Death is coming

The closer death creeps up upon me the less I am able to understand the reasons for life or living.

Yes I have experienced a close family member dying and unlike television it takes decades to handle such a thing. To think I am going to put my family through such a thing when I finally leave is more horrific to me than the thought of death itself.

My life was and is still a learning experience but when all said and done what am I to do with all this accumulated learning over my lifetime if I just die. There is no logic or reason to this.

Long ago I became aware that the God story that is sold to the majority is just a nice story to give mankind with a message of a basic layout of how nice life could be if everyone followed these ideas. Not many in life do and if one thinks about it the good and evil structures actually depend on each other. The good that can be experienced in life is only understood as good when there is it's opposite to compare it to. This is not rocket science only common sense in reality. I am not saying we need to experience bad but understanding in it is needed to appreciate the great things many of us can have in our lives. From birth to death there are many ways mankind helps his fellow man. How many ways can you help?


Saturday, April 6, 2013

How to Quit Porn Addiction

By Harold C. Rehm


A lot of people are starting to look for a way to learn how to quit porn addiction and here's why. Although most think that porn is simply a harmless pastime that cannot affect you in any way, others can see the harmful effects it is creating. By reading the following, we will go through all the key elements on how porn can become an addiction, what are the effects of it and how you can quit your porn addiction once and for all.[]

Porn addiction wasn't such a big problem until the internet came to place and skyrocketed pornography exposure and its accessibility. Now with over millions of websites available at your finger tips, it is becoming much easier to browse porn and for some, it's becoming a growing concern and more people are looking for ways to quit this addiction.For most, it start at an early age. 11 years old is usually the age for the average male being exposed for the first time to pornography. This rapidly becomes a habit for many and some don't feel the need to quit. As it starts to become more and more of a routine thing, they grow tired of the usual soft/mild porn and start to look into more explicit material.

Spend 5 Minutes Each Day Thinking About What Will Happen If You Don't.By doing this, you'll start to associate NEGATIVE outcomes and PAIN to the idea of continuing to watch a lot of porn.The negative outcome/pain association is the most important part of breaking a bad habit, in this case, the bad habit being -- watching too much porn.Decide What You Really Want.You better get clear about his, otherwise you'll never succeed.Do you want to quit watching porn forever?Or do you just want to stop watching as much porn as you do right now? Only you can decide, but decide you must.Stop Watching It!

For people wanting to quit porn addiction, they probably already tried but didn't succeed and here's why; most think they can simply do it by avoidance and willpower. Unfortunately it takes a lot more than that to quit porn addiction. It is something that needs to be treated to quit just like other addictions such as cigarettes, drinking problems etc.There is a lot of ways a person can find treatment to quit porn addiction. The best way of doing it however is by getting a good guide online. The reason for this is because most local services tend to be from religious centers which may not be the most preferred methods for many. Also, you cannot do it without showing your identity which is the major drawback for many.

As such, finding the proper guide online on how to quit porn addiction is a better choice for anyone. You can learn how to do so and still remain completely anonymous and not let anyone know that you had this kind of trouble. There aren't too many guides out their because this problem is something most people often overlook and don't think there is any such guide that can help them quit. However, there are still some very good ones around that will help you overcome you addiction.

If you've wondered how to stop porn addiction, then I'm sure it is because something isn't going very well. Most people who are trying to stop their porn addiction are starting to see that using porn has a very bad effect on a person. As such, there are things you can do about it and by reading the following, you will have a clearer understanding of porn addiction and how to stop it once and for all.Now there are many negative effects associated to this type of addiction such as committing shameful acts like masturbation, the use of sex toys, prostitutes, stripper etc. It can also cause mental problems like lowering ones self-esteem, desensitization and giving the wrong perception of reality and how things really are. This is a serious matter indeed and anyone who is thinking on learning how to stop porn addiction shouldn't wait any longer.

Most people that try to stop pornography addiction always go through the same phases and if you tried to stop in the past but failed, here's why. The most common cycle most people go through when trying to quit is first, by completely stopping and never go back, just like smoking. They will try to resist the temptations and avoid pornography as much as they can. As the time passes by, they start to feel the overwhelming temptation to watch porn and it comes to a point where they can no longer do anything without thinking about it. Finally, they simply give up and once they've committed the act, they feel ashamed and regret doing so but say to themselves that they'll do better next time. If you see yourself doing this, you need help.

You have to understand leaving it isn't that simple. Just like other additions, it needs treatment. Now there are many ways you can learn how to stop porn addiction whether it be by joining a local services or club or simply finding a good guide online. The most preferred method is usually by getting it online because you can remain anonymous and still learn how to stop porn addiction.Is willpower enough to be able to leave porn addiction behind for good? I will not say that willpower is not something that couldn't help you quit your sexual addiction, whether it's watching porn on the internet, masturbating or cruising to find prostitutes, however, it's a fact that willpower alone won't work for most people.

So work out what the various triggers are that cause you to go to sites that ask you to confirm that you're over 18 and start working on doing something else when the triggers try to kick in.You won't necessarily succeed every time but so long as you can gradually reduce your cravings to view naked people engaging with each other in ways even the Kama Sutra hadn't envisaged then you're on the right track.Find something else to occupy yourself.Ideally, something away from a computer screen. That would definitely be the ideal solution. But I know we're in the real world and computers - or phones with a computer connection - are never very far away, even in the remotest areas.

It is essential that you learn who you truly are and love yourself from the inside. You might be surprise by such statement and think that you do, but you need to know that the fact that you are addicted to porn is proof enough that you have a self-esteem issue that needs to be re-established or even established in your mind for the first time.If your suffer from sexual addiction, you most likely have a problem to connect in a healthy and meaningful way with others, and learning how to do so is a great step towards leaving porn addiction behind. From there, you will finally be able to learn what true relationships and true intimacy is all about. However, all those important steps must be learned and followed in order to work.It is like a rehabilitation of the brain which controls all those behaviors, the good ones as well as the bad ones. With the right help you can rehabilitate your brain, and leave porn addiction behind once and for all. You can win this fight; it's not impossible. Others have succeeded and quite devastating sexual behaviors, but remember, your willpower alone might not be able to do the job on its own. A change in your brain connections will.




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Help for Depression - Intuitive Counselling Sessions

By Victor J. Hogan


What? Men don't get depressed? Of course we do, but we tend to hide it well.men tend to deal with depression differently than women and may show different signs that they are depressed. depression is often a hidden problem with men, since many men tend to suffer in silence, rather than talking about their feelings.and that can lead to relationship problems.historically, depression has been thought of as mostly a problem for women, but now we know that depression is a problem for men, too. depression in men may go undetected. in fact, men may not realize they are depressed, although they may recognize they are feeling stressed. And their health care providers often miss the telltale signs.

Depression is a normal part of life. Yet, if it goes unresolved, it can have a disastrous affect on personal functioning, relationships and careers. It can result in temporary personality changes, uncharacteristic bouts of anger and moodiness, create communication problems, spur conflict, and lead to relationship problems or marital distress. Thus, depression is a condition that must be recognized and treated for men to function on their highest level.What Are The Signs? Men who are depressed may suddenly become irritable and quick to anger. Non-aggressive men may become more aggressive and hostile.Some may abuse alcohol or drugs, or turn to food for comfort, although some may eat less. It really depends on the person and his circumstances.Some men may over-exercise, while others may stop.

Moving on when you have depression or anxiety isn't so simple though, there has to be a great effort put forward to overcome this condition. Experts say that loneliness is a natural part of every day life, but for people with this condition that affects of this emotion can be detrimental. It is important to be aware what is going on with both your physical and mental health, you have no reason to feel ashamed about taking care of yourself. My advice is to explore books on depression and figure out what book will benefit you.

Symptoms of Depression.There are different signs and symptoms, and they may vary from one person to another. They include: Sadness,Frustration over trivial matters,Lack of interest in normal activities,Excessive sleeping or loss of sleep,A reduced sex drive,Drastic appetite change,Indecisiveness,Fatigue,Crying spells,Unexplained physical problems,Distractibility,Guilt,Thoughts of death.How Can Intuitive Counselling Help? Depression symptoms, unlike other diseases, do not get better over time. Your symptoms may worsen if left untreated. It may be difficult to seek treatment, but there are effective options that can help, like intuitive counselling.An intuitive counsellor will help you come to terms with your problems and understand yourself more. He or she will do this by helping you "listen" to your body, mind, emotion, and spirit. Working with these aspects will allow you to understand what is happening, what is causing the problem, and how to get rid of it.Working with a skilled intuitive counselling practitioner will help you alleviate depression symptoms and gradually bring your energy and positive outlook back.

Second, if you know someone the depressed man knows and respects, such as his father, pastor or best friend, suggest that he talk to that person. Or, you may enlist the help of a family member or close friend who has his ear.Third, try to get him to see his doctor (or yours), and encourage him to talk to his doctor about his depressed feelings (maybe he needs to go for other reasons, too). The physician can make a referral for counseling or prescribe helpful anti-depressant medication, if needed.

This is partly due to hormonal factors, especially when having premenstrual syndrome, postpartum depression, premenstrual dysphoric disorder, and perimenopausal depression. It is a serious matter and should not be taken for granted. A depressed woman will have disrupted daily activities and relationships with others, and these could be detrimental for her health. A depressed woman would show several symptoms including:

Consider the impact depression can have on relationships, especially intimate ones. A man's marriage can suffer because of his depression, and he may not realize what's wrong. His wife will feel the impact, as well; so, his biggest support system may be compromised, which only compounds the problem.Counseling.If you are in an intimate relationship with a depressed partner, it is often best to seek counseling. It is much easier and more effective to sit down with a trained relationship professional to discuss your relationship problems.

Counseling is one of the best ways to face and deal with depression. It can be just as effective as medication, if not more so. The combination of the two can be even more effective.Sometimes depression can become quite serious and lead to other mental health issues. It is best to take it seriously.Depression and Your Relationship.Without a doubt, the depression of one spouse can injure the other. And it can have a derogatory impact upon the relationship in general, giving both partners a sense of despair, and causing them to view the relationship in pessimistic terms.

Encourage her to go to a professional. Explain to her that you are noticing several attitude changes that may indicate something. You must remember, however, that in doing this, do not be pushy and demanding. Being harsh on her will only make matters worse.Next, be informed about what depression is and be patient. You'll know that depression will make a woman act a lot different from her usual self, and it is not because she wants to. You have to understand that.do not give up on her. Even if a depressed woman would seem to not acknowledge or appreciate all your assistance and understanding, these will help her unconsciously. When you give up, this means that her social support system will slowly disintegrate.

Never isolate yourself. Isolation will not help your depression. You need to be in contact with people you trust while you are going through treatment. This will greatly enhance your chances to overcome depression.Other aspects that are vital to remember include the following:You need a balanced diet. There is a very definitive connection between depression and eating habits. The healthier you eat the cleaner your body will be and the better you will feel. This is a decision you will have to make. It takes discipline and rewards of this discipline will come back to you in multiples.If you are sleep deprived you will struggle to overcome depression symptoms. A good nights sleep goes a long way. Make sure you have a mattress that sleeps well. If you think about it, you spend a third of your life in bed (8 hours of sleep per 24 hour cycle).If you do not exercise, your body cannot produce endorphins. These endorphins help a lot to overcome depression. These 3 points mentioned here are also excellent self help for depression tips.There is a way out and you can be cured. Just make a decision that you will get out of this depression rut and it will be so.




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