Death is coming

The closer death creeps up upon me the less I am able to understand the reasons for life or living.

Yes I have experienced a close family member dying and unlike television it takes decades to handle such a thing. To think I am going to put my family through such a thing when I finally leave is more horrific to me than the thought of death itself.

My life was and is still a learning experience but when all said and done what am I to do with all this accumulated learning over my lifetime if I just die. There is no logic or reason to this.

Long ago I became aware that the God story that is sold to the majority is just a nice story to give mankind with a message of a basic layout of how nice life could be if everyone followed these ideas. Not many in life do and if one thinks about it the good and evil structures actually depend on each other. The good that can be experienced in life is only understood as good when there is it's opposite to compare it to. This is not rocket science only common sense in reality. I am not saying we need to experience bad but understanding in it is needed to appreciate the great things many of us can have in our lives. From birth to death there are many ways mankind helps his fellow man. How many ways can you help?


Wednesday, June 17, 2009

How to Handle a Marriage in Crisis

By Ricardo d Argence

Handling a marriage in crisis is not easy because once it was blossoming with love and life and now your marriage is floundering and about to die. When the two of you were dating, love seemed to be in full bloom and it had a life of its own. The two of you had begun a new life as a couple.

When you get married, it seems like everything just falls into place and everything makes sense. When times get tough, though, and the marriage begins to struggle it can seem like the new life is starting to get old and may die out. If you aren't ready for your life together to die, your marriage in crisis may need to get C.P.R.

Get Counseling: If you are serious about saving your marriage in crisis, then you may want to think about going to a marriage counselor. This tool is not utilized by many people. If you are seeking a resolution to your problems and want to find little ways to help the two of you grow closer then you should definitely think about marriage counseling. You will be able to understand your partner better and find ways to show your affection towards your spouse.

When utilizing marriage counseling, you will find better ways of self-expression without coming across in a manner that will be perceived as an attack.

Did it ever occur to you that one of you is dealing with some serious issues that is putting your marriage at risk? If you happen to be one of those people, then it may be best to get therapy on your own. This may be a hard pill to swallow because your pride tends to rear its ugly head and get in the way. However, if you are serious about saving your marriage that is in crisis, you will want and need to seek out a good marriage counselor.

Get Perspective: For a marriage in crisis, one of the most important thing that needs to be done is to get some perspective on what is happening. This is one area that a marriage counselor will be helpful because it will help you to look at things and situations from other perspective.

From where you are standing things may look pretty clear. However, once you are able to see from another angle, things that you couldn't understand before may make a lot of sense. Getting perspectives from other angles and vantage points will really be helpful in helping you fully understand what is happening so that you can then save the marriage in crisis.

Resolution: Now that you have been able to get a better handle on the crisis you are now faced with and you are able to get some good marriage counseling, you will have a great deal of knowledgeable ideas and information to make use of. All of these things will help you to repair any damage that has been done to your marriage IF you are willing and able to act on it. Knowing is half the battle. However, no battle that was half fought was ever won. By applying this saying to your marriage in crisis, you will surely come out as a winner.

If you happen to see someone who is drowning and you know how to swim, perform CPR and have been trained in first aid, you possess all of the tools necessary in order to save a life. Knowledge by itself will not save that person. However, by acting upon the knowledge that you possess, that persons odds of surviving is quite high.

The same thing is true with your marriage. It not only takes you acting upon it and getting issues resolved that were killing your marriage. You can only save a marriage in crisis by acting in order to make things better.

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