successfully resolve them. These help build confidence before doing it for real.

Basic phone etiquette is also discussed during your apprenticeship period. You will be taught the importance of confidentiality, empathy and the proper techniques for conversing with others. The more hands on you become, the more you learn to react instinctively.

During your immersion, the importance of self care is revealed as well. In fast times, people have a hectic schedule. Many employees hardly think of time for relaxation. Being stationed in a crisis center hub could take a toll in the long run. Be sure to relax and rejuvenate. Take a vacation or you might eat out with family and perform recreational activities you enjoy. Having a heavy workload will cause burnout, so also prioritize some unwinding.

Self awareness is another benefit you can reap as a volunteer. When becoming involved in psychological exercises, you often discover aspects in your personality that you have yet to reveal. You potentially discover your emotional strength and hardiness.

Flexible schedules work to your advantage. Align your itinerary with the slots that are of most convenience. If a certain portion in a day could be used sufficiently, then select those shifts.

Making a difference is the ultimate result when you give affection and care to another. Social responsibility goes hand in hand with personal achievement. Because of excellent service, you may even be granted with certain job recommendations in related fields. These are just some of the perks in volunteering.




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