Conversation Guidelines On Your First Date

By Fred Gillman

Some conversation topics are suitable for first dates, but others could potentially destroy an otherwise fantastic evening. It is important to know what subjects are approachable and what subjects should be handled with care; if you want to have the opportunity to pursue a meaningful relationship with this person, you don't want to mess up your first date by saying something you shouldn't have. Here are three topics that you should be very careful when dealing with.

Try not to talk too much about yourself. It is the first date! Try to find out more about the other person. You will look arrogant and unattractive if you go on and on about yourself. Few things are worse than giving off the impression that you are pompous and cocky on a first date.

But if your date asks you a question about yourself, don't avoid it! It can make you seem guarded and make you look like you have something to hide, which isn't a good thing. Be open and answer all questions with honesty. Then, in turn, respond with a question of your own. This helps keep the conversation going.

Topic number two: politics. Never talk politics on first date. As a matter of fact, politics should usually be avoided until later, once you've decided that you want to get serious with someone.

If you find yourself on the subject and is going well, use your own judgment and discuss it to the point that you are comfortable. But, most likely, the topic will go badly. In such a situation, try to change the subject as smoothly as possible.

At the slightest sign of an unpleasant reaction or response from your date, change the subject immediately.

Religion is a pretty sensitive subject as well, one that really doesn't belong in first date conversation.

Unless you are both devout Christians or Muslims or some other religion and you know that you share the same opinion, quarantine the subject. Such heavy topics really shouldn't be discussed on first dates anyway.

Most often, if you find out that you have different religious views, things will get awkward and the date may even end early. Get to know each other a little bit better first and don't put so much pressure on things during the first date.

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Spiritual Life Coaching - The Holistic Frequency Realm

By Jason Lincoln Jeffers

Let's say you take a full body holographic photo of yourself. You then take the holographic photo of yourself and crop it down to a smaller size so that it shows only your face. If you then enlarge that portion of the photo to the original size, you will not get a large photo of your face, but the original photo of your fully body. In a hologram, each individual part of the whole contains the whole in condensed form. The part is in the whole and the whole is in the part. This describes the phenomenon of string theory known as the holographic principle.

A common analogy used in metaphysics compares the Source to an infinite ocean and the Soul to a drop in the ocean. The Soul is in the Source and the Source is in the Soul. The ancient shamans were well aware of this nondual reality thousands of years before the first theories of quantum mechanics.

The holographic principle essentially states that the 2D reality (the source) of holographic film stores everything that we can see, hear, taste, feel, and touch in this 3D reality that we call the universe. I like to call think of the 2D source reality as a cosmic hard drive from which the 3D reality is projected. Consciousness is the Source and the world form is simply the construct for which consciousness is able to interact.

Altered state experiences such as an OBE (out of body experience) or NDE (near death experience), kundalini awakening, as well as psychic phenomena and supernatural abilities can all be explained as brief encounters into this mystifying, deeper realm of reality that transcends spacetime boundaries. Philosopher, Ken Wilber, refers to it as a "holistic frequency realm." No doubt, this plane of higher frequencies has been the visiting place for the world's great sages and shamans throughout the ages.

The renown quantum physicist, David Bohm says that unless we understand that both the explicate orders (3D reality) and implicate orders (2D or source reality) are one and the same, then the primary and unifying "physical laws cannot be discovered by a science that attempts to break the world into its parts." All the mystical or unknown phenomena that many scientists ridicule must be considered to be -- at the very least -- a possible glimpse of this hidden, spiritual dimension.

Our current understanding of separation begins to dissolve when we contemplate the significance of the holographic principle. All of our conflicts, disputes, and wars seem like insanity. The true reality is oneness. It is from whence we have all come and are all destined to return.

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Jason Lincoln Jeffers is a Spiritual Life Coach and the founder of The Art of Transformation, a company devoted to teaching Self Realization to the masses. His Spiritual Life Coaching program uniquely synthesizes spiritual wisdom with ego transcendence, holistic health, life path astrology, shadow & pain-body work, heart-based intention, the power of presence, and the law of attraction.