Death is coming

The closer death creeps up upon me the less I am able to understand the reasons for life or living.

Yes I have experienced a close family member dying and unlike television it takes decades to handle such a thing. To think I am going to put my family through such a thing when I finally leave is more horrific to me than the thought of death itself.

My life was and is still a learning experience but when all said and done what am I to do with all this accumulated learning over my lifetime if I just die. There is no logic or reason to this.

Long ago I became aware that the God story that is sold to the majority is just a nice story to give mankind with a message of a basic layout of how nice life could be if everyone followed these ideas. Not many in life do and if one thinks about it the good and evil structures actually depend on each other. The good that can be experienced in life is only understood as good when there is it's opposite to compare it to. This is not rocket science only common sense in reality. I am not saying we need to experience bad but understanding in it is needed to appreciate the great things many of us can have in our lives. From birth to death there are many ways mankind helps his fellow man. How many ways can you help?


Saturday, May 12, 2012

Ways To Be Supportive During A Death In The Family

By Roy Schutjer


Death is never a good thing. Having to cope with death can be a tough time in someones life. Even if you are not directly affected it can be devastating for family members.

When death occurs it is painful to deal with. This is more so when loved ones are so aggrieved that they cannot be consoled. Finding a way to calm them can be difficult.

Whenever a loved one is grieving, try as much as possible to be around for him. Try and let the person know that you are there for them and they can call on you always. Don't try and be like most people by avoiding this situation because it makes you feel uncomfortable.

Knowing that your presence alone is required to bring calm and warmth is good. Don't try and send cards or flowers as physical presence is what is needed. Always know that whatever the case it will be uncomfortable in your family whenever there is death.

To some flowers are flowers, but individual flowers are good for each occasion. Picking a wrong one can be disrespectful and a disgrace. This therefore requires careful planning and care whenever you want to pick an arrangement for the funeral. Always select a color that will best fit the character of the dead when he was alive.

If the deceased was vibrant then consider pink lilies or daisies. In life in they were calm and collected then try white roses. Take as much time as is necessary to buy the best item don't be rush and buy the first thing you see.

When you are grieving know that time heals all wounds and that though it is hard and painful today within time you will be alright.

Be sure to be there for someone when they are within this period as your support might make the difference.




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