Death is coming

The closer death creeps up upon me the less I am able to understand the reasons for life or living.

Yes I have experienced a close family member dying and unlike television it takes decades to handle such a thing. To think I am going to put my family through such a thing when I finally leave is more horrific to me than the thought of death itself.

My life was and is still a learning experience but when all said and done what am I to do with all this accumulated learning over my lifetime if I just die. There is no logic or reason to this.

Long ago I became aware that the God story that is sold to the majority is just a nice story to give mankind with a message of a basic layout of how nice life could be if everyone followed these ideas. Not many in life do and if one thinks about it the good and evil structures actually depend on each other. The good that can be experienced in life is only understood as good when there is it's opposite to compare it to. This is not rocket science only common sense in reality. I am not saying we need to experience bad but understanding in it is needed to appreciate the great things many of us can have in our lives. From birth to death there are many ways mankind helps his fellow man. How many ways can you help?


Tuesday, February 26, 2013

How To Comfort Bereaved Individuals

By Francine Vaughan


Death comes with harsh, agonising feelings of sadness and mourning. The truth is, family members are taken on an emotional rollercoaster ride when a beloved dies.

Individuals react differently when confronted with the death of a beloved. Some people fill their hearts with hatred and refuse to accept the painful truth of their loss. Many get lost in the memories of the past and live with regret. Some cry their hearts out in deep longing for the deceased.

Do you know someone who is going through the loss of a loved one? Do you have a buddy or a close relative who still hasn't moved on from the death of loved one? Here are pointers that help you comprehend the right ways to comfort a bereaved person:

Contact the bereaved. Formulate a wonderful, thoughtful message which effectively conveys your thoughts. Keep your message simple, sweet, thoughtful and genuine. Make sure every word counts!

Avoid offensive statements. Do not tell the bereaved that you know precisely what they are going through. This statement, despite being seemingly emphatic, may sound a bit offensive because it does not value the uniqueness of the bereaved person's grieving experience.

Extend your help and support. Be persistent and think of possible areas where you can provide assistance. At a time of loss, bereaved individuals do not have enough time to focus on their daily routine. Volunteering to work on their household chores, pet issues and childcare duties is a simple yet meaningful way to show them that you are willing to extend your support in any way possible. You may also help them make arrangements with a funeral home Singapore. Additionally, having the initiative to conduct thorough research on qualified service providers of funeral parlour Singapore can be a big help.




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