Death is coming

The closer death creeps up upon me the less I am able to understand the reasons for life or living.

Yes I have experienced a close family member dying and unlike television it takes decades to handle such a thing. To think I am going to put my family through such a thing when I finally leave is more horrific to me than the thought of death itself.

My life was and is still a learning experience but when all said and done what am I to do with all this accumulated learning over my lifetime if I just die. There is no logic or reason to this.

Long ago I became aware that the God story that is sold to the majority is just a nice story to give mankind with a message of a basic layout of how nice life could be if everyone followed these ideas. Not many in life do and if one thinks about it the good and evil structures actually depend on each other. The good that can be experienced in life is only understood as good when there is it's opposite to compare it to. This is not rocket science only common sense in reality. I am not saying we need to experience bad but understanding in it is needed to appreciate the great things many of us can have in our lives. From birth to death there are many ways mankind helps his fellow man. How many ways can you help?


Sunday, June 14, 2009

Did He Broke with You? How to Get Your Ex Boyfriend Back

By Ricardo d Argence

If you are dealing with a boyfriend break up, chances are you are emotionally raw. You may have a hard time dealing with constant questions, like "Did your boyfriend break up with you?" and other nosy inquiries. What you really need is to understand the cause of the break up.

First and foremost, while you may want to do a bit of soul searching to assess where you are, avoid playing the self-blame game about your boyfriend break up. The truth is that your ex has his own issues to deal with. Remember the phrase "it's not you, it's me" when it comes to the reasons why your relationship ended.

If you really want to, you can spend time and energy to try to get your ex back. But, there are some important things you should know before setting out on this path:

Avoid trying to stay in constant contact with your ex after a boyfriend break up. After all, he's broken up with you, so he needs some breathing room. Don't text or call him multiple times every day.

Flirting with other guys when he's around is okay. In fact, it might encourage him to want you back!

If you do end up on a "trial" date to see if you can get back together, do be friendly and accommodating, but don't lay on too much pressure.

But, if you have a feeling in your gut that the relationship is over when your boyfriend break up with you, then you need to start moving on.

One cathartic thing that can help you after a boyfriend break up is to take the time to pen a long letter that spells out your feelings. You can remember all of the good and bad times you shared. Vent your anger, and call him all the names you want. But, instead of sending the letter to him, burn it. This is a great way to get some much needed closure after a boyfriend break up.

Next, you'll want to trade back your property. That ratty T-shirt of his that you enjoy sleeping in? Give it back. Retrieve the econ textbook he borrowed. If there are items that are too small to exchange, like toothbrushes and other personal hygiene items, just get rid of them. If you have gifts from him, avoid the temptation to throw them away and just store them for now. You want to eliminate anything around you that might remind you of him. Also, make sure to sort out any money issues if one of you owes the other, and separate any joint checking or credit accounts.

After you have completed the property exchange, agree that you won't have any communication for 30 days. This may be hard if you are used to seeing each other on a daily basis, but after a boyfriend break up it is necessary to give yourself some space and distance.

A boyfriend break up is perhaps one of the most painful things you can go through, but it isn't the end of the world. In fact, you might think of it as a new beginning and realize that you are now free to meet the one who will truly be your soul mate.

Of course, you shouldn't jump to the conclusion that just because you've gone through a boyfriend break up that all of the doors are firmly shut. If you think you have a shot of winning him back and that's something you want, you should by all means take the opportunity to do so.

True love can even survive a boyfriend break up.

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What Do I Have to Do To Get My Ex Boyfriend Back?

By Ricardo d Argence

Understanding the steps to take to get your ex boyfriend back can sometimes be a hit and miss affair and it's no surprise because we are usually not taught this stuff. We usually have to figure it all out as we go along or we try to have our friends help us out.

There is something wrong with relying on our family and friends though. They're no better equipped to help us than we are to help ourselves. What is needed is a no miss plan and the initiative to take action on the plan.

The first step you should take is to put some distance between you and your ex. This simple action will preserve your sanity as well as make a clear statement to your ex boyfriend. This is an important step and will put an end to fixating on your ex boyfriend. You will be able to concentrate for a change on your requirements and need to get you through this very stressful time.

Make a serious attempt to reconnect with your family and friends and accept any help that will undoubtedly come from those who love and care about you. If you're serious about figuring out how to get your ex boyfriend back it would be a huge mistake on your part to isolate yourself.

With people around you it means you're not sitting at home crying and obsessing about the breakup of your relationship or your ex boyfriend.

Since your now spending time with your friends and family, ask them what they think caused the breakup of your relationship. There is probably no doubt that your boyfriend gave you the reason he was walking out the door, and you probably have your own ideas, but an outside opinion can be helpful now.

Sometimes the perspective of another person is very helpful when trying to make some sense out of the situation. If your really want to understand how to get your ex boyfriend back then ask for the opinion of others.

Your next move is to make sure that given what you've heard back from family and friends regarding their take on the breakup, that you now think for yourself. You either agree or disagree with what's been said and of course you're doubtless going to get different opinions from them all.

Take the time that is needed to weigh what has been said and understand that the final decision is yours. You may have started out trying to figure out how to get your ex boyfriend back, but do you still want him back? Maybe you have heard some real truths and there may be some questions and doubts. Maybe you have come to terms with your breakup and are able to readily accept it now.

No matter where you are in the healing phase, be perfectly clear about what you want before you make another move.

If you're still determined to go ahead and win him back, then your next move is to call him and to do so calmly and without emotion and drama and talk to him about the way you feel.

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