Death is coming

The closer death creeps up upon me the less I am able to understand the reasons for life or living.

Yes I have experienced a close family member dying and unlike television it takes decades to handle such a thing. To think I am going to put my family through such a thing when I finally leave is more horrific to me than the thought of death itself.

My life was and is still a learning experience but when all said and done what am I to do with all this accumulated learning over my lifetime if I just die. There is no logic or reason to this.

Long ago I became aware that the God story that is sold to the majority is just a nice story to give mankind with a message of a basic layout of how nice life could be if everyone followed these ideas. Not many in life do and if one thinks about it the good and evil structures actually depend on each other. The good that can be experienced in life is only understood as good when there is it's opposite to compare it to. This is not rocket science only common sense in reality. I am not saying we need to experience bad but understanding in it is needed to appreciate the great things many of us can have in our lives. From birth to death there are many ways mankind helps his fellow man. How many ways can you help?


Thursday, November 2, 2017

Understanding Codestiny Sheryl Sandberg CEO

By Ann Allen


In life, there are times when most people go through a hardship of one kind or another. For many, this can be in relation to the loss of a loved one. In the case of Facebook CEO and Lean In Founder and expert in codestiny Sheryl Sandberg, it was in relation to the loss of a husband and father of the Sandberg children.

In the days following the loss, devastation and destruction were the only emotions which Ms. Sandberg felt at the time. As such, the Facebook CEO and founder of Lean In decided to document those feelings. Now, the businesswoman and widow shares the story of loss, grief and the ability to rebuild in a new book called Option B: Facing Adversity, Building Resilience and Finding Joy.

With the main point of the book being to teach others that what most believe is true, that grief never goes away, people can do move on in life. For, while there will always be sadness related to the loss of the loved one, life often can get better over time. In the case of Ms. Sandberg, the initial grief and associated experiences led to the focus and title of this new book which is now available online and at bookstores around the world.

While most people would rather a loved one be present after death, this is not an option. As such, Sheryl calls this Option A. Whereas, Option B allows for others to substitute or sit in for the lost loved one. As Option A is not available, then Option B becomes the only possibility. So, after using Option B as a mantra, Sheryl began to face the adversity head on in the realization that nothing could replace that which the businesswoman had lost.

As with the first book Ms. Sandberg authored which was a best seller in 2013, Lean In: Women, Work and the Will to Lead, the new book also has an online counterpart. Ms. Sandberg is donating all proceeds from the book to OptionB.org, which is a nonprofit initiative of the Sandberg family foundation. The organizational website and online discussion forum works to help individuals build resilience and discover meaning while going through adversity.

Whether facing a hardship due to the loss of a loved one, friendship, relationship or job, it can often be important to find support. In many cases, there are groups in most areas which provide ongoing support groups related to these type losses. Most often, these groups are listed on social networking websites and through a number of social service platforms.

As anyone who has lost a loved one knows, one often feels isolated, alone and like nothing can make things better at the initial time of loss. In fact, even when others whom have experienced such loss suggest that life will get better in time, individuals have a hard time believing this to be the case. Whereas, with the right amount love and support, most people can and do move forward, once again finding joy and happiness in life.

Eventually, most people realize that moving on and moving forward in life is okay. In many cases, memories of those lost becomes a mainstay for overcoming grief while processing the loss. In doing so, many have reported having the ability to build a strong resilience to grief during the process.




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