Death is coming

The closer death creeps up upon me the less I am able to understand the reasons for life or living.

Yes I have experienced a close family member dying and unlike television it takes decades to handle such a thing. To think I am going to put my family through such a thing when I finally leave is more horrific to me than the thought of death itself.

My life was and is still a learning experience but when all said and done what am I to do with all this accumulated learning over my lifetime if I just die. There is no logic or reason to this.

Long ago I became aware that the God story that is sold to the majority is just a nice story to give mankind with a message of a basic layout of how nice life could be if everyone followed these ideas. Not many in life do and if one thinks about it the good and evil structures actually depend on each other. The good that can be experienced in life is only understood as good when there is it's opposite to compare it to. This is not rocket science only common sense in reality. I am not saying we need to experience bad but understanding in it is needed to appreciate the great things many of us can have in our lives. From birth to death there are many ways mankind helps his fellow man. How many ways can you help?


Sunday, February 19, 2012

Sagittarius Woman - Gemini Man Compatibility Relationship Or Fling?

By William Hardy


Sagittarius woman and Gemini man are similar in many ways some of which include being restless by nature and having interest in various aspects of lifestyle and ways of living. There are other qualities that match such as interest in adventure, surprises, change in life & new challenges. A Gemini man tends to live their life according to the situations that arise which is not the same for a Sagittarius woman. Despite the fact that Sagittarius woman and Gemini man have many uncommon view points, they can develop compatibility because of the fact that they are adaptable and quite flexible by nature



Sagittarius woman are of outgoing nature that's also observed in Gemini man but Sagittarius woman are additional inclined to family life. The point to worry about stands out as the negative temper each have. If they control their temper then it would aid them develop better compatibility.

One good thing about both of them is that they both like talking and this top quality will assist them create far better understanding in between them. Gemini man are identified for their flirtatious nature that will be a factor to concern for your Sagittarius woman and can make her feel unsecured having a Gemini man. The other drawback of relationship among Sagittarius woman and Gemini man is that they are weak in powers of expression of their feeling and emotions which are important in any relationship and will genuinely create issues in future.

Sagittarius woman are of outgoing nature that is certainly also discovered in Gemini man but Sagittarius woman are additional inclined to family members life. The thing to worry about stands out as the bad temper both have. If they control their temper then it would support them develop much better compatibility.

One very good factor about both of them is that they each like talking and this high quality will aid them produce far better understanding between them. Gemini man are known for their flirtatious nature which will be a factor to concern to your Sagittarius woman and can make her consider unsecured with a Gemini man. The other drawback of relationship in between Sagittarius woman and Gemini man is that they're weak in powers of expression of their feeling and emotions which are crucial in any relationship and will definitely produce difficulties in future.

The Gemini man is often a gregarious human being, a excellent company, who loves parties and folks in general. His mind is in no way tired, he includes a quick understanding, he likes communicating and he includes a great sense of humour and brilliant replies. He can't stand routine, he loves freedom and exercise.

The Gemini man doesn't seem to obtain old either mentally or physically as if he have been Faust and signed a pact for eternal youth. Moreover, he usually behaves as if he lived a continuous adolescence. Once he likes a girl, he pays court to her nearly in a rudimentary way, without the need of guitar and serenades: "Do you want to? Ok!" or "You don't want to?! It's your loss". It couldn't be easier and far more boy-like than that. The significant for your Gemini man is to preserve away from passion and emotional involvement.

The Gemini man is somewhat terrified at emotional necessities. He may be the cerebral type and sexuality doesn't play an significant role in his life, whilst he has what psychologists call "apperception", that ways he knows how to determine reactions, making his partner heading into ecstasies.

The Gemini man is exasperating, yet charming. He is neither jealous nor possessive and he finds it monstrous to want to hold a woman just for you. He does not refrain from any affair, but as soon as he goes "hunting", he isn't driven by sexual instincts, but by his eternal desire for something new.




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How I Dealt With the Worst Grief of My Life

By Jimmie Burroughs


Authored by Jimmie Burroughs

I have dealt with grief many times in my life, but the toughest grief I've ever had to handle was the lost of by other half who was also my absolute best buddy. Not only did I have to lose her to death, but I also had to see her suffer the discomfort and suffering of cancer and die a slow and painful death. All of us must experience grief at some particular point in our life. I want to help you if you are experiencing grief now, or when you do at some future time, by sharing how I dealt with the greatest grief of my life, and what I did that helped me the most.

Grief is the physical, emotional and mental conditions experienced by a loss of somebody close. It's the body's natural ability of healing our emotional injury. Grieving can be very tough if there is a absence of understanding. Normally it is experienced in 3 distinct phases which lead up to a final acknowledgment and capability to continue on with life:

1. The first phase is Shock or a denial of what's happened. This will last only a little while or can be increased almost indefinitely. The sooner one can get to grips with the reality of it, the better.

2. The second phase is The Expression of Grief which can take many various approaches such as outrage, depression or an over whelming feeling of loss. This can last for several days, or for some even several years. I have known some who were never ready to get past this phase.

3. The third and final phase is Approval. The purpose of grief is to move a person continuously along thru all three phases until eventually they reach the point of acknowledgment. At this point they're now ready to resume their life, or seek an exciting new direction for their life.

Understanding grief and knowing how to Deal with it is important. It is not that uncommon for someone to mourn themselves to death. Sometimes when somebody loses a loved one, they also die within a few months because of the stress it brings to their body. Although grief is a therapeutic process in itself, if it is not understood, and if care isn't brought to let it do its natural work, then the end results can be devastating. The objective is to handle grief in a way as to bring healing in a reasonable period.

Different ways of responding to grief

Grief is an ordinary and natural reply to any type of loss, particularly to the death of a buddy or loved one. People make a response to loss in a variety of ways. Many ways are healthy and others are not quite so healthy. Grief, itself, is a coping mechanism, but it is easy to obstruct the grieving process by not understanding it and without knowing how to work through it. Grieving is not a matter of just forgetting, nor is it a technique that must continue for ever and ever.

There are many emotions that different folk feel at the loss of a friend. I had just a few, but each person will have a different experience; some will experience few emotions while some of the others may experience many. The right way is to let emotions run their course. Here is basically what I experienced when I lost my other half to cancer:

- An occasional Bout of crying
- A unhappiness in my heart
- A feeling or sensing the loved one's presence
- An occasional need to inform and retell stories about my loved one and the death experience
- An occasional sense of restlessness

There are numerous other feelings that you may experience and that's quiet alright; everyone experience grief differently.

Things I have done to help deal with my grief

1. I attempted to give myself a satisfactory period of time to work through the grief process before going on to make serious decisions or changes in my life. The time factor is different for every person; some are able to get through it in a few months and others take longer. Generally I believe that I was at the point of approval and ready to move on with my life in a year. I do not mean to claim it was totally pass in a year although it was satisfactory. I'm really not sure someone ever gets completely past it. I can't say I have yet and it is just about seven years since my better half died.

2. After you have worked through the initial grief, it might be good to restructure your life, or to better outline who you are now. Death of a close loved one, like a spouse, has the tendency to change. Our perspective of ourselves as well as life. This was true for me and I found that I was prepared to make some significant changes in my way of life. It took just about a year to work it out, but once I did it opened up a totally new life which has brought much satisfaction.

3. I let go of objects that caused me to think of my loss. I felt a need to give away the majority of my wife's personal belongings. I kept some of her jewellery but plan to give everything away over time.

You may wish to keep a few mementoes. For me , however , I feel I am going to need to let these things go little by little. I feel by doing this I shall also be letting my spouse go, and letting the grief evaporate more. I know my wife wouldn't have wanted me to waste my life pining away for her. She'd have wanted me to carry on with my life at the earliest opportunity.

4. I discovered that writing about my experiences in my blog helped me to see through the bad and see the good. If you don't have a blog, utilise a gratitude journal; it'll do amazing things in helping to triumph over a broken heart. There is a lot of misery and agony in life there is however also such a lot to live for that over shadows the negative.

5. I started a new hobby. I started to learn how to play the guitar and sing country and gospel songs. It has added hours of pleasure to my life. I am taking time each day to practice the new songs I've been taught and it also gives me a challenge and is a great source of exercise for my brain. It's been a source of healing for me.

6. I joined a support group with those that also were experiencing grief. Customarily the bigger churches have a continuing support group. I joined one in my church which was particularly useful to find out how others were handling their grief.

7. I accepted the help and support of others. I had a brother-in-law who helped me a lot by keeping in touch with me in the difficult times. There are those who love you that are worried about you and they would like to help you. Let them regardless of whether it does not turn out help you that much, they need to know they are attempting to help.

8 .I've a relationship with The Lord God . Of everything that have helped me, my relationship with The Lord God has been the most beneficial. God guarantees his grace to help us in all types of negative experiences that we go through in life. That includes the death of loved ones and even the time when we must face our own death.

9. I never used medicine during my grief and would never consider turning to drink and drugs. Drugs and alcohol only suppress grief; they keep the method from moving forward so that a person becomes frozen in the state of grief and aren't able to let it do its healing power.

10. I changed into a volunteer to help others. This is another thing that helped me tremendously. I joined a body that did volunteer construction and maintenance for establishments and individuals that would not afford to hire it done. It required me to go in my motor home to the locations and spend a few months there. This won't be OK for most, but there also are masses of opportunities for volunteer work in your own city or city.

Factors that obstruct the recovery process

Never avoid or minimise your feelings. They're there for the purpose of helping you work thru your grief; let them do their job without resistance.

- Do not use alcohol or drugs to self-medicate or prescribed pharmaceuticals either if you can avoid it.They only delay the process of healing and never help move it forward.
- Don't avoid your affections by using work, school or socializing as a distraction. Facing up to our feelings permits us to handle them and to get them behind us rather than having them hanging around in the backdrop to always be taunting us

Conclusion

I realize that each one of us are dissimilar and have different wants and to generalize the grief process is not going to satisfy all needs for everybody, but I do accept that a general experience of how it functions is beneficial for all. I'm hoping that this post has been a help to you as you go through grief or the time in your future when it comes. If it has been a help, please share it with another person. If you're experiencing difficulty or you feel that you can not handle your grief, don't be afraid to get professional help.

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