Death is coming

The closer death creeps up upon me the less I am able to understand the reasons for life or living.

Yes I have experienced a close family member dying and unlike television it takes decades to handle such a thing. To think I am going to put my family through such a thing when I finally leave is more horrific to me than the thought of death itself.

My life was and is still a learning experience but when all said and done what am I to do with all this accumulated learning over my lifetime if I just die. There is no logic or reason to this.

Long ago I became aware that the God story that is sold to the majority is just a nice story to give mankind with a message of a basic layout of how nice life could be if everyone followed these ideas. Not many in life do and if one thinks about it the good and evil structures actually depend on each other. The good that can be experienced in life is only understood as good when there is it's opposite to compare it to. This is not rocket science only common sense in reality. I am not saying we need to experience bad but understanding in it is needed to appreciate the great things many of us can have in our lives. From birth to death there are many ways mankind helps his fellow man. How many ways can you help?


Sunday, December 30, 2012

Tips For Comforting The Bereaved

By Amanda Griffin


While it's true that funeral customs in Singapore are very systematic, it doesn't mean that families of the deceased can actually handle the loss very well. Death in the family is not easy to bear and it is true for many cultures. Fortunately there are certain things that you can do to bring comfort to a friend who is suffering from grief. It's important to know these tips so that you know what to do during the time of bereavement.

The Dos

Read a book about grief in order to widen your understanding about it. This way, you'll be able to assess the depth of your friend's suffering. Among the best things to do is to show that you care and to express your sympathy. You do not need to use many words. Just sitting beside your friend will be sufficient to make him or her feel your support and sincerity.

Listen to and share stories about the departed. Make sure that you listen to the family even if they tell the same thing over and over again. If it is your turn, share your amusing stories about the deceased. If you are not directly associated with each other, you can share a funny story that the deceased's relative shared to you. Joyful memories will help remove the emotional burden from the family.

funeral services in Singapore are usually held in funeral homes which typically provide private rooms for the family of the deceased. This is also true for the Crematorium Singapore funeral service providers offer. In these rooms, you'll find a space where you can let your friend cry out. Always remember that a grieving person will only find a way to move on if he or she can express all those feelings. When this moment comes, be ready to give a hug.

The Don'ts

According to experts you must avoid telling clichs like "it is God's will," "I understand how you feel," or "Everything will be healed in time." Never stop listening to the family when they tell stories and don't tell them to stop crying. As you know, crying is an instinct and it is done to remove all sadness from a person's heart. So allowing your grieving friend to cry while consistently expressing your sympathy can help them feel relieved.




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