Death is coming

The closer death creeps up upon me the less I am able to understand the reasons for life or living.

Yes I have experienced a close family member dying and unlike television it takes decades to handle such a thing. To think I am going to put my family through such a thing when I finally leave is more horrific to me than the thought of death itself.

My life was and is still a learning experience but when all said and done what am I to do with all this accumulated learning over my lifetime if I just die. There is no logic or reason to this.

Long ago I became aware that the God story that is sold to the majority is just a nice story to give mankind with a message of a basic layout of how nice life could be if everyone followed these ideas. Not many in life do and if one thinks about it the good and evil structures actually depend on each other. The good that can be experienced in life is only understood as good when there is it's opposite to compare it to. This is not rocket science only common sense in reality. I am not saying we need to experience bad but understanding in it is needed to appreciate the great things many of us can have in our lives. From birth to death there are many ways mankind helps his fellow man. How many ways can you help?


Sunday, May 9, 2010

Things You Need To Consider Before You Make A Decision Whether To Stay Or Let Go Of A Relationship

By Jessica Lockhart

Are you on the fence about staying with your current girlfriend? If you can't decide whether to stay or go, ask yourself the following:

Are You Happy? If you are generally unhappy in the relationship, this is problematic. Basic happiness is the barometer to use when you are deciding whether or not to leave.

If you are unhappy in the relationship, you need to decide which way to go. Either work on it harder and try to fix things, or break up.

When you break up with someone, sadness is a normal reaction. Don't think you have made a mistake if you leave your girlfriend and then are unhappy for a while. In the long run, you have a better chance of being happy with someone else.

Could you Be Happy? Maybe you aren't happy right now but your relationship is usually pretty good. This can be a bad period that you and your girlfriend are in. If you think this is just a temporary situation, especially if there have been some big life changes happening that you are having to adjust to, you may want to hang on a while longer.

If you are unhappy and you can't figure an outside factor that may be making your relationship rocky, this is more serious. You don't want to sit around and wait for improvement that may never come. You would have a better long-term chance at happiness with someone new.

Have You Told Her? You might be surprised to find that your girlfriend would be shocked that you are so unhappy. She may genuinely not know what is wrong - and if she doesn't know, she can't do her part to fix things. If you haven't told her of your concerns, you should be honest with her. She may step up and make the relationship worth keeping.

On the other hand, if this is a pattern that is a bad sign. Does your girlfriend start out great after you discuss problems, make attempts at reform, then backslide over and over? If so, she's unable to make the lasting changes you need her to make to allow you to be happy as her partner.

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