Death is coming

The closer death creeps up upon me the less I am able to understand the reasons for life or living.

Yes I have experienced a close family member dying and unlike television it takes decades to handle such a thing. To think I am going to put my family through such a thing when I finally leave is more horrific to me than the thought of death itself.

My life was and is still a learning experience but when all said and done what am I to do with all this accumulated learning over my lifetime if I just die. There is no logic or reason to this.

Long ago I became aware that the God story that is sold to the majority is just a nice story to give mankind with a message of a basic layout of how nice life could be if everyone followed these ideas. Not many in life do and if one thinks about it the good and evil structures actually depend on each other. The good that can be experienced in life is only understood as good when there is it's opposite to compare it to. This is not rocket science only common sense in reality. I am not saying we need to experience bad but understanding in it is needed to appreciate the great things many of us can have in our lives. From birth to death there are many ways mankind helps his fellow man. How many ways can you help?


Wednesday, September 9, 2009

Thoughts on How To Memorialize You Lost Loved One

By Melanie Brooks

One thing is for certain in everyone's life there will come a time where you will lose a loved one and when that time has passed you will want something to remember him or her by. Losing a loved one is the hardest situation to go through especially if the loved one was someone you lived closely with. Finding ways to memorialize your love one can help one get over the loss and help them find closure and a sense of well-being.

There are many ways in which you can help memorialize your loved one and keep them close to your heart. One such way is by purchasing a piece of jewelry to remember them by. One such popular form of jewelry is the locket. You can enclose a small picture of your loved one into a locket and even have the piece inscribed with their name or a little saying. This is usually in necklace form so it can be worn close to the heart.

If jewelry isn't your style, then you could always create a memorial stone with their name, birth and passing dates etched onto the stone. This stone can also have a picture, much like a gravestone. The best place to put the stone is one where you can visit it or display it as a permanent memorial to your loved one. The garden or yard is the perfect place to create your own memorial. Figurines that have meaning to your loved one or that remind you of them can also be placed in your garden/yard memorial. The more personal the better.

Virtually you can help remember a loved one by signing up for the many of websites that offer an online virtual memorial. These sites often allow you to post pictures of your loved one and offer the service where people can sign a guest book leaving their memories and admiration as well. If you are Internet savvy, you can simply create your own memorial page as a tribute and have family members contribute with their memories and pictures. This will not only help you but also offer help for other family members and friends to offer their condolences.

Whatever it is you choose to do to remember and memorialize your loved one is up to the individual. These simple acts can help one grieve and help them get through a traumatic time in their lives. Remembering a loved one doesn't have to be all pomp and circumstance, just keep them in your thoughts and heart and they will be forever with you.

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