Death is coming

The closer death creeps up upon me the less I am able to understand the reasons for life or living.

Yes I have experienced a close family member dying and unlike television it takes decades to handle such a thing. To think I am going to put my family through such a thing when I finally leave is more horrific to me than the thought of death itself.

My life was and is still a learning experience but when all said and done what am I to do with all this accumulated learning over my lifetime if I just die. There is no logic or reason to this.

Long ago I became aware that the God story that is sold to the majority is just a nice story to give mankind with a message of a basic layout of how nice life could be if everyone followed these ideas. Not many in life do and if one thinks about it the good and evil structures actually depend on each other. The good that can be experienced in life is only understood as good when there is it's opposite to compare it to. This is not rocket science only common sense in reality. I am not saying we need to experience bad but understanding in it is needed to appreciate the great things many of us can have in our lives. From birth to death there are many ways mankind helps his fellow man. How many ways can you help?


Saturday, April 6, 2013

How to Quit Porn Addiction

By Harold C. Rehm


A lot of people are starting to look for a way to learn how to quit porn addiction and here's why. Although most think that porn is simply a harmless pastime that cannot affect you in any way, others can see the harmful effects it is creating. By reading the following, we will go through all the key elements on how porn can become an addiction, what are the effects of it and how you can quit your porn addiction once and for all.[]

Porn addiction wasn't such a big problem until the internet came to place and skyrocketed pornography exposure and its accessibility. Now with over millions of websites available at your finger tips, it is becoming much easier to browse porn and for some, it's becoming a growing concern and more people are looking for ways to quit this addiction.For most, it start at an early age. 11 years old is usually the age for the average male being exposed for the first time to pornography. This rapidly becomes a habit for many and some don't feel the need to quit. As it starts to become more and more of a routine thing, they grow tired of the usual soft/mild porn and start to look into more explicit material.

Spend 5 Minutes Each Day Thinking About What Will Happen If You Don't.By doing this, you'll start to associate NEGATIVE outcomes and PAIN to the idea of continuing to watch a lot of porn.The negative outcome/pain association is the most important part of breaking a bad habit, in this case, the bad habit being -- watching too much porn.Decide What You Really Want.You better get clear about his, otherwise you'll never succeed.Do you want to quit watching porn forever?Or do you just want to stop watching as much porn as you do right now? Only you can decide, but decide you must.Stop Watching It!

For people wanting to quit porn addiction, they probably already tried but didn't succeed and here's why; most think they can simply do it by avoidance and willpower. Unfortunately it takes a lot more than that to quit porn addiction. It is something that needs to be treated to quit just like other addictions such as cigarettes, drinking problems etc.There is a lot of ways a person can find treatment to quit porn addiction. The best way of doing it however is by getting a good guide online. The reason for this is because most local services tend to be from religious centers which may not be the most preferred methods for many. Also, you cannot do it without showing your identity which is the major drawback for many.

As such, finding the proper guide online on how to quit porn addiction is a better choice for anyone. You can learn how to do so and still remain completely anonymous and not let anyone know that you had this kind of trouble. There aren't too many guides out their because this problem is something most people often overlook and don't think there is any such guide that can help them quit. However, there are still some very good ones around that will help you overcome you addiction.

If you've wondered how to stop porn addiction, then I'm sure it is because something isn't going very well. Most people who are trying to stop their porn addiction are starting to see that using porn has a very bad effect on a person. As such, there are things you can do about it and by reading the following, you will have a clearer understanding of porn addiction and how to stop it once and for all.Now there are many negative effects associated to this type of addiction such as committing shameful acts like masturbation, the use of sex toys, prostitutes, stripper etc. It can also cause mental problems like lowering ones self-esteem, desensitization and giving the wrong perception of reality and how things really are. This is a serious matter indeed and anyone who is thinking on learning how to stop porn addiction shouldn't wait any longer.

Most people that try to stop pornography addiction always go through the same phases and if you tried to stop in the past but failed, here's why. The most common cycle most people go through when trying to quit is first, by completely stopping and never go back, just like smoking. They will try to resist the temptations and avoid pornography as much as they can. As the time passes by, they start to feel the overwhelming temptation to watch porn and it comes to a point where they can no longer do anything without thinking about it. Finally, they simply give up and once they've committed the act, they feel ashamed and regret doing so but say to themselves that they'll do better next time. If you see yourself doing this, you need help.

You have to understand leaving it isn't that simple. Just like other additions, it needs treatment. Now there are many ways you can learn how to stop porn addiction whether it be by joining a local services or club or simply finding a good guide online. The most preferred method is usually by getting it online because you can remain anonymous and still learn how to stop porn addiction.Is willpower enough to be able to leave porn addiction behind for good? I will not say that willpower is not something that couldn't help you quit your sexual addiction, whether it's watching porn on the internet, masturbating or cruising to find prostitutes, however, it's a fact that willpower alone won't work for most people.

So work out what the various triggers are that cause you to go to sites that ask you to confirm that you're over 18 and start working on doing something else when the triggers try to kick in.You won't necessarily succeed every time but so long as you can gradually reduce your cravings to view naked people engaging with each other in ways even the Kama Sutra hadn't envisaged then you're on the right track.Find something else to occupy yourself.Ideally, something away from a computer screen. That would definitely be the ideal solution. But I know we're in the real world and computers - or phones with a computer connection - are never very far away, even in the remotest areas.

It is essential that you learn who you truly are and love yourself from the inside. You might be surprise by such statement and think that you do, but you need to know that the fact that you are addicted to porn is proof enough that you have a self-esteem issue that needs to be re-established or even established in your mind for the first time.If your suffer from sexual addiction, you most likely have a problem to connect in a healthy and meaningful way with others, and learning how to do so is a great step towards leaving porn addiction behind. From there, you will finally be able to learn what true relationships and true intimacy is all about. However, all those important steps must be learned and followed in order to work.It is like a rehabilitation of the brain which controls all those behaviors, the good ones as well as the bad ones. With the right help you can rehabilitate your brain, and leave porn addiction behind once and for all. You can win this fight; it's not impossible. Others have succeeded and quite devastating sexual behaviors, but remember, your willpower alone might not be able to do the job on its own. A change in your brain connections will.




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