Death is coming

The closer death creeps up upon me the less I am able to understand the reasons for life or living.

Yes I have experienced a close family member dying and unlike television it takes decades to handle such a thing. To think I am going to put my family through such a thing when I finally leave is more horrific to me than the thought of death itself.

My life was and is still a learning experience but when all said and done what am I to do with all this accumulated learning over my lifetime if I just die. There is no logic or reason to this.

Long ago I became aware that the God story that is sold to the majority is just a nice story to give mankind with a message of a basic layout of how nice life could be if everyone followed these ideas. Not many in life do and if one thinks about it the good and evil structures actually depend on each other. The good that can be experienced in life is only understood as good when there is it's opposite to compare it to. This is not rocket science only common sense in reality. I am not saying we need to experience bad but understanding in it is needed to appreciate the great things many of us can have in our lives. From birth to death there are many ways mankind helps his fellow man. How many ways can you help?


Friday, February 24, 2012

Casket Decour: Make People Remember The One Who Passed Away With Smiles

By Pamela Green


If you have bought a simple casket for your loved ones and you still need to stretch your budget for other things, you may prefer to beautify the casket yourself and drop the expensive flower arrangements for it. Just a small bouquet can beautifully embellish the casket. Custom-made floral arrangements are mostly great but it doesn't mean that you have to spend a lot for these when you can make your own arrangements at affordable cost.

With the use of floral foam, florist's wire and a basket you designed with ribbons bought from a local shop, you can come up with your own floral arrangements. Your most dependable bet is to pluck those flowers that are in season from the grounds of some relatives, friends or even your own yard. Use the favorite bunch of flowers of the deceased if you know. Nonetheless, you can always prefer for silk flowers as a substitute for real ones which can be found in craft stores if selections are limited.

If you don't know how to do it, a number of flower arrangement guides can be found in craft magazines and websites which tackles all about. You would be happy to know how much you can make with what you already have available.

For some who are not fond of flowers as decoration on coffins and want to be different, they use a collection of photographs with and of the deceased or person. You can request family and friends to give photos and other memorabilia left with them and embellish the coffin with an entire picture montage which will strike the individuals close to them with fondness and grand memories.

Coupled with the pictures, you can throw in personal souvenirs or memorabilia. It could be anything from a bit of private belonging which has a very extraordinary significance or representative of the deceased. You can collect them all together at the center covering the coat at the casket.




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Designing The Programme For Your Own Funeral

By Bernard Morris


Have you ever marveled how your private funeral would look like? How do you wish people to remember you? Would you like a lot of people to visit you, or do you favour personal viewing with family and close relatives?

Death is inescapable and is a part and a reality of life. We cannot escape or cheat, and it follows that we cannot escape a funeral as well. The benefit to being mentally and proactively set up about death is that, unlike in child birth, you as the one who has passed on can set up the details you like in place during your individual funeral. You can decide now on who you desire to speak at the necrological service, and on what music you wish played in your commemoration. Remember to write this funeral programme on a journal where family members can read it and apply it at the set time.

Funeral services can be prepared in a way you have earlier determined for your loved-ones to do. But also, you can give room for spontaneity and for the earnestness of your loved-ones to present their love. Just like in the song verse, 'Think of Laura, but laugh don't cry I know she wants it that way.' A funeral service can be a time for your family and friends to demonstrate how they remember you.

To lift up your families in this grieving time, and to help them all over the practical requirements, funeral companies can arrange for the funeral services and the burial.

Although death can be bad because as human beings it is but natural for us to get so accustomed to a loved-one being around and to become so fond of him, a well-prepared funeral can somehow rest the pain. Mental readiness can make acceptance and letting go better.

If a person has experienced his life to the full, if he has made repairs with those whom he had transgressed, if he has not trampled upon anyone and takes no grudge on his heart, then he has lived a life well enough to embrace the receiving rest of dying. After all, it is the conclusion of life's many labors, and the beginning of a new journeying even for the loved-ones left behind.




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