Death is coming

The closer death creeps up upon me the less I am able to understand the reasons for life or living.

Yes I have experienced a close family member dying and unlike television it takes decades to handle such a thing. To think I am going to put my family through such a thing when I finally leave is more horrific to me than the thought of death itself.

My life was and is still a learning experience but when all said and done what am I to do with all this accumulated learning over my lifetime if I just die. There is no logic or reason to this.

Long ago I became aware that the God story that is sold to the majority is just a nice story to give mankind with a message of a basic layout of how nice life could be if everyone followed these ideas. Not many in life do and if one thinks about it the good and evil structures actually depend on each other. The good that can be experienced in life is only understood as good when there is it's opposite to compare it to. This is not rocket science only common sense in reality. I am not saying we need to experience bad but understanding in it is needed to appreciate the great things many of us can have in our lives. From birth to death there are many ways mankind helps his fellow man. How many ways can you help?


Friday, February 12, 2010

Funeral Traditions And Rituals

By Willie James

There are many rituals and traditions that govern funerals throughout the world. It is at the funerals that the near and dear ones finally accept the fate and pay their respects to the deceased's soul.

Christian funerals adhere to the rules of the Church. However, as there are over 200 different communities of Christians, there are many differences in the way the funeral services are conducted by each community.

An important ritual of a Christian funeral, known as wake, is the first and foremost ritual that is carried out before the actual funeral and involves a nightly watch over the deceased and recital of prayers for the eternal peace of his soul. In present days, this is the moment when relatives and close friends can pay their last respects to the deceased person. The deceased is preserved and placed either at the residence or inside a Church with only a particular number of visiting hours. In earlier days, the stage following the wake used to be that of absolution, where a cross was placed on the deceased's body and offertory, which held the gifts offered by visitors, and the person was absolved of the sins committed during his earthly tenure.

The following stage is the actual service itself in which the dead person is put into a hearse and taken to the Church, where the priests and others recite prayers and hymns from the Holy Bible. This is then succeeded by the clergy requesting one of the close friends or a family member to present a eulogy. Some of the Christian communities follow this by a custom of tolling of the bells, signifying the end of the service. Then the casket with the deceased's body is brought to the burial place for the last set of rituals, called the burial service which precedes the burying.

Finally, funeral traditions require a lunch gathering to be held after the burial is done. The main purpose of this tradition is to partake in the sorrow of the family and support them so that they can come to terms with the loss.

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Essential Skills And Qualities Required For Undertakers

By Marjorie Wong

Arrangements and organising services related to funerals are usually taken care of by undertakers, who are also known as funeral directors. Given below are a few of the important skills and personal qualities that undertakers should possess to succeed in their profession.

Since an undertaker may be required at any time of day or night, the person venturing into this profession must be willing to be on call for 24 hours. This is essentially an outdoors task, which will need him to be away from office for long hours.

To be an undertaker, a person must be able to interact well and should accommodate the viewpoints of others. He must be able to handle and interact with people of all age groups and people having various social and ethnic backgrounds. Understanding and compassion will be of great importance as he performs his job. However, he must be emotionally strong and not get carried away by other people's grief, so that he can offer psychological support to them.

As an undertaker, a person should project a dignified and serene personality, while seeing that his behaviour doesn't intensify the sorrow of the bereaved family members and relatives.

By nature, undertakers should not be narrow minded. They should be ready to honour the faith and beliefs of all religions and should be knowledgeable in this area. They should be conscious of different customs and rituals followed by various groups during the funeral service.

Good management and the power to organize affairs are important skills for an undertaker. Many services will need to be organized by the undertaker and this will require good communication and managerial ability from the undertaker.

An undertaker must be proficient in legal matters and must know the legal formalities to be followed, or the formal approvals needed from the State authorities before conducting funeral ceremonies. He will need to be fully aware of rules to be followed for the purpose of obtaining death certificates or insurance payments.

Finally, he should necessarily be able to and be eligible to drive vehicles like hearses and limousines during the funeral service.

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