Death is coming

The closer death creeps up upon me the less I am able to understand the reasons for life or living.

Yes I have experienced a close family member dying and unlike television it takes decades to handle such a thing. To think I am going to put my family through such a thing when I finally leave is more horrific to me than the thought of death itself.

My life was and is still a learning experience but when all said and done what am I to do with all this accumulated learning over my lifetime if I just die. There is no logic or reason to this.

Long ago I became aware that the God story that is sold to the majority is just a nice story to give mankind with a message of a basic layout of how nice life could be if everyone followed these ideas. Not many in life do and if one thinks about it the good and evil structures actually depend on each other. The good that can be experienced in life is only understood as good when there is it's opposite to compare it to. This is not rocket science only common sense in reality. I am not saying we need to experience bad but understanding in it is needed to appreciate the great things many of us can have in our lives. From birth to death there are many ways mankind helps his fellow man. How many ways can you help?


Sunday, November 6, 2011

The Need For Advanced Funeral Planning

By Adriana Noton


No one wants to think about what will happen when they die or how to plan for that event. It seems that in this day and age of soaring costs in most service related industries, it would be prudent for some sort of funeral planning to be done. Reasons can range from financial responsibility to sparing family members and friends the pressure of facing time related decisions that may be made in haste.

The financial aspect of planning your final affairs is at the forefront of easing the transition from life to eternal rest. Visiting the home of choice in advance will certainly yield helpful solutions from a knowledgeable staff. The viewing hours can be set to what the predeceased feels would be appropriate. Additionally, extra services can be negotiated such as floral arrangement, donations in lieu of flowers, and casket choice.

An amount can be agreed upon and placed into a financial vehicle that will take price increases into account over a period of time. An example would be that if a person purchased services but was fairly young and healthy and did not expect to die for another twenty years. The funds could be managed by the funeral home so as to gain a certain rate of return that would cover the cost of price increases in materials and services.

The buyer could also negotiate a flat fee for services that is a certain percentage above the current rates. If there were a balance due it could be paid at the time of the funeral by an appointed representative of the deceased. The same would be paid to that representative should there be a refund due.

In order to get the types of services you desire, you must talk them out with the managers of the funeral home you have chosen. This will be the time to let them know exactly what kinds of final wishes you have. It is important to point out your special achievements such as military service so that you can have the service that would include this recognition. Equally important would be if you are requesting cremation and you have special details that you want to include.

It is a fact that your family is going to be grief stricken when you pass away. It is important to have all of the details set in stone with the funeral director so that they do not have to worry about it. Making sure you have what you will wear ready to go is morbid, but necessary. In order for your family to function well enough to let others know about the details of your service, it is best to have it all arranged beforehand.

The fact that the hardest part of the final wishes has been taken care of makes all the other planning much easier and less of a detractor from the main point of focus. The family will still be grief stricken and despondent but knowing that the financial aspect and logistical points were covered in advance are certainly welcome.

Funeral planning is not a pleasant thing, but it is very needed to keep the stress levels down. You should always weigh the pros of doing this ahead of when you are going to need it. In doing so, you can guide your people through your final wishes. It will also keep the financial burden away from your loved ones so they can deal with the grief of losing you.




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