You may ask yourself, should I stay or should I go? If you are at that point in your relationship with your girlfriend, ask yourself the following:
Are You Happy? If you are generally unhappy in the relationship, this is problematic. Basic happiness is the barometer to use when you are deciding whether or not to leave.
If you are unhappy in the relationship, you need to decide which way to go. Either work on it harder and try to fix things, or break up.
If you do break up with your girlfriend, you can expect you will be unhappy for a while. It will be better for your long-term happiness, though, if you let go of a bad relationship now so you have a chance at a good relationship in the future.
Do you think you could become happy? Maybe you are not happy right now because your relationship is having some temporary difficulties. This is especially likely if there have been life changes happening that you are trying to adjust to.
If there haven't been recent changes though, you should consider dwindling happiness to be a real warning sign. A relationship that is becoming less and less satisfying is one that may need to end. You would likely be better off starting new with someone else instead of hoping that your current situation will turn around.
Does she know? If you haven't told her that you are unhappy, she may not know. You may feel better about things if you tell her your concerns and issues, so that she has the chance to fix things. It may inspire sufficient change that your relationship significantly improves.
On the other hand, if this is a pattern that is a bad sign. Does your girlfriend start out great after you discuss problems, make attempts at reform, then backslide over and over? If so, she's unable to make the lasting changes you need her to make to allow you to be happy as her partner.
Are You Happy? If you are generally unhappy in the relationship, this is problematic. Basic happiness is the barometer to use when you are deciding whether or not to leave.
If you are unhappy in the relationship, you need to decide which way to go. Either work on it harder and try to fix things, or break up.
If you do break up with your girlfriend, you can expect you will be unhappy for a while. It will be better for your long-term happiness, though, if you let go of a bad relationship now so you have a chance at a good relationship in the future.
Do you think you could become happy? Maybe you are not happy right now because your relationship is having some temporary difficulties. This is especially likely if there have been life changes happening that you are trying to adjust to.
If there haven't been recent changes though, you should consider dwindling happiness to be a real warning sign. A relationship that is becoming less and less satisfying is one that may need to end. You would likely be better off starting new with someone else instead of hoping that your current situation will turn around.
Does she know? If you haven't told her that you are unhappy, she may not know. You may feel better about things if you tell her your concerns and issues, so that she has the chance to fix things. It may inspire sufficient change that your relationship significantly improves.
On the other hand, if this is a pattern that is a bad sign. Does your girlfriend start out great after you discuss problems, make attempts at reform, then backslide over and over? If so, she's unable to make the lasting changes you need her to make to allow you to be happy as her partner.
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