Death is coming

The closer death creeps up upon me the less I am able to understand the reasons for life or living.

Yes I have experienced a close family member dying and unlike television it takes decades to handle such a thing. To think I am going to put my family through such a thing when I finally leave is more horrific to me than the thought of death itself.

My life was and is still a learning experience but when all said and done what am I to do with all this accumulated learning over my lifetime if I just die. There is no logic or reason to this.

Long ago I became aware that the God story that is sold to the majority is just a nice story to give mankind with a message of a basic layout of how nice life could be if everyone followed these ideas. Not many in life do and if one thinks about it the good and evil structures actually depend on each other. The good that can be experienced in life is only understood as good when there is it's opposite to compare it to. This is not rocket science only common sense in reality. I am not saying we need to experience bad but understanding in it is needed to appreciate the great things many of us can have in our lives. From birth to death there are many ways mankind helps his fellow man. How many ways can you help?


Thursday, June 18, 2009

My Boyfriend Broke Up With Me, is It Possible to Get Him Back?

By Ricardo d Argence

Did your boyfriend break up with you? This is a rough time in your life. You are probably hurting and want to know what caused your boyfriend break up.

First and foremost, while you may want to do a bit of soul searching to assess where you are, avoid playing the self-blame game about your boyfriend break up. The truth is that your ex has his own issues to deal with. Remember the phrase "it's not you, it's me" when it comes to the reasons why your relationship ended.

You can spend time trying to get your ex back. If you are going to go down this route, you need to know the following things:

Don't bug your ex after a boyfriend break up. If he's ended the relationship, then he wants his space, so don't call or text him several times a day.

It's okay to flirt with other guys in his presence. It may even make him want you back more.

When you do get back together for a "trial date" be cheerful and friendly but don't pressure him for more than he can handle.

If you truly feel deep down that your boyfriend break up is final and the relationship can't be saved, then you need to take steps to move on.

One of the first things you can do after your boyfriend break up is to sit down and write a long letter to him pouring out your heart. You can talk about the good times and bad. You can tell him what a jerk he is and call him all sorts of names. But, don't mail the letter! Instead, take a candle out and burn it. This is one of the best ways to get closure after a boyfriend break up.

The next thing you need to do is do a property exchange. Give him back the t-shirt that you love to sleep in. Get the econ textbook you lent him. If there are things like toothbrushes that are too trivial to exchange, throw them away. Don't have anything around that reminds you of him. If you have gifts that he gave you, box them up for the time being. If you have any money issues to resolve like debts to the other or a joint checking account, get them sorted out.

After the property exchange is completed, make an agreement that you won't communicate with each other for a period of thirty days. This can be a challenge if you typically see each other every day. This is a difficult but necessary part of getting some much needed space after a boyfriend break up.

A boyfriend break up is very painful, but it doesn't mean that your life is over. In fact, you might even consider it a good thing because it frees you up to meet your true soul mate.

Of course, you shouldn't jump to the conclusion that just because you've gone through a boyfriend break up that all of the doors are firmly shut. If you think you have a shot of winning him back and that's something you want, you should by all means take the opportunity to do so.

After all, true love can't be squashed by a boyfriend break up.

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