Death is coming

The closer death creeps up upon me the less I am able to understand the reasons for life or living.

Yes I have experienced a close family member dying and unlike television it takes decades to handle such a thing. To think I am going to put my family through such a thing when I finally leave is more horrific to me than the thought of death itself.

My life was and is still a learning experience but when all said and done what am I to do with all this accumulated learning over my lifetime if I just die. There is no logic or reason to this.

Long ago I became aware that the God story that is sold to the majority is just a nice story to give mankind with a message of a basic layout of how nice life could be if everyone followed these ideas. Not many in life do and if one thinks about it the good and evil structures actually depend on each other. The good that can be experienced in life is only understood as good when there is it's opposite to compare it to. This is not rocket science only common sense in reality. I am not saying we need to experience bad but understanding in it is needed to appreciate the great things many of us can have in our lives. From birth to death there are many ways mankind helps his fellow man. How many ways can you help?


Thursday, December 30, 2010

Giving Support To A Depressed Friend

By Karen Hanley


Because of the high rate of depression in the country right now, you will most likely know someone experiencing clinical depression. When you are faced with a person who you believe is in this situation, do you know how to handle it?

It has become increasingly critical for everyone to understand how to deal with someone who is depressed. Who knows, the person who gets helped out may even be you.

There is no doubt that depression is a scary subject to talk about. Often we will shrug what the person said off, tell them to get over it, and then change the conversation completely. This is not the ideal solution, as it is only going to intensify his or her depression. Instead, you should open a discussion with the person, and ask what he or she feels and why.

When he starts sharing his emotions and feelings, offer your unsolicited advice. Sometimes, these people just need someone they could pour their heart out to and not someone who would lecture them on what they should do instead.

If you feel like your friend is on the brink of going suicidal or if he talks about suicide, do not ignore it. Try to keep him company until such time that you know he is feeling better.

If a person doesn't want to discuss what they're feeling, don't force them to. It will only aggravate the situation and put you in an uncomfortable position. Just be there for him or her while they go through this difficult time.

You might not guess it but by just simply being around this person, you could actually prevent them from killing themselves. Many folk who've had depression have said that the blackness has lifted when they have been around someone who is compassionate and cares. You should try this compassionate and caring individual.

Finally, remember that you're only one person. Having a depressed friend in need can certainly take a toll on you. You may want to consult a professional to help your friend, and get them back on the road to a happier, healthier lifestyle. Sometimes, all a person may need is a simple medication.




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