Death is coming

The closer death creeps up upon me the less I am able to understand the reasons for life or living.

Yes I have experienced a close family member dying and unlike television it takes decades to handle such a thing. To think I am going to put my family through such a thing when I finally leave is more horrific to me than the thought of death itself.

My life was and is still a learning experience but when all said and done what am I to do with all this accumulated learning over my lifetime if I just die. There is no logic or reason to this.

Long ago I became aware that the God story that is sold to the majority is just a nice story to give mankind with a message of a basic layout of how nice life could be if everyone followed these ideas. Not many in life do and if one thinks about it the good and evil structures actually depend on each other. The good that can be experienced in life is only understood as good when there is it's opposite to compare it to. This is not rocket science only common sense in reality. I am not saying we need to experience bad but understanding in it is needed to appreciate the great things many of us can have in our lives. From birth to death there are many ways mankind helps his fellow man. How many ways can you help?


Wednesday, June 10, 2009

How to Get Back Together with Your Boyfriend - Useful Tips

By Ricardo d Argence

You have determined your boyfriend is worth getting back together with and you want you and your boyfriend to get back together. Perhaps, you are tired of feeling so lost and alone without him by your side. You miss him terribly now that he is gone.

Consider changing your approach towards him and the relationship if you want you and your boyfriend to get back together. He may have panicked if the relationship moved along to quickly and marriage was on the horizon.

It could very well be that he felt smothered and didn't have enough space or didn't feel like he was in control, of his future. It could also be that you are pressuring him too much now and all he wants is to be away from you.

Hopefully this is the case but if you push too much it very well could be. If what you want is you and your boyfriend get back together you have to be aware of this.

Your boyfriend may be like many males and thrive on being independent. They need their space from time to time. While the idea of marriage and commitment may have seemed appealing to them for a moment, reality could have set in and now they are feeling trapped. Males very often need to feel in charge. They need to feel in charge of not only themselves, but of situations.

He may have a hard time feeling in control when things get moving along in a rush. Understand that when you begin talking long-term commitment or marriage, he may not be ready and will feel sucked into the situation. If he does not feel ready for such a relationship, most likely he is not. If he is feeling pushed along that road and he is not ready yet, he will run the other way as hard as he can.

If he is not ready, he has left the relationship and you want, you and your boyfriend to get back together you have to keep it a secret from him. Do not show him that you are sensitive about the breakup or wanting to get back together. Do not try to force him down that road. Willingly walking that road together is what you want. Let him take the lead. He needs to feel as though it is his idea to choose the direction. When he is ready and he wants too, he will. You cannot fix the problem by forcing it.

You are dealing with a break up right now, since there is no direction. However, now is a good time to get back on that path? He may be free and clear of you to an extent.

If the two of you are still on a friendly basis and he wants to talk, be available. However, you should not be too available. When he calls, do not be readily available. When he wants to make plans, turn him down the first time but ask him for a rain check. You want him to pursue you, allow him to hunt.

Keep in mind that sometimes the things you want the most are those things that are the hardest to get. Let him hunt you. Men most often hunt for those things that are hardest to find. Allow him to go in for the kill and you will both be happy.

You want him to commit and if you make yourself someone worth hunting and let yourself be hunted and not necessarily caught, you may see you and your boyfriend get back together.

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