Death is coming

The closer death creeps up upon me the less I am able to understand the reasons for life or living.

Yes I have experienced a close family member dying and unlike television it takes decades to handle such a thing. To think I am going to put my family through such a thing when I finally leave is more horrific to me than the thought of death itself.

My life was and is still a learning experience but when all said and done what am I to do with all this accumulated learning over my lifetime if I just die. There is no logic or reason to this.

Long ago I became aware that the God story that is sold to the majority is just a nice story to give mankind with a message of a basic layout of how nice life could be if everyone followed these ideas. Not many in life do and if one thinks about it the good and evil structures actually depend on each other. The good that can be experienced in life is only understood as good when there is it's opposite to compare it to. This is not rocket science only common sense in reality. I am not saying we need to experience bad but understanding in it is needed to appreciate the great things many of us can have in our lives. From birth to death there are many ways mankind helps his fellow man. How many ways can you help?


Saturday, February 15, 2014

Grief Counseling Online Fills The Needs Of Many Clients

By Krystal Branch


In some instances there is a difference acknowledged between bereavement counseling and therapy. It asserts that the counseling is appropriate when what is considered normal mourning follows a loss such as death or divorce. On the other hand, therapy deals with more complicated feelings of loss in response to the same event. In some cases grief counseling online may be preferable.

A serious reaction can possibly lead to an emotional disorder. It may grow worse over time unless treatment is available. For those who do not want to undergo therapy in person, there is bereavement counseling and therapy available online.

There is a disagreement among professionals regarding the effectiveness of grief therapy. If someone goes through the expected five stages of bereavement, this type of therapy might amplify the severity of their suffering. However, if the individual has already developed a more severe condition, it can be helpful.

There is an expected order to the five stages of grief a person progresses through. These include shock, denial, anger or rage, depression and acceptance. If the bereaved gets deeply entrenched in one of the first four, a severe condition can be the result.

When death of a loved one or a divorce occurs, it can be shocking. The person might have a hard time believing that it happened and turn his or her back on reality for a time. Trying to believe it did may cause anger and rage. This may develop into the fourth stage, which is depression and despair.

Stage five brings about acceptance of the sad reality. This does not mean he or she likes it. It does mean the person feels life can continue and he or she will eventually be happy again.

Most professionals believe that going through the grieving process is mandatory. If it is repressed an emotional problem can develop. If other disasters arise to interfere with the process, recovery may not be possible.

An online grief counselor should have a degree and possibly continuing education credits in bereavement counseling. For serious trauma, the individual should choose someone with a psychology degree. Some who represent themselves as grief counselors are simply sales people working for funeral homes or cemeteries.

It is the right of every client to question the education and experience of the therapist who will be advising him or her. For the person who is seeking to arrange a memorial service and burial for a loved one, a sales adviser is an appropriate choice. But, for those in need of therapeutic treatment, a lay person is totally unsuitable.

There is a large reference book used by professionals to diagnose and confirm mental disorders. It lists the criteria that each must meet to fit the definition. A specific number of the listed criteria must be met before the diagnosis, of clinical depression for example, can be confirmed.

Counseling is yet another online service that is available. A therapist can be contacted at any time. Many individuals will prefer anonymous treatment. Grief counseling online offers help for those who would not be willing to see a therapist in person. They might not receive assistance in any other way.




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