Death is coming

The closer death creeps up upon me the less I am able to understand the reasons for life or living.

Yes I have experienced a close family member dying and unlike television it takes decades to handle such a thing. To think I am going to put my family through such a thing when I finally leave is more horrific to me than the thought of death itself.

My life was and is still a learning experience but when all said and done what am I to do with all this accumulated learning over my lifetime if I just die. There is no logic or reason to this.

Long ago I became aware that the God story that is sold to the majority is just a nice story to give mankind with a message of a basic layout of how nice life could be if everyone followed these ideas. Not many in life do and if one thinks about it the good and evil structures actually depend on each other. The good that can be experienced in life is only understood as good when there is it's opposite to compare it to. This is not rocket science only common sense in reality. I am not saying we need to experience bad but understanding in it is needed to appreciate the great things many of us can have in our lives. From birth to death there are many ways mankind helps his fellow man. How many ways can you help?


Thursday, July 2, 2009

How to Get Back With Your Ex After Making Relationship Mistakes

By Ricardo d Argence

When an ex leaves the relationship, the person left behind, most often may not recognize how much in love they are with their ex. You may wish to learn how to get back with your ex, if you find yourself in this type of situation and you will not want to let too much time get away from you.

What you must not do is to allow the fact that you have made some mistakes to stop you in your attempt. It is very well documented that most of the relationships that break up could very easily be put back together again, if only one of those involved actually tried. So try!

There are particular steps you can take when you want to get back with your ex, however, you must understand and follow these steps. Following each of the steps will take some time and effort.

The time it takes will of course, depend on the situation and all situations vary. The truth of the matter is that you are the one to judge the amount of time required to fulfill your desires.

When the relationship was emotionally messy and chaotic, it will take a longer amount of time to get over the initial break up. Much longer than trying to patch up a stable, less dramatic relationship.

So, be honest with yourself and be clear about what kind of relationship you had with your ex, because the truth right here will go a long way to helping you figure out how to get lover back.

Very often, it takes about a month of alone time without trying to make any type of contact with your ex in order to heal from the relationship. Make sure you take this time for yourself without attempting to get back your ex.

You need this time alone to think about the mistakes you may have made as well as learn how you can forgive yourself for any mistakes.

You will not be able to get your ex back if you cannot forgive yourself. Forgiving yourself also increases the chance of you ex forgiving you as well. Be kind and loving to you, realize no one is perfect, and then forgive yourself.

This is not to say that you just forget about your mistakes, you have to consider them and then forgive yourself.

You need to consider how you can avoid making the same mistakes in the future, if you find yourself in the same type of situation. You have to break free of any negative cycle that may cause things to go bad again.

After sorting through your emotions, you need to determine the reasons you made any mistakes. After doing so, you are more ready to begin making contact with your ex to discuss your future together.

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Get Your Ex Back - One Super Tip to Help You Get Back Together With Your Ex

By Anne Torres

You're brokenhearted. You can't eat or sleep. You just want to get your ex back. Nothing you have tried works so what are you to do? Here is one super tip that if you gulp down a little pride and put into practice, will help radically augment your chances of getting back together with your ex.

So what is this earth shattering tip you ask?

Well, it is truly nothing earth shattering, but it is something that the majority of people realize they almost certainly should do but never actually have the guts to do which is this - put the shoe on the other foot.

Try and see your relationship from the other side. It is so crucial, yet so overlooked that if people actually did this before the relationship became broken they could have avoided the breakup altogether.

But it also works wonders for patching up that broken relationship, particularly if you are trying to get back with your ex. You need to spend some time thinking about things from your ex's standpoint.

Take some quiet time and find a place where you know you won't be interrupted and then really engage in some deep and critical thinking about what went wrong, but try to think about it from the other side.

Ask yourself the subsequent questions:

What does my ex truly want in a partner, and more purposely from me?

What makes him or her content?

What makes them mad or upset?

What did I do that helped to corrode the relationship to the point of breaking and was it worth it?

If you actually take the time to do this, you'll probably be amazed at the new perspective that you gain and that we are not always right. There needs to be some give and take in a healthy relationship. You have to make sacrifices at times, and so does your partner.

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