Death is coming

The closer death creeps up upon me the less I am able to understand the reasons for life or living.

Yes I have experienced a close family member dying and unlike television it takes decades to handle such a thing. To think I am going to put my family through such a thing when I finally leave is more horrific to me than the thought of death itself.

My life was and is still a learning experience but when all said and done what am I to do with all this accumulated learning over my lifetime if I just die. There is no logic or reason to this.

Long ago I became aware that the God story that is sold to the majority is just a nice story to give mankind with a message of a basic layout of how nice life could be if everyone followed these ideas. Not many in life do and if one thinks about it the good and evil structures actually depend on each other. The good that can be experienced in life is only understood as good when there is it's opposite to compare it to. This is not rocket science only common sense in reality. I am not saying we need to experience bad but understanding in it is needed to appreciate the great things many of us can have in our lives. From birth to death there are many ways mankind helps his fellow man. How many ways can you help?


Tuesday, October 5, 2010

Positive Steps To Help Boost Your Self Confidence

By Miguel Beckson

Being confident is very important. It helps you get to your goals.If you do not believe in yourself, then you would not achieve much in life. Self-confidence drives us and motivates us.

Variations in found amongst different people, when we talk about confidence. This difference remains largely unexplained. There are two theories presented that describe as to why people differ in such an important trait.

It is the age-old nature versus nurture debate. Some people think that the variation is related to our genetic make up. They signal towards the presence or absence of "Confidence gene". Scientists have not come across any supporting information.

The other more plausible explanation is that up bringing can be attributed for this variation from one individual to another. They way we are bought up have a bearing upon on the development of our self-esteem.

We have no control over our childhoods. We cannot change how we are bought up. However, once we grow up, we can improve our conditions as we are in charge. We have the power to shape our futures and ourselves. You can become more confident following the techniques described below.

Stop negative self-talk. You might not have noticed this but you might be constantly discouraging yourself subconsciously. You must put an end to this. Instead of saying, "I can't", say, "I can". This will make you more confident. You will find yourself taking up new challenges. Constantly affirm yourself. You will have to do that regularly for positive outcomes.

First, indulge in positive talk. If you are low on confidence than it means you think negatively. You might not even know this but you might be too hard on yourself and your abilities. You might subconsciously limit yourself disallowing yourself a chance to fulfilling your true potential. You need to put an end to that.

Listening to these hypnotic suggestions while you go to sleep will make you more confident. Your mind will process and cultivate the idea. This technique is lot simpler than the first one as for the former ones requires conscious effort.

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Advice About Setting Aims In Life

By Bruce Richards

The world is moving a very fast speed. Moreover, we want everything ranging from our skip commercial buttons to our fast food. Due to fast-paced nature of the life, many of us are left grappling for control. Now you need to know as to how we can gain some control of your life.

Regarding goal, one thing should be kept in mind. They should be precise. They should detail upon as to what is the aim. Moreover, they should provide a time-frame. Vague goals get us nowhere as they provide no proper guidance on your course of action. Goals should be measurable as well. For instance, how can you measure your level of success if your goal was to become a better person, or a parent? Goals of such nature can leave you feeling lost by the end of time.

Do not make vague and immeasurable goals. For example, how can you gauge if you improved as a person, or if you have turn into a better parent. Setting such goals will leave you feeling beaten at the end. Like baby starts by taking small steps.

You should also start by setting short-term goals. The allowed time to achieve the target should be around two to three months. Following are some recommendations regarding what kind of goals you can set for yourself.

You can have walking a certain distance in a month's time as your goal. Alternatively, you might want to save a certain sum of money in a given amount of time. You may also want to make a new friend within a month.

You might also want to finish certain portion of a book in a few months' time. You might also desire to walk a certain distance in a month. You could also aim at improving on your mind's capabilities by doing memory exercises.

You may also want to save a sum amount of money within a given period. All of these can serve as your goals. None of these goals are unclear.

Wishing you all the luck with your goals.

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