How You to Get Some Space in Your Relationship

By Ricardo d Argence

We've all heard the phrase, "I need some space," but how much do you need, really, in a relationship? That really depends on the people in the relationship. Some people like to be together all the time, and some people like to spend time apart.

It can be difficult to find a good compromise that both people are happy with. This can be difficult if you each have very different feelings about just what is good about "togetherness" or "solitude." The key to finding a solution is to compromise on what each of you needs in a relationship in this regard, which will help you work through the challenge.

People's "space" needs differ. Some people don't like to be alone at all, and would rather spend all of their time around people -- family, friends, coworkers, their significant others. When they are alone, they feel a little lonely, a little lost.

Other people cherish their alone time. Without a little solitude every day they feel burdened and have a hard time relaxing. They feel that they always have to be �up� or �on� for other people when they�re around them, and it can be exhausting.

Of course, these are the two extremes when it comes to solitude versus "togetherness," but there are still other people who strike a balance between the two somewhere. They love to spend time together with partners, and they also want some time completely alone.

If both of you fall into that happy medium, then defining your space in a relationship should be pretty easy. And if you each fall into the same extreme group, where you both need lots of space or you both dislike being alone, things are made easier, too.

It can be a problem, though, if each of you has very different needs in that area. If you like your solitude and your partner doesn't want to be alone, you'll need to set some boundaries so that each of you gets at least some of what you want. Each of you will need to understand the other's point of view, and you'll need to compromise so that both of you feel your needs are being met as much as possible.

For example, let's say you need some time alone each day for at least a little while and your partner wants company around the clock. It can be a problem if you simply walk off to be on your own without making sure your partner knows this, and if you don't, he or she may feel neglected or that you don't want to be around him or her.

And if you hate being alone and your partner really wants some me-time, then by hanging around constantly you can start to make your partner feel smothered. Your partner might also think that there�s no trust there, and you won�t give him or her private time because you�re afraid of what he or she might do when you�re not around.

You can see that each of these situations could cause significant problems in a relationship. However, if you talk to each other with honesty and openness about how you feel, you should be able to have your solitude with your partners understanding.

And if your partner is someone who would rather hang around all the time when you'd rather be alone, simply realize that he or she doesn't need the kind of space you do in a relationship.

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So there you have it. Some useful steps to get your ex back. Recapture the magic of that moments with the one you love.

Why A Personal Trainers Philosophy Matters to YOU

By Josef Brandenburg

Considering hiring a personal trainer? Before you sign on the dotted line, consider his or her personal trainers philosophy to see if he or she is even a good potential match for you. If the personal trainer you're considering has a website or a brochure, look specifically for their personal trainers philosophy in their documentation. And if you don't find it, ask! Insist on seeing it as the first step in the pre-qualifying process.

Hanging out a sign and calling themselves a personal trainer, does not make them a personal trainer. You need to find out their qualifications. You need to have some proof that they are in fact more knowledgeable than you about the body and its development. You need to be sure that that person is certified and qualified to coach and train you. Most importantly, you need to find out if their personality and ideas for your health the same as yours.

Working out with a personal trainer can often be compared to working with a therapist because you may find yourself confessing embarrassing secrets that you wouldn't want anyone knowing such as stressing over fitting into a certain dress size before your high school reunion or indulging in an entire box of donuts in one sitting. The difference here is that your personal trainer is active unlike a passive therapist who will just sit there and nod in agreement! A personal trainer will do far more to help you. They will push you on and work you, stretching, pulling, exercising and advising, so they can help solve your weight issues. If you do not make the right decision, you could be putting your health at risk. That is the importance of knowing your trainer's philosophy before you begin working with them.

Knowing your personal trainers background and philosophy will give you vital tips to whether they are right for you. Ask them about their approach. Ask them where they were taught physical anatomy, nutrition, exercise and that is just a few of the questions you should get answers too. A certification from a vitamin supply company just isn't the same as someone who was pre-med in college before becoming a personal trainer. Learn what you can about how long they have be in the business of personal training, find out what is included in the program and ask for references of past and present clients.

Find out if, research is the basis for their workout programs or if they just try it and see if it works. Don't be part of a trial and error learning system. Check their record of accomplishment and see if it is just a generic regimen they use for every client or if you will get a regimen aimed specifically for your body. It is important to find out if they have a system in place or if they just make it all up as they go along.

A good way to see if your personal trainer is dedicated to helping you, is to ask them to see a copy of their philosophy and if they don't have it in writing, then they don't have one at all. It is very unlikely that that personal trainer will help you get the body you want.

Writing out a personal trainers philosophy not only shows you that your trainer is dedicated but organized and they take their job as a personal trainer seriously. They should keep track of their clients weight loss achievements and goals. This is the only way to prove and make sure that their methods are indeed effective and lead their clients to successful results. Consistent results should be on the top of the list when you choose a personal trainer.

A personal trainer is supposed to be someone that will work with you to meet your weight loss goals. If a personal trainer is not going to put in the time and effort to write out his personal philosophy on training than I cannot see how the same person would put their time and effort into helping you.

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Josef Brandenburg is Washington, DCs top personal trainer for people on the go and has written the book - The Body You Want. To read his personal training philosophy visit the link.