Death is coming

The closer death creeps up upon me the less I am able to understand the reasons for life or living.

Yes I have experienced a close family member dying and unlike television it takes decades to handle such a thing. To think I am going to put my family through such a thing when I finally leave is more horrific to me than the thought of death itself.

My life was and is still a learning experience but when all said and done what am I to do with all this accumulated learning over my lifetime if I just die. There is no logic or reason to this.

Long ago I became aware that the God story that is sold to the majority is just a nice story to give mankind with a message of a basic layout of how nice life could be if everyone followed these ideas. Not many in life do and if one thinks about it the good and evil structures actually depend on each other. The good that can be experienced in life is only understood as good when there is it's opposite to compare it to. This is not rocket science only common sense in reality. I am not saying we need to experience bad but understanding in it is needed to appreciate the great things many of us can have in our lives. From birth to death there are many ways mankind helps his fellow man. How many ways can you help?


Saturday, December 22, 2012

All That One Needs To Know About New Jersey Bereavement Counseling

By Brandi Little


The loss of a loved one is a harrowing experience. Those left behind go through a pendulum of emotions. The experience is distressing and this makes it hard for the individual to cope with it. The best way to deal with it is through the help of New Jersey bereavement counseling. This will enable the individual to deal with this loss in a healthy way.

The inability to deal with grief is very dangerous. It takes an emotional toll on individuals. As this happens, individuals have their own various means by which they cope with the bereavement and grief. This means, however, are not suitable. Most keep their emotions to themselves and crowd themselves in work or other activities. This will eat them from the inside making an emotional meltdown imminent. They therefore need to take care of this through counseling.

After the suffering of a loss, individuals have many options by which they can receive support. Among the options is to participate in, group counseling sessions and support groups. These groups offer lessons on grief and loss. They also teach on how to deal with them. Additionally the presence of individuals who have undergone the same experience makes it easy to share, as they all understand each other pain.

It is common for some individuals to feel uncomfortable sharing in groups. This is understandable as most people feel the need to grieve on their own as they come to terms with what happened. To such, an individual professional counselor would be of great help. The confidentiality offered is appealing to the individual. This step will help them heal and learn to accept the loss as part of life. Ultimately, it leads to their recovery allowing them to resume life.

An individual recovery is dependent on the professionalism displayed by the therapist. This calls for the therapist to display compassion towards the individual. Such individuals are fragile, as the loss they have suffered has caused them a great deal of emotional pain. This compassion makes them feel wanted and loved contributing to the healing process.

The process has been identified and broken down into five steps. However, individuals are unique. This makes these steps unique too as they do not have a necessary order by which they occur. Professionals are best equipped to handle grieving individuals, as they know exactly how to take every step.

Anger is a byproduct of the grieving process. This anger if not checked could be disastrous to an individual well being. It is common for people to feel helpless, this helplessness turns into anger as they ponder on the things that they could have done to save the individual or to have made their time on earth a bit better. This leads to heavy regret, regret that causes emotional distress. This distress could turn suicidal hence the need for professional help.

Professionals in New Jersey bereavement counseling are certified therapists. They have undergone the necessary training to ensure that they offer the best of care and service to those bereaved. In addition to this, it also allows them to deal with situations appropriately.




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