Death is coming

The closer death creeps up upon me the less I am able to understand the reasons for life or living.

Yes I have experienced a close family member dying and unlike television it takes decades to handle such a thing. To think I am going to put my family through such a thing when I finally leave is more horrific to me than the thought of death itself.

My life was and is still a learning experience but when all said and done what am I to do with all this accumulated learning over my lifetime if I just die. There is no logic or reason to this.

Long ago I became aware that the God story that is sold to the majority is just a nice story to give mankind with a message of a basic layout of how nice life could be if everyone followed these ideas. Not many in life do and if one thinks about it the good and evil structures actually depend on each other. The good that can be experienced in life is only understood as good when there is it's opposite to compare it to. This is not rocket science only common sense in reality. I am not saying we need to experience bad but understanding in it is needed to appreciate the great things many of us can have in our lives. From birth to death there are many ways mankind helps his fellow man. How many ways can you help?


Thursday, November 10, 2011

Women and Spirituality

By Adam J Bradley


We don't often think about how we mix business and spirituality, mostly because the two don't seem to share any common bonds. Business is about driving revenue, boosting sales, and making money. Spirituality is about finding a moral center, a place in this world, and what we can do to elevate our own sense of inner peace. Yet it is important, especially within our modern fast-paced culture, to find a balance between business and spirituality.

This is not particularly surprising, since therapy and counseling tend to be concerned with the individual, while spiritual practices are concerned with higher matters. But it does lead the novices and beginners into a quandary where they are faced with the decision of what to do about personality. On the one hand, therapy could be an expensive, futile effort to better the personality, whereas, on the other hand, spiritual practice may offer an excuse to leave personal problems behind, with the justification that you are moving on to more lofty concerns.

Counselors could help clients consider how transition in one area of life may need a change in values and spirituality. Long-term therapy is complete for women when they can integrate a belief system based on their own individual understanding. In addition, women with eating disorders usually struggle with spiritual conflicts that can impede their recovery and healing. Research demonstrates that spirituality positively impact psychological and physiological outcomes. Yet, spirituality may also increase the impact of stressors. Increases in spirituality are positively related to PMS and stress endorsement. Spirituality serves as a partial mediator between stress and PMS. Strikingly, women with the highest levels of spiritual, existential and religious well-being have the highest levels of stress and the most severe premenstrual symptoms. One plausible explanation for these results is that women of faith are taught that God will tell them monthly that they can bear a child. As a person with a high powered and time demanding career engages in self-care behaviors to manage stress, then so too should women of faith. Studies suggest that women associate their faith with these psycho-physiological aspects of self in a way that faith or spiritual well-being calls a person of faith to greater self-care.

Spiritual exploration often occurs after the loss of a significant other or with the imminent death of oneself. Many women across cultures want to understand their place in the order of things, but not through organized religion. Most women share the following: a need to feel connected, spiritual questioning, existential anguish, thoughts about death, and reliance on organized religion. Research suggests that spiritual questioning, outside of organized religion, significant loss, or imminent death, is a natural aspect of aging. Women undertake spiritual exploration extensively. Women also have a profound need to feel connected with something greater than them. Women are generally more inter-relational. This connection need includes recognizing and communicating with something outside or beyond the self, connecting with unity, and finding meaning on earth. In other words, an important component of spiritual exploration is the understanding of the connection within, with others, and with something beyond the self. A sense of connection provides order, stability, and meaning in a stressful, challenging, conflicting, and possibly isolating life. However, a sense of connection does not necessarily provide answers to spiritual questions, nor does it always alleviate existential angst. Most women become spiritually ready and experience an awakening to look beyond the mundane to grasp the bigger picture of which they are a part. Women who rely on organized religion for spiritual guidance are, for the most part, African American, Latina, and lower class. There is a need to differentiate spirituality from religion theoretically and practically. There are women who are profoundly spiritual and eschew connections with formalized religion. Most aging baby boomers claim to be non-religious and spiritual. The Black church has been of secular and spiritual sustenance for Blacks since slavery. This is a longstanding tradition. It provides structure and meaning in lives that are marginalized by other institutions in the US society. Similarly, the century-old Catholic Church's presence in Latin America creates unconditional loyalty among Hispanic people. Spiritual questioning suggests a level of educational attainment. Many of the women who conduct spiritual quests are from middle and upper class. Christianity may not be the predominant religious influence in a multicultural society, the 2000 Census says. The women who focused on non-western and non-Christian practices speak of the interconnectedness of all living beings, the need for balance, and communion with nature. People know far more about the religious practices of church goers than they do about alternative practices. Some women allow time for reflection without an indelible crisis, impending death, or significant psychological imbalance, but as part of aging. They have the opportunity to ponder fundamental questions of existence that are thrust upon other people at less opportune times. Aging may prompt a search for meaning and a need for connection because death is closer than at earlier times in the life span. Women outlive men and often face old age alone. As life winds down, some women may embark on existential quests that reflect basic core values or new directions in their lives. There are countless ways older women cope with the unknowable. The relationship between spirituality and death fear, across race, class, and culture are normal in aging. Women's spiritual exploration and identity development requires a spiritually focused intervention or approach. There are benefits of groups for women and for mixed genders. The interest expressed in the women and spirituality groups on some university campuses and the positive outcomes of spiritual interventions suggest that a group focusing on spiritual exploration and identity development within the setting of a college counseling center may serve a need not being currently addressed by other services on college campuses.

Modern women in the US have high spiritual needs that are not met by mainstream religious traditions. Therefore, women are seeking elsewhere the spiritual truths that seem to be missing. Many women still practice the religion that they were raised in. Feeling disconnected from the familiar traditional spiritualists, however, they supplement them with spiritual practices from other faiths or spiritual gurus. This phenomenon could reflect a deepening of fundamental values rather than a rejection of traditional belief systems. Many ministers and theologians are surprised at the perceived inadequacy of mainline religions. Assuming that a male God is essentially neutral, many men are unaware of male religious power and how that power is held over and against women, denying them the right to preach or similar activities. It is difficult for many women to ground their beings in a male God that men have created in their own image. Most churchgoers are women, yet in most traditions the male hierarchy remains firmly in place at the top. This is especially the case when men are in the home and are spiritually/religiously connected. The Catholic Church that today advocates for preferential treatment of the poor still refers to its cardinals as the princes of the church. Moreover, in 2008, the pope set up a commission to study the orthodoxy of American women religious. When the Vatican first undertook such a project, in the 1980s, many religious women suggested that the authorities should study sexism in the church instead. That commission faded away in silence. At their best, religious images and rituals can carry transformative power and promote healing. When contemporary women cannot find such resources in mainstream traditions, many of them will seek out spiritual communities with more viable alternatives.

We also raise emotional and behavioural patterns out of the murky stratum of the unconscious, out of unawareness, and see just how much our life is lived automatically, as an automaton without real human response, emotional feeling, resonance, empathy or even awareness. The process of self-discovery involves witnessing, reliving and remembering, practicing awareness and releasing pent-up emotions, returning the bodymind, through self-regulating, self-healing and self-referral, to a natural state of balance, ease and relaxation, and opening to insight and experience. In the short-term the experience is enriching, enlivening and full of dramatic changes. In the long-term through achieving personal wholeness, soul nourishment and insights we reach a threshold, a bridge, a chasm - all variously transitional metaphors that signify a quantum leap, a fourth dimensional change that I have termed "the threshold of transformation".

Overall, women are more affirmative about their spirituality and feelings about community. Men identify with these experiences but not the terminology of spirituality. Men give more attention to work and to their struggles integrating work and religion. Women express excitement about learning whereas the men convey self-consciousness over their learning deficiencies. In religions like Judaism, there is a gendering of the terms spirituality and community and religious requirements. In addition, men experience a conflict between religion and their work role and feel driven to learn to remedy deficiencies in their knowledge. Women are less focused on work, experience less role conflict, and are more excited about learning. Both men and women talk about spirituality and community, but women embrace the terms whereas men endorse the concepts but are uncomfortable with the terms. Men dominate the public space of the synagogue or prayer groups, and women's marital and maternal roles are considered central. Both in the writings of sacred texts and in the norms of their respective religious communities, men's religious obligations are explicit. Because women are exempt from obligations, they can decide for themselves whether or not to observe certain Jewish religious practices. Women enthusiastically embrace the spaces that are available to them. Men identify more comfortably with Judaism but do not acknowledge their spirituality. There is also gendering of certain religious practices. Men emphasize some and women others. Some of the commandments are required of men. The gendering of religious practices may reflect such gendering in the non-Orthodox community. Women struggle with issues of covering their heads, refraining from singing in the presence of men, women not being counted in the religious obligations or prayer services, and the partition separating men and women in the synagogue. These facts are consistent with gender role expectations in the larger society, with men giving more prominence to their work identities than the women. Men seem conscious of social expectations that they support their families and achieve success at work. Women also try to integrate their religious and work roles and family roles. Men and women who work within religious communities are better able to avoid conflicts between their work and religious roles than those who work in secular contexts. During different phases of their careers, women give different emphases to being true to themselves, balancing family and career, and seeking challenges. Balancing family and career is salient for those working women who are married and have children at home. Only women speak about enjoying the social contexts in which their learning takes place. In contrast to men, women relish their educational activities. Women crave education and seek intellectual stimulation and growth. Women do not overtly find their gender roles limiting and they revel in community. Women are passionate for learning, men's self-consciousness, and men's and women's deep spiritual strivings. The spiritual practices that women offer open possibilities for society beyond short term concerns with self-interest and survival. In an increasingly threatened global environment and with a shrinking global future, women and women's spirituality are crucial to imaging an alternative, which resists trends of male domination. The social justice work of these women is able to challenge the policies of established elites. In conclusion, the women spiritual perspectives open opportunities for society beyond short term concerns with profit, or money making, having and spending, and may be essential for a civil and humane society.




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The Houses in your Astrological Chart

By Ganesh Kevin


Our zodiacal Sun Sign is known by the day and the month of birth. The Rising Sign according to the hour and minute of that day. Then we think about where the planets are positioned inside Chart from the areas referred to as the Houses.

A 'house' is the name given for each on the twelve divisions of 30 during the 360 circular Astrological Chart. Like slices of the cake, every serves to indicate a portion or area in mapping the heavens and is used to record the position from the planets at one's time of birth. This really is calculated in the help of an Ephemeris. Facts have to then be adjusted to problems pertaining at the time as well as the true geographic place with the location of birth.

When your Astrological Chart is drawn up by the astrologer based on the information you have given of the birth date, time of birth and the place of birth it looks being a big circular disc having a small one inside the centre exactly where the individual is symbolically placed. The larger circle or 360 can be equally divided into 12 segments of 30 . Each from the 12 segments is named a 'house' in the first 1 getting that over a left and in sequence going anticlockwise the following houses are numbered and called accordingly, establishing the 12th home as the segment on the left, right away over the horizon. The Household division remains constant whilst you will find emerging two various schools of thought as to how the 360 ought to be divided - both equally or unequally. For your produce eat the traditional placement in the First property as the first 30 inside the horoscope below the horizon on the left hand side from the circle.

At the commencing of each home is a single on the zodiacal signs which dominates that specific area. The ruling or dominant sign governing the Very first House, as soon as obtaining been established by astronomical calculation, is placed on the Chart over a left hand horizontal and this really is referred to as your 'Rising Sign'. Your Rising Sign will occupy the First Property in component or totally, depending upon the degree shown at your birth. The Rising Sign is regarded as to become of major importance as being a factor in one's chart. It indicates your physical make up and constitution and your material circumstances.

The Houses are genuinely positions along the ecliptic in which the planets can be observed on any date or time based on the calculations of astronomers and the records from the Ephemeris. During one day there is small alter in placement except to your fast moving bodies in the Sun and the Moon which have a strong affect upon the chart. Due to earth's rotation including a new zodiacal sign is rising around the horizon each two hours it becomes obvious that for accuracy, it essential to know the certain hour and minute, if that may be possible, of one's 'first breath'.

Each residence is comprised of 30 and is discovered to influence and represent many specific human interests and activities. The division of the astrological chart into these 12 houses is a vital part in the understanding of how these released energies are probably to affect the personality and circumstances and the human psyche. These kinds of knowledge has been gained by lengthy experience and observations over thousands of years of human culture and its discover continues.

Interpretation need to be undertaken with the total chart in mind, on the astrologer reducing some of the complexity to easy factors for ones clarification in the individual concerned.

A entire world placed during the Very first home was passing via that part in the heavens at that hour and will influence the traditional characteristics of that House. It can moderate, intensify or complicate the energies and events related to that House. For instance, if the aggressive Aries sign is rising and there's a globe including diffusive and vague Neptune located in that sign, this will have a tendency to become a thing which implies the individual to have a far more compassionate and sympathetic outer personality than is usually evident in an Aries person. Or maybe the influence of Neptune will turn the adventurous and pioneering Arian nature to investigate the subtler, additional nebulous or non-material aspects of life.

It is crucial to realize the general indications and implications from the planetary positions within the various houses or signs. It's also a thing in interpretation, whether the majority of planets fall inside the houses on the Northern Hemisphere, or the South, relative towards individual's moment and place of birth. It is regarded as that if the planets are placed during the Chart to look around the horizon the life will be far more extrovert and active than that where the majority of planets are below the horizon. Some observe that if the planets fall from the eastern houses it implies higher self sufficiency and during the west, greater dependence upon others. There are many generalities associated with this subject and additional investigation is ongoing.

All the natural energies that are represented inside the Astrological Chart provide an invisible 'climate' in which the individual applies his intelligent understanding of life and his free will. Though in numerous cases a wise astrologer can predict events, because of particular powerful influences which are evident, they will be a lot more inclined to help an individual to self awareness on the equipment and talents which are uppermost and of their weaknesses that are to become overcome.

The Houses have each their very own value in human affairs and are said to govern specific aspects and activities, character traits and even spiritual matters. Their rulership and that the Property affects the person is going to be modified or affected by any planets inside that House. The interplanetary relationship that may be described in terms of 'aspects' can also be significant once interpreting the signs. There are numerous factors to contemplate inside complexity which comprises the individual recipe described in the astrological chart of the person. It requires very good experience so that you can take in each factor into account and to weigh a single energy against another. Particular aspects of analysis are produced easier by the particular interests and concern of the individual himself. For instance, a popular enquiry is regarding relationships and also the subject of marriage. To answer this, the astrologer will have a tendency to look at the indicators in the 5th, 7th as well as the 8th houses. The signs over a cusps of these Houses will give an indication of what's in store.

Influence From the Twelve Houses

1st Residence (This will be the first 30 segment about to rise over the left horizon on the chart which represents the east.) It influences the body- the appearance- the principle energies and motivations on the personality- identity - capacities - external character - outward talents - obvious qualities - own ego- self - beginnings - childhood- vitality -matters of individual nature -immediate environment .

2nd House Earnings- material possessions- constructive undertakings- physical destiny or karma--powers - fortune-money - ambition- emotions - demands - stimulations - investments - financial gain- prescribed draft or pattern of destiny - monetary affairs.

3rd House Immediate relatives- early home and family - writing - speech - adaptability-short journeys - correspondence -brothers and sisters - mentality, subconscious mind- travel - exercising - kinship - correspondence and communication, talents and literature, education, interests, intellectual activity.

4th Property Household - parents- domestic situations- genuine estate and property-home life - environment - estate -inheritance - end of life - environment - living environment in general -realms of habitat- environment in latter many years - mines - inherited tendencies - patrimonial affairs.

5th House Enjoyments- entertainment- pleasures- creations- offspring - children-enterprises - hazards - sex - the senses - speculation- -friendships- disappointments in friendship or young children - work for children-creative talents - love - responsibilities - dharma-education - theatres -teenagers, newspapers, gambling, risks.

6th Property Health- service- illness- work- sense of responsibility- ways and means - employees - wellness - nursing - medical - rectification - adjustments - healing- aunts and uncles - (fathers side) in female - assistance .

7th Property Spouse- marriage- partnerships - individuality - self emergence - marriage - open enemies --sharing bonds - karmic ties - husband (female's chart) public in general - opponents in litigation - contracts and agreements.

8th Home Death- regeneration- finality- subtle destiny- payments - losses - fatalities -partner's income - occult - psychic consciousness- - finalities - endings - conclusions - completion - legacies - marriage partner's finances - occult - sex - soul destiny- soul limitations- beginnings and endings both.

9th Home Philosophy - travels on the mind - travels with the body- philosophy and religion - aspiration - religion -- philosophy - imagination - long journeys- - expansion - mind and physical adventures- religion - philanthropy - legal profession- visionary -science - spiritual matters -devotion.

10th Household Worldly reputation - career- worldly achievements - citizenship, avocation - honour --- profession - reputation- work - standing in the community - mother (in female's horoscope) authority and power in the social order - public affairs.

11th Home Friends- ambitions -desires -aspirations -- altruism - self abnegation - social -- associations - companionships - sympathies - brotherhood- step little ones - social affiliations - attitude towards the people -hopes and wishes.

12th Home Secrets- limitations- imprisoning influences-solitude- loneliness- self undoing - failure - secret enemies - restrictions - inhibitions.- an indication of past life - inner self - withdrawal in the globe - spiritual matters - meditation - adverse bonds - hates- karmic negatives - exile - locked out - impairment on the senses- sacrifice -hospitals - occult - prisons- trouble! It's an indication from the end of the life.




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