Death is coming

The closer death creeps up upon me the less I am able to understand the reasons for life or living.

Yes I have experienced a close family member dying and unlike television it takes decades to handle such a thing. To think I am going to put my family through such a thing when I finally leave is more horrific to me than the thought of death itself.

My life was and is still a learning experience but when all said and done what am I to do with all this accumulated learning over my lifetime if I just die. There is no logic or reason to this.

Long ago I became aware that the God story that is sold to the majority is just a nice story to give mankind with a message of a basic layout of how nice life could be if everyone followed these ideas. Not many in life do and if one thinks about it the good and evil structures actually depend on each other. The good that can be experienced in life is only understood as good when there is it's opposite to compare it to. This is not rocket science only common sense in reality. I am not saying we need to experience bad but understanding in it is needed to appreciate the great things many of us can have in our lives. From birth to death there are many ways mankind helps his fellow man. How many ways can you help?


Friday, November 26, 2010

The Importance of Grief Bereavement Counseling

By William Sunny Rogers


Dealing with grief from bereavement is never easy. Some people have better capacity in recovering from grief, but there are also a few who find it more difficult than most. For these cases, grief bereavement counseling is necessary. For any kind of loss, be it from the death of a child, parent or spouse, the emotional effects could be tragic.

With the passing of time, people slowly accept their losses and cope with their new lives. However, this is not always the case. For some people, the loss is too big to accept, and they fall deeper into grief and depression that may continue for years.

Therapeutic treatments from counseling are beneficial whenever someone undergoes any complications that might take place during grief. And since no grief is alike, grief bereavement counseling is carefully designed based on each person's need. It would depend on the root cause of a person's problem, for example, the failure to express their grief.

Because grieving is not the same for everyone, there are tests that are being conducted to measure the amount of anxiety, stress and depression. The typical symptoms found in complicated grief is detachment, disbelief, and unnecessary rude behavior. There are three processes that take place during grief, according to cognitive behavior. These are, Ignorance and disbelief of loss, Unrealistic interpretations and anxiety, and then Avoidance.

For the grieving process to end, the two most important factors are patience and time. Grief is not a simple emotion, and even minor mistakes on counseling can end up bad for the grieving person. Grief bereavement counseling is also not for everyone. There should be enough comfort and trust between both parties in order to complete the process.

People undergoing bereavement due to a loved one's suicide are more prone to have psychiatric disorders. The grief bereavement counseling that they must undergo should be considerate and designed according to their mindset, comfort and attitudes. Any distress that is triggered can start up some harmful and shocking emotions that may make them difficult to handle.

Another common cause of grief problem is guilt. When there are things left unsaid or done before their loved one's death, frustration begins to grow unless resolved. When this is retained, it could be damaging to their future. Because of the many possibilities of grief complications, grief and bereavement counseling should be conducted by someone with the full understanding of possibilities, as well as necessary requirements to assist a person in grief.




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Signs Telling Your Man To Do A Marriage Proposal To You

By Daniella Price


There comes a time when you will have to ask yourself if he is the Mr. Right, with whom you are willing to spend your life together.

If he is really Mr. Right, then there are things you should start accepting as of now onwards. A simple relationship or dating scene is quite a different story from the next level you are about to get into. This will take a little more effort than a casual date. You need to work smart at winning over a person.

The best way to start is by sneaking in a few thoughts or ideas of a lifetime together. You can then watch out for what his reactions are. Does he shrug off the idea in no time or does he react positively? Go for a conversation if he is positive.

Do not overdo the marriage idea though. It is known to get people scared when you bandy them with issues about tying the knot. The best approach is to be simple and composed. Bring it up like an issue that is more of strategizing on what next rather than a demand. You will not have the same viewpoint on everything but you should not worry about that.

If you are trying to have a wedding in the garden complete with violins and wedding bells but your boyfriend is thinking of having a simple stay in together than you should agree on one thing and move on.

Again, focus also on your current state of the relationship. Do not think too far ahead such that it brings friction to the relationship.

By now, you should know that there are two outcomes, which include spending the rest of your life as one or him not being convinced at all. You should either notify him that it is a good choice he made agreeing to it or if it is to the nay, let him know that you are really worth it. Make him know that he is special to you.

There are no instant kits to get information about how to get your man to finally bow to the pressure and accept your hand in marriage. There are plenty of things you can do that will over time get the bells finally going off.




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