How to Handle a Marriage in Crisis

By Ricardo d Argence

Handling a marriage in crisis is not easy because once it was blossoming with love and life and now your marriage is floundering and about to die. When the two of you were dating, love seemed to be in full bloom and it had a life of its own. The two of you had begun a new life as a couple.

When you get married, it seems like everything just falls into place and everything makes sense. When times get tough, though, and the marriage begins to struggle it can seem like the new life is starting to get old and may die out. If you aren't ready for your life together to die, your marriage in crisis may need to get C.P.R.

Get Counseling: If you are serious about saving your marriage in crisis, then you may want to think about going to a marriage counselor. This tool is not utilized by many people. If you are seeking a resolution to your problems and want to find little ways to help the two of you grow closer then you should definitely think about marriage counseling. You will be able to understand your partner better and find ways to show your affection towards your spouse.

When utilizing marriage counseling, you will find better ways of self-expression without coming across in a manner that will be perceived as an attack.

Did it ever occur to you that one of you is dealing with some serious issues that is putting your marriage at risk? If you happen to be one of those people, then it may be best to get therapy on your own. This may be a hard pill to swallow because your pride tends to rear its ugly head and get in the way. However, if you are serious about saving your marriage that is in crisis, you will want and need to seek out a good marriage counselor.

Get Perspective: For a marriage in crisis, one of the most important thing that needs to be done is to get some perspective on what is happening. This is one area that a marriage counselor will be helpful because it will help you to look at things and situations from other perspective.

From where you are standing things may look pretty clear. However, once you are able to see from another angle, things that you couldn't understand before may make a lot of sense. Getting perspectives from other angles and vantage points will really be helpful in helping you fully understand what is happening so that you can then save the marriage in crisis.

Resolution: Now that you have been able to get a better handle on the crisis you are now faced with and you are able to get some good marriage counseling, you will have a great deal of knowledgeable ideas and information to make use of. All of these things will help you to repair any damage that has been done to your marriage IF you are willing and able to act on it. Knowing is half the battle. However, no battle that was half fought was ever won. By applying this saying to your marriage in crisis, you will surely come out as a winner.

If you happen to see someone who is drowning and you know how to swim, perform CPR and have been trained in first aid, you possess all of the tools necessary in order to save a life. Knowledge by itself will not save that person. However, by acting upon the knowledge that you possess, that persons odds of surviving is quite high.

The same thing is true with your marriage. It not only takes you acting upon it and getting issues resolved that were killing your marriage. You can only save a marriage in crisis by acting in order to make things better.

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A Cartoonists New Philosophy Of Cartooning

By Rick London

I started my odyssey into learning cartoons in the late '90's. I hadn't a clue what was to come. Before I embarked upon this mysterious venture, I decided it would be to my advantage to talk to America's most visible cartoonists. I was surprised how many of them were open and available to speak with me were. Fortunately, I was both too young and naive to know NOT to bother the masters. I was able to track down "Peanuts" creator Charles Schulz through his art dealer, Marc Cohen. When Schulz picked up his phone, I started asking the five journalistic Ws (Who, what, when, why, and where). His (and others) advice turned out to be exactly what I needed to know. My "cartoon philosophy" had begun. It has since evolved, but I can look back and easily see Schulz knew "what was to come" in the world of cartooning. He knew the Internet was the key as was/is merchandising.

Why did Schulz become a cartoonist? Like me, hed tried just about everything else and didnt do it very well. I asked him if there was any money to be made in such a venture. I could almost see his smile on the other side of the line. He assured me there was plenty, but not to expect it in newspapers. He told me that even if you do get syndicated, the money is still just pennies per newspaper and that the smart way to approach it, that is, to look at it as a career, is licensed merchandise, such as tees, caps, mugs, etc. He told me he made millions more in licensing than in publishing.

I told him I did not draw very well (which is true) and, that I wanted to try something very new and different. It was to be a color cartoon in which the artwork, for the most part was more fine art than cartoon art, and that I wanted a different look and feel to each cartoon, but a theme, focused on wordplay and picture-play in which, at times, the viewer might have to take a second or two to get it.

Schulz assured me that nearly 20% of all cartoons we see in the newspapers are team efforts that is, an artist and writer, and that if I did not feel my own artwork was up to snuff, to recruit an artist to draw my concepts. He also encouraged me to read as much as I could about Walt Disney because what I was about to attempt was actually a Disney model without animation; he actually called it Disney meets Gary Larson, which was a bit flattering to say the least.

I also spoke with several other cartoonists, most of whom created in the same genre as Gary Larsons Far Side, such as Leigh Rubin (Rubes), Dave Coverly (Speed Bump), and Jon McPherson (Close To Home). I was amazed, again, at how open and available they made themselves. In fact Leigh and I became good friends and talked regularly on the phone. He was already one of the worlds leading cartoonists, and I was just starting. That didnt matter to him. I will never forget that kind of generosity and his willingness to lead me in a direction that made it work for me. And of course the same is true for Charles Sparky Schulz (Sparky by the way was what he liked to be called. That was the name of his favorite dog, a Schnauzer; and I knew I liked him right away. I have a tendency to hang with fellow animal lovers, and Schulz also had an uncanny biting wit, often held back in Peanuts, even though it was always funny, was meant for family audiences, his target. In real life, he displayed a sense humor that reminded me a great deal of some of my British favorites such as John Cleese of Monty Python.

There seemed to be a common thread regarding the philosophy of cartooning, amongst all of the masters. That is, Sure, you must make a living in this world, but keep the day job. Cartooning is a labor of love, and, only 1% or so actually end up doing it for a living. One must approach it with a very open mind and a love for making people laugh, and to be flexible, as the Internet at the time, was changing the whole nature of the cartoon business.

Pragmatic advice is hard to find. How did "Sparky" know the Internet was changing? How did he know it would change how we perceived cartooning? I knew about "vision" and that some people "saw" things others could not, but could he be this brilliant? He was. Licensed merchandise became even more of the key to making it work than Sparky Schulz had felt; and he had seen it coming. Today, though my cartoons appear in publications worldwide; mostly trade magazines, college textbooks and on websites, the majority of my take is from the sales of funny gifts and collectibles. When I look back over the past twelve years it has all becomes a blur. I have had the opportunity to work with some of the world's top illustrators of cartoons. I wrote/they rendered.

By a luck of the draw (no pun intended), I have been one of the few (of which Schulz and the others had told me) who has been able to "make it" in the world of humor and cartoons. I know though, that even if I had not been one of the lucky ones, I would still be doing "something creative" as that temptation never is diffused. It becomes as if to be an appendage, and, it gives one the thought, that, even if not so, if one person laughed, the purveyor of the humor left the world a bit nicer and more peaceful.

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Rick London Founded the Internet's #1 ranked Offbeat Cartoon, Londons Times & numerous peripheral stores featuring Cartoon Collectibles