Death is coming

The closer death creeps up upon me the less I am able to understand the reasons for life or living.

Yes I have experienced a close family member dying and unlike television it takes decades to handle such a thing. To think I am going to put my family through such a thing when I finally leave is more horrific to me than the thought of death itself.

My life was and is still a learning experience but when all said and done what am I to do with all this accumulated learning over my lifetime if I just die. There is no logic or reason to this.

Long ago I became aware that the God story that is sold to the majority is just a nice story to give mankind with a message of a basic layout of how nice life could be if everyone followed these ideas. Not many in life do and if one thinks about it the good and evil structures actually depend on each other. The good that can be experienced in life is only understood as good when there is it's opposite to compare it to. This is not rocket science only common sense in reality. I am not saying we need to experience bad but understanding in it is needed to appreciate the great things many of us can have in our lives. From birth to death there are many ways mankind helps his fellow man. How many ways can you help?


Wednesday, April 17, 2013

Tips On How To Support Grieving Friends

By Helen Clark


Even with the awareness that losing a loved is an experience no one is spared from, people are never prepared for this incident. Oftentimes, those left behind go through a difficult and stressful time. Suffice it to say, anyone dealing with the death of a loved one needs help, whether he/she verbalises it or not. If you have friends facing this predicament, read on to know some simple things you can do to help them cope with their loss.

Give them the emotional support they need. Lend them an ear and allow them to freely talk about their feelings. Worry not about what advice to give; it's more than enough that you're there to listen to them. Remember, your duty is not to fix things but to let them feel that they are not alone in this very challenging time.

Assist in the funeral preparations. There are several things that concerned friends like you can do to make this endeavour easier for bereaved individuals. You can help search for the best funeral service provider or crematorium Singapore has or organise the internment. You can likewise volunteer to liaise, on behalf of the departed individual's family, with the chosen funeral parlour Singapore. As putting together a funeral is unquestionably very taxing for grieving individuals, helping out with this task is really going to reduce their worries and difficulties.

Extend help even after the funeral. A lot of people presume that things get better for grieving individuals after the funeral, but this is rarely the case. Loved ones of the departed individual have a tough time going back to their day-to-day routine. So, make sure you offer your help in this aspect. Start by thinking of a task you can carry out for them on a regular basis (doing the grocery, dropping off the kids to school, taking care of house chores, etc.).

Stay in touch with them. Overcoming the loss of a loved one is a process that doesn't happen overnight. This is why, even months or a year after the internment, calling or visiting bereaved individuals is highly recommended. Invite them out to dinner or other relaxing activities. Introducing them to new things is also a good idea.




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