Some conversation topics are suitable for first dates, but others could potentially destroy an otherwise fantastic evening. It is important to know what subjects are approachable and what subjects should be handled with care; if you want to have the opportunity to pursue a meaningful relationship with this person, you don't want to mess up your first date by saying something you shouldn't have. Here are three topics that you should be very careful when dealing with.
Try not to talk too much about yourself. It is the first date! Try to find out more about the other person. You will look arrogant and unattractive if you go on and on about yourself. Few things are worse than giving off the impression that you are pompous and cocky on a first date.
But if your date asks you a question about yourself, don't avoid it! It can make you seem guarded and make you look like you have something to hide, which isn't a good thing. Be open and answer all questions with honesty. Then, in turn, respond with a question of your own. This helps keep the conversation going.
Topic number two: politics. Never talk politics on first date. As a matter of fact, politics should usually be avoided until later, once you've decided that you want to get serious with someone.
If you find yourself on the subject and is going well, use your own judgment and discuss it to the point that you are comfortable. But, most likely, the topic will go badly. In such a situation, try to change the subject as smoothly as possible.
At the slightest sign of an unpleasant reaction or response from your date, change the subject immediately.
Religion is a pretty sensitive subject as well, one that really doesn't belong in first date conversation.
Unless you are both devout Christians or Muslims or some other religion and you know that you share the same opinion, quarantine the subject. Such heavy topics really shouldn't be discussed on first dates anyway.
Most often, if you find out that you have different religious views, things will get awkward and the date may even end early. Get to know each other a little bit better first and don't put so much pressure on things during the first date.
Try not to talk too much about yourself. It is the first date! Try to find out more about the other person. You will look arrogant and unattractive if you go on and on about yourself. Few things are worse than giving off the impression that you are pompous and cocky on a first date.
But if your date asks you a question about yourself, don't avoid it! It can make you seem guarded and make you look like you have something to hide, which isn't a good thing. Be open and answer all questions with honesty. Then, in turn, respond with a question of your own. This helps keep the conversation going.
Topic number two: politics. Never talk politics on first date. As a matter of fact, politics should usually be avoided until later, once you've decided that you want to get serious with someone.
If you find yourself on the subject and is going well, use your own judgment and discuss it to the point that you are comfortable. But, most likely, the topic will go badly. In such a situation, try to change the subject as smoothly as possible.
At the slightest sign of an unpleasant reaction or response from your date, change the subject immediately.
Religion is a pretty sensitive subject as well, one that really doesn't belong in first date conversation.
Unless you are both devout Christians or Muslims or some other religion and you know that you share the same opinion, quarantine the subject. Such heavy topics really shouldn't be discussed on first dates anyway.
Most often, if you find out that you have different religious views, things will get awkward and the date may even end early. Get to know each other a little bit better first and don't put so much pressure on things during the first date.
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