Death is coming

The closer death creeps up upon me the less I am able to understand the reasons for life or living.

Yes I have experienced a close family member dying and unlike television it takes decades to handle such a thing. To think I am going to put my family through such a thing when I finally leave is more horrific to me than the thought of death itself.

My life was and is still a learning experience but when all said and done what am I to do with all this accumulated learning over my lifetime if I just die. There is no logic or reason to this.

Long ago I became aware that the God story that is sold to the majority is just a nice story to give mankind with a message of a basic layout of how nice life could be if everyone followed these ideas. Not many in life do and if one thinks about it the good and evil structures actually depend on each other. The good that can be experienced in life is only understood as good when there is it's opposite to compare it to. This is not rocket science only common sense in reality. I am not saying we need to experience bad but understanding in it is needed to appreciate the great things many of us can have in our lives. From birth to death there are many ways mankind helps his fellow man. How many ways can you help?


Sunday, December 30, 2018

A Guide To Creating The Best Online Memorial Website

By Dorothy Hayes


Losing a friend or loved-one is a painful experience. Everyone struggles to keep the memories because of the great impact people have on our lives. Acceptance and healing are made easier by creating an online memorial website. This site allows you to share about the person with friends and family who could be in different cities around the world. It is also a platform to keep the discussion going about the deceased.

Identify the best site to host your memorial. Websites can be hosted on platforms with individual domains or where you get an account like social media. Own domain gives it a personalized feel. However, you will have to pay for it as well as keep it maintained. A hosted site opens up the doors to the public because it appears as though it is an open platform.

Gather the materials you would like to include on the site. People who have interacted with the departed, places they have been, activities they have engaged in and such factors will help you in gathering materials. Include the communities they have worked with because they will play a part in remembering your loved one. Do not include everything. However, you can be thematic in your presentation.

Biographical data should also be collected for inclusion onto the site. It is this information that defines a person because of its uniqueness. The information includes date of birth, place of birth, parents, other family members and associations that represent him or her. It is the foundation of any remembrance. Such details will show where the person has come from and what has been left behind.

Include pictures and videos capturing the life of your departed friend. These pictures tell an incredible story that words cannot manage. Videos are also effective in preserving voices and memories of events. Since you are unlikely to access all photos your dead friend or relative has taken in life, ask friends to assist by uploading. You will be amazed at the memories people have. Open the images and videos to comments.

Write a tribute or choose a knowledgeable person to do it. It comes in the form of the eulogy for the funeral, a poem, memoirs or thoughts about the person. Leave room for visitors to also share their stories about the person. Quotes by the diseased can also be included alongside materials he or she liked. The tribute should describe your personal interactions and not a repetition of what is already known.

Develop a site or platform that is well organized. The best approach is having segments for friends, family, workmates, and any other group that a person was involved with. Other ways of organizing is creating dates. Further, you may allow searches using names of people connected to the deceased. With an organized platform, it will be easier for people to follow.

People connected to the deceased should have an opportunity to comment, upload and share. Ask visitors to provide feedback about your site besides sending sympathy and condolences. This feedback will help you improve the platform and capture the desires of as many people as possible who were connected to the departed.




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