Death is coming

The closer death creeps up upon me the less I am able to understand the reasons for life or living.

Yes I have experienced a close family member dying and unlike television it takes decades to handle such a thing. To think I am going to put my family through such a thing when I finally leave is more horrific to me than the thought of death itself.

My life was and is still a learning experience but when all said and done what am I to do with all this accumulated learning over my lifetime if I just die. There is no logic or reason to this.

Long ago I became aware that the God story that is sold to the majority is just a nice story to give mankind with a message of a basic layout of how nice life could be if everyone followed these ideas. Not many in life do and if one thinks about it the good and evil structures actually depend on each other. The good that can be experienced in life is only understood as good when there is it's opposite to compare it to. This is not rocket science only common sense in reality. I am not saying we need to experience bad but understanding in it is needed to appreciate the great things many of us can have in our lives. From birth to death there are many ways mankind helps his fellow man. How many ways can you help?


Saturday, December 29, 2012

Funeral Home Singapore: Comforting Those Who Suffer Loss

By Anne Sanders


While it is true that funeral customs in Singapore are quite systematic, it doesn't mean that families of the departed can actually handle the loss very well. In most known cultures, death brings sorrow to families. That holds true for people in Singapore as well. Therefore, you have to think of ways to comfort a friend during their time of grief. Fortunately, there are some common tips that you can learn and follow to comfort a grieving friend.

The Dos

Read books about grief so that you can widen your understanding about it. Before doing anything, you have to understand how your friend suffers. Other emotions related to grief are anxiety and hostility. If your friend shows these signs, then it means he or she is totally stricken with grief. This is when you have to show your sympathy and you should let your friend know that you care. Using too many words is not necessary.

Listen to and share stories about the dead. Make sure you listen to the family even if they tell the same thing over and over again. If it is your turn, share your entertaining stories about the deceased. If you are not directly related to each other, you can share an amusing story that the deceased's relative shared to you. Happy memories will help remove the emotional distress from the family.

funeral services in Singapore are often held in funeral homes which typically provide private rooms for friends and family of the deceased. It is also true for the Crematorium Singapore funeral service providers offer. In these rooms, you can find a space where you can let your friend cry out. Always remember that a grieving person will only find a way to move on if he or she can express all those feelings. When this time comes, be ready to give a hug.

The Don'ts

Experts say that you should avoid telling clichs like "It is God's will," "I understand how you feel," or "Everything will be healed in time." Don't discourage your friend from telling stories. Moreover, don't advise your friend to stop crying. Allowing your friend to simply cry out can be one of the greatest things that you can do.




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