Death is coming

The closer death creeps up upon me the less I am able to understand the reasons for life or living.

Yes I have experienced a close family member dying and unlike television it takes decades to handle such a thing. To think I am going to put my family through such a thing when I finally leave is more horrific to me than the thought of death itself.

My life was and is still a learning experience but when all said and done what am I to do with all this accumulated learning over my lifetime if I just die. There is no logic or reason to this.

Long ago I became aware that the God story that is sold to the majority is just a nice story to give mankind with a message of a basic layout of how nice life could be if everyone followed these ideas. Not many in life do and if one thinks about it the good and evil structures actually depend on each other. The good that can be experienced in life is only understood as good when there is it's opposite to compare it to. This is not rocket science only common sense in reality. I am not saying we need to experience bad but understanding in it is needed to appreciate the great things many of us can have in our lives. From birth to death there are many ways mankind helps his fellow man. How many ways can you help?


Thursday, November 8, 2012

Valuable Tips In Finding Grief And Loss Counseling NJ Specialists

By Tameka Ware


Grieving over sudden changes in life is a healthy reaction. But when everything seems to fly out of control, the need to remedy the issue in its early stage is essential. By immediately delving into grief and loss counseling NJ bereaved patients can easily take back control on their lives and move on.

Keep in mind that grieving is a lengthy process. There is no remediation that can take effect overnight. It does not only involve death or divorce as commonly known. This also comes with retirement, legal problems, major changes in one's health, graduations and empty nests at home. Some kids also grieve over lost or dead pets. Knowing precisely the cause of your condition is crucial in remedying the situation. Knowing the type of counseling you need is crucial to the process.

A traditional means in counseling, psychotherapy is widely used up to this day. It works through guidance through compassion and active listening. The key here is to know the cause and stage of such an experience of a bereaved. A counselor actively helps him or her identify through situations being experienced giving support and, at the same time, providing an assurance that everything is normal and fitting to the occasion.

When a counselor acts in such a way that he or she is a companion to the bereaved such technique is called companion model of bereavement. A psychotherapist usually works as a caregiver and practices supportive and attentive listening tactics to deeply explore the impact of the grieving process. These therapists will lead the bereaved on how to deal with the trauma and finally overcome it.

There are cases when a grieving person totally withdraws from normal life. Complicated grief therapy technique, or commonly known as imaginal exposure, is practiced by tape recording a patient's narrative and carefully dissecting insights out of it through frequent listening. This technique uses both cognitive-behavioral and trauma therapies to heal bereaved patients and in delving deeper into his or her consciousness. Trauma usually delves on controlling anxiety and depression symptoms while cognitive-behavioral therapy undertake thoughts and emotions in correcting unhealthy deeds.

Seeking the assistance of a reliable psychoanalyst, psychiatrists or counselor is essential when one encounters such overwhelming changes in life. Though there are those who can cope easily with such, dealing completely with its causal factors is a crucial aspect in healing through therapy. When this is not addressed properly, it can spiral out of control.

When finding a counselor, you can start reaching out to people you trust. A primary doctor's recommendation is of great help. The support and attention of family and friends will also help steer you to the right professionals or facility to tap.

In conjunction with grief and loss counseling NJ patients may also delve in alternative healing techniques. Yoga and meditation are great sources of relief. Some also do Pilates to release both mind and body from life's stressors.




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