Death is coming

The closer death creeps up upon me the less I am able to understand the reasons for life or living.

Yes I have experienced a close family member dying and unlike television it takes decades to handle such a thing. To think I am going to put my family through such a thing when I finally leave is more horrific to me than the thought of death itself.

My life was and is still a learning experience but when all said and done what am I to do with all this accumulated learning over my lifetime if I just die. There is no logic or reason to this.

Long ago I became aware that the God story that is sold to the majority is just a nice story to give mankind with a message of a basic layout of how nice life could be if everyone followed these ideas. Not many in life do and if one thinks about it the good and evil structures actually depend on each other. The good that can be experienced in life is only understood as good when there is it's opposite to compare it to. This is not rocket science only common sense in reality. I am not saying we need to experience bad but understanding in it is needed to appreciate the great things many of us can have in our lives. From birth to death there are many ways mankind helps his fellow man. How many ways can you help?


Friday, April 19, 2013

Death As Innate Part Of Life

By Kenneth Braddy


As we live, we cultivate death. Death is the inevitable end that every individual is destined to experience. As per the well-known Japanese novelist, Haruki Murakami, death is not the reverse of life but an innate part of it. It's a truth that we can't change. So when we go through a death of relative, companion, family member, colleague or a loved one it creates a hurting bearing in our lives. The type of pain and sorrow that is too deep, neither kindness nor substance can cure. Nonetheless, we do not have an option but to go through the course and realise something from it. Bereavement is a natural process that allows us to contemplate and finally be at peace enough to go on.

A Swiss American psychiatrist, Elisabeth Kubler-Ross started several researches about near death experiences, death and dying and she came up with the renowned "Five Stages of Grief". She defined that there are 5 basic stages of grief then again, a person who is grieving does not necessarily go through all the phases nor in precise order.

The acronym of the five stages of grieving is DABDA. Letter D is for denial. At this stage, denial is the temporary defence mechanism which is either conscious or unconscious. Letter A is for anger. At this phase, the person experiences a strong emotion of rage and it's oftentimes usual to blame oneself to let go tension from the event. Letter B is for bargaining. At this phase, the person is experiencing strong emotions of hope that it's possible to bargain or postpone the recent loss, disease or death. Letter D is for depression. At this phase, the person experiences sorrow, doubts and dread. The last letter A is for acceptance. At this point, the person little by little accepts the death and begins to move on.

As human beings, we have high regards our loved-ones, in connection to that, we execute a funeral home Singapore ceremony to remember the life of the individual who departed. Funeral home in Singapore supplies a complete coverage and concern concerning the culture, beliefs, practices and religious conviction of the departed. In fact, funeral home Singapore like Mount Vernon Singapore regards the religion of dead people by offering customs and belief sensitive rites like Buddhist, Taoist, Christian or Catholic funeral rites services.

Without question, losing a cherished one is among the most stressful events a person can experience. It's emotionally, physically, spiritually and psychologically overwhelming not to mention that while going through this overwhelming course you are expected to prepare for the departed funeral ceremonies.




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