Death is coming

The closer death creeps up upon me the less I am able to understand the reasons for life or living.

Yes I have experienced a close family member dying and unlike television it takes decades to handle such a thing. To think I am going to put my family through such a thing when I finally leave is more horrific to me than the thought of death itself.

My life was and is still a learning experience but when all said and done what am I to do with all this accumulated learning over my lifetime if I just die. There is no logic or reason to this.

Long ago I became aware that the God story that is sold to the majority is just a nice story to give mankind with a message of a basic layout of how nice life could be if everyone followed these ideas. Not many in life do and if one thinks about it the good and evil structures actually depend on each other. The good that can be experienced in life is only understood as good when there is it's opposite to compare it to. This is not rocket science only common sense in reality. I am not saying we need to experience bad but understanding in it is needed to appreciate the great things many of us can have in our lives. From birth to death there are many ways mankind helps his fellow man. How many ways can you help?


Sunday, October 3, 2010

Things You Have To Reflect On Before You Make A Decision Whether To Hold On Or Give Up A Relationship

By Elizabeth Stanley

You may ask yourself, should I stay or should I go? If you are at that point in your relationship with your girlfriend, ask yourself the following:

Are You Happy? If you are generally unhappy in the relationship, this is problematic. Basic happiness is the barometer to use when you are deciding whether or not to leave.

If you are unhappy in the relationship, you need to decide which way to go. Either work on it harder and try to fix things, or break up.

If you do break up with your girlfriend, you can expect you will be unhappy for a while. It will be better for your long-term happiness, though, if you let go of a bad relationship now so you have a chance at a good relationship in the future.

Do you think you could become happy? Maybe you are not happy right now because your relationship is having some temporary difficulties. This is especially likely if there have been life changes happening that you are trying to adjust to.

If there haven't been recent changes though, you should consider dwindling happiness to be a real warning sign. A relationship that is becoming less and less satisfying is one that may need to end. You would likely be better off starting new with someone else instead of hoping that your current situation will turn around.

Does she know? If you haven't told her that you are unhappy, she may not know. You may feel better about things if you tell her your concerns and issues, so that she has the chance to fix things. It may inspire sufficient change that your relationship significantly improves.

On the other hand, if this is a pattern that is a bad sign. Does your girlfriend start out great after you discuss problems, make attempts at reform, then backslide over and over? If so, she's unable to make the lasting changes you need her to make to allow you to be happy as her partner.

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