Death is coming

The closer death creeps up upon me the less I am able to understand the reasons for life or living.

Yes I have experienced a close family member dying and unlike television it takes decades to handle such a thing. To think I am going to put my family through such a thing when I finally leave is more horrific to me than the thought of death itself.

My life was and is still a learning experience but when all said and done what am I to do with all this accumulated learning over my lifetime if I just die. There is no logic or reason to this.

Long ago I became aware that the God story that is sold to the majority is just a nice story to give mankind with a message of a basic layout of how nice life could be if everyone followed these ideas. Not many in life do and if one thinks about it the good and evil structures actually depend on each other. The good that can be experienced in life is only understood as good when there is it's opposite to compare it to. This is not rocket science only common sense in reality. I am not saying we need to experience bad but understanding in it is needed to appreciate the great things many of us can have in our lives. From birth to death there are many ways mankind helps his fellow man. How many ways can you help?


Sunday, April 20, 2014

More About Grief Counseling Online

By Essie Osborn


A lot of people have turned to therapists in this day and age in order to get the best type of advice. Many people who have either lost a spouse or a child and who are mourning find that it is beneficial to talk to someone. It is not always easy to make the time for this, and this is where grief counseling online comes into play.

It means that you can actually speak to someone during your lunch break or at home before you go to bed, without anyone realizing it. You can do this by using an online chat program. However, you can also use a video conferencing system, depending on what you prefer best. Some people like to see the person that they are talking to.

You need someone who can offer you directions and steps to take. Often the counselor will give you homework, and this is helpful because they will be able to give you something to do when you are not in session. It may be lonely for you, especially if you have lost someone that was close to you. You probably won't know where to start in this process.

People need to grieve and deal with the pain and a lot of people just bottle these emotions up, which is never a good thing. There are also those which say that they are not spending money on a therapist. However, if you have a look at how your life might change then you may want to think about this again.

You have to discuss this with your therapist beforehand and this is important so you are on the same page. You must set goals so that you get to a certain place in a time frame. People who don't go for this type of counseling may be stuck in the same spot all of their lives and this happens so often. It can be turned around by talking to someone.

Some people say that this is not the same as going to an offline therapist, but if you have a video conference you will be able to see your therapist clearly and you can hear them just as well. Not many people complain about this. Most times it is cheaper and it won't cost you any petrol money, so everyone is happy.

It may be necessary to have a discussion with the whole family and get them involved because everyone would have been involved if a sibling died, and this would affect the parents. The dynamics would change in the home, and relationships would change. One needs to work on this to make sure no further changes occur.

A psychiatrist can help in some cases where people are more depressed and have just lost someone, like a child. This often happens in the case of a suicide. An antidepressant is sometimes needed, but it is not something that should be taken on a permanent basis. It is obviously not good to live on tablets like these.




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