Death is coming

The closer death creeps up upon me the less I am able to understand the reasons for life or living.

Yes I have experienced a close family member dying and unlike television it takes decades to handle such a thing. To think I am going to put my family through such a thing when I finally leave is more horrific to me than the thought of death itself.

My life was and is still a learning experience but when all said and done what am I to do with all this accumulated learning over my lifetime if I just die. There is no logic or reason to this.

Long ago I became aware that the God story that is sold to the majority is just a nice story to give mankind with a message of a basic layout of how nice life could be if everyone followed these ideas. Not many in life do and if one thinks about it the good and evil structures actually depend on each other. The good that can be experienced in life is only understood as good when there is it's opposite to compare it to. This is not rocket science only common sense in reality. I am not saying we need to experience bad but understanding in it is needed to appreciate the great things many of us can have in our lives. From birth to death there are many ways mankind helps his fellow man. How many ways can you help?


Tuesday, April 20, 2010

How To Secrets About Controlling Your Anger

By Broyde McDonald

Anger is one of several emotions that make up the true character and personal strength of a person. The way that you control and deal with your anger helps determine how the world will respond to you.

While uncontrolled anger is terrifying and dangerous thing that leads to more anger. The other type of anger, controlled anger is used to help solve problems. In fact, if it were not for anger many times you and I would not even know that something is wrong and needs to be fixed.

The way you can tell if your anger is controlled is by watching the way you act and feel when you become angry. If you are able to carefully choose the words you say when angry, you can consider that things are controlled.

However, if when mad you only know what you had said when you had finished saying it then you should know that you need to learn to control your anger before you get into even more trouble.

There are many ways that anger is controlled. If you are going to control your anger you should know that there are a lot of tools available to help you do this. What you need to do is sort them out and find the methods that you are able to use best.

To control your anger, two of the first things you must do are know when you are getting angry. Secondly you need to use your will power as soon as you start to get angry to do something that calms your anger down, instead of letting it grow up into a rage.

Hold on a minute, excuse me, be right back, one second, one of these or a similar phrase can be used to get yourself out of a situation that is starting to turn hostile. All you need to do is say one of these things, then walk away and stay away until your anger has cooled off.

You would only use walking away for a short time. It would be like having training wheels on a bicycle. Once you are managing your anger better you will be able to skip the walk away part and use another anger management skill in its place.

Until that time, you will stop anger from damaging your affairs by walking away and slowly counting, first to ten, then twenty, one hundred or whatever number you need to until you are relaxed again.

Until you know more about how to control anger you should not underestimate the ability of this simple act to help. It has helped many people in the past. Use it. It will help you too.

As a more long term method of controlling anger make sure that you find the time to relax at least every other day. If you are having a problem with anger, you should take the time to treat yourself with time alone that you can concentrate on thoughts about things that you find satisfying. Believe it or not, this will take a lot of the angst out of your anger.

Get some help with controlling your anger.

If you make up your mind to control your anger more speedily, I recommend that you do an anger management class. With eight weeks of training you will be managing your anger 20% better.

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Past Life- Do you Believe in Reincarnation?

By George Paragos

Do you ever think about what will you become 100 years after your death? Perhaps you will enter a whole new personality, something which is completely different from the way that you are now. If this thing enters your mind, well you are thinking about reincarnation and many cultures actually has something to say about the idea of coming back to earth after living the past life.

Reincarnation is not an issue to laugh about. Can you think about those times when you felt a sudden gush of connection to a certain place or people that you don't know? This may have something to say about your past life. Historians and people who believe about the topic of reincarnation would strongly suggest the claim that out past life has a direct influence to the present situation.

Although you may say that it is not really important to know who you are during your past life but there are some people who find relevance when doing this because they think that such information will help big time to be able to improve their personality. As we all know, we should learn about the lessons from the past so we will not repeat history again.

Just in case you are bothered by the fact that you are always haunted by dreams because you can always see some of the many events during the past which you can't explain, then do not worry. What you need to do now is to undergo self-hypnosis.

The process of self-hypnosis will allow you to feel relaxed hence thoughts and feelings may flow easily. This process will give you the ability to access past life with ease. After the whole process, you will see yourself to be highly relaxed hence you will be able to go with your memory with ease as you try to explore the issue of past life regression. This will allow you to have some information regarding past life and you will now know those things that you need to work on to in order not to commit the past mistakes again.

Memories in the past might rush in your thoughts causing you to feel intense emotions. However, you need to handle everything smoothly and think of it that you are traveling back in time. You must take the privilege and act on it accordingly. If you think you set a bad example in the past then it's time that you straighten and change that image into a good one.

You will need to have a brave heart for you to excellently travel back into your past life and so you can conquer your fear about the things that your past life will have to offer. Keep in mind that you are living a whole new different life as of the present and this is your chance to make everything right. Never be scared to discover who you are back then because the past serve as the greatest lessons in life.

Don't pressure yourself if you can't make it to your part life. Stay relaxed and have a thought whether you're reincarnated or not, you still have to live your life and take the right path. It's always better to live a different from your past life but make sure that you're living each day accordingly.

Never misjudge people who believe in reincarnation because they just want to learn something from their past that might help them in their future. Respect their beliefs as much as you respect yourself. There's nothing wrong to question the fact behind reincarnation but never deny its existence since you have no evidence to judge whether it's real or not.

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