Death is coming

The closer death creeps up upon me the less I am able to understand the reasons for life or living.

Yes I have experienced a close family member dying and unlike television it takes decades to handle such a thing. To think I am going to put my family through such a thing when I finally leave is more horrific to me than the thought of death itself.

My life was and is still a learning experience but when all said and done what am I to do with all this accumulated learning over my lifetime if I just die. There is no logic or reason to this.

Long ago I became aware that the God story that is sold to the majority is just a nice story to give mankind with a message of a basic layout of how nice life could be if everyone followed these ideas. Not many in life do and if one thinks about it the good and evil structures actually depend on each other. The good that can be experienced in life is only understood as good when there is it's opposite to compare it to. This is not rocket science only common sense in reality. I am not saying we need to experience bad but understanding in it is needed to appreciate the great things many of us can have in our lives. From birth to death there are many ways mankind helps his fellow man. How many ways can you help?


Saturday, November 6, 2010

How To Stay Away From Falling Prey To Emotional Infidelity

By Matt Anderson

Many times, the thought of having a friend who you spend more time together with, much more than your spouse seems to be a harmless idea. It may seem petty and just talk and nothing more but you will be surprised.

There are times you had stayed late talking to your friend and your conscience was surely disturbed when you went home to your partner late. You therefore have to be honest with yourself.

It is easy to look at your emotional infidelity, view it as nothing like the physical infidelity, and hence think it is negligible. Both can and should however be looked at as harmful. The reason people should take it seriously is that once you taste those waters, you immediately begin your descent.

The reason this is a fragile situation is that it is possible to love your spouse and still end up having a great emotional connection with somebody else.

You should not look at a lively physical relation with your spouse and look at it as enough. Whenever you think that there is a lack of an intimate bond with your spouse, you are likely to jump first to the one you talk to a lot.

You may be surprised to know that you are committing emotional infidelity. It hurts your spouse and grieves them more than we may imagine at first.

Once you know that there is some level of connection between you and your friend, you should leave it as that. Crossing the line will only complicate stuff more. That is the peak within which you will enjoy the friendship, beyond that is a long shot. Once you are standing on this shaky ground, your relationship will start to sink drastically.

There is a high likelihood of that side dish becoming a real item. Whenever there is emotional infidelity, there can come up any situation that can lead to a break up or a divorce. You should keep working towards solving marital problems before they balloon into catastrophic levels.

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