Have you recently been dumped by someone you love? Has it left you feeling that you'll always be alone?
Take heart, you're not alone. Most of us have been through a breakup at one time or another and have learned to how get through it. You may feel like hiding under the covers all day, but you should know that the pain will eventually subside. Here are a few things you can do to make the transition happen quicker.
Many people find solace in writing down their feelings. They express their thoughts and feelings in daily journals. This helps to them to understand what they are feeling and get over it.
Writing is a good way to get out the emotions that can be bottled inside. It lets you legitimize them by putting them in writing. That way you can acknowledge them and then move on when you're ready.
When you go through a breakup your daily responsibilities may seem secondary because of the pain you're going through. However, if you direct your attention to those issues you will focus and be able to put things into perspective.
An effective technique for getting over loss is "controlled grieving." In this method you give yourself 15 to 20 minutes once or twice a day to think about the relationship and feel the pain associated with the breakup.
This helps you to be able to focus on whatever else is going on in your life for the rest of the day. Find ways to distract yourself from your former relationship. Talk to friends, visit family, exercise or try a new hobby. They will help you to distance yourself from the past.
You may realize that you've been looking at the relationship with a distorted eye. And now that you're not in it, you find that you can see things more clearly. Your romantic partner probably wasn't the catch you always thought he was and you are better off with someone else.
When you feel a bout of sadness coming on, try to remember the "not so perfect" things about your ex and it will help the healing begin.
Take heart, you're not alone. Most of us have been through a breakup at one time or another and have learned to how get through it. You may feel like hiding under the covers all day, but you should know that the pain will eventually subside. Here are a few things you can do to make the transition happen quicker.
Many people find solace in writing down their feelings. They express their thoughts and feelings in daily journals. This helps to them to understand what they are feeling and get over it.
Writing is a good way to get out the emotions that can be bottled inside. It lets you legitimize them by putting them in writing. That way you can acknowledge them and then move on when you're ready.
When you go through a breakup your daily responsibilities may seem secondary because of the pain you're going through. However, if you direct your attention to those issues you will focus and be able to put things into perspective.
An effective technique for getting over loss is "controlled grieving." In this method you give yourself 15 to 20 minutes once or twice a day to think about the relationship and feel the pain associated with the breakup.
This helps you to be able to focus on whatever else is going on in your life for the rest of the day. Find ways to distract yourself from your former relationship. Talk to friends, visit family, exercise or try a new hobby. They will help you to distance yourself from the past.
You may realize that you've been looking at the relationship with a distorted eye. And now that you're not in it, you find that you can see things more clearly. Your romantic partner probably wasn't the catch you always thought he was and you are better off with someone else.
When you feel a bout of sadness coming on, try to remember the "not so perfect" things about your ex and it will help the healing begin.
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