Death is coming

The closer death creeps up upon me the less I am able to understand the reasons for life or living.

Yes I have experienced a close family member dying and unlike television it takes decades to handle such a thing. To think I am going to put my family through such a thing when I finally leave is more horrific to me than the thought of death itself.

My life was and is still a learning experience but when all said and done what am I to do with all this accumulated learning over my lifetime if I just die. There is no logic or reason to this.

Long ago I became aware that the God story that is sold to the majority is just a nice story to give mankind with a message of a basic layout of how nice life could be if everyone followed these ideas. Not many in life do and if one thinks about it the good and evil structures actually depend on each other. The good that can be experienced in life is only understood as good when there is it's opposite to compare it to. This is not rocket science only common sense in reality. I am not saying we need to experience bad but understanding in it is needed to appreciate the great things many of us can have in our lives. From birth to death there are many ways mankind helps his fellow man. How many ways can you help?


Sunday, October 17, 2010

Did Your Boyfriend Dump You? Tips To Recover After A Break Up

By Luv More

If you feel like the world is ending and you just might die because your boyfriend dumped you remember that this feeling will pass. Even though you are really in pain, it isn't going to kill you.

This is something that you can and will get over. It will take some work, some help, some readjusting in the way you think, and some time. Be sure that just because you are upset that my boyfriend dumped me doesn't mean that life stops, life goes on. Be ready for it.

Getting over the fact that your boyfriend dumped isn't a simple thing to do but it is definitely not impossible. You just have to pick yourself up, dust yourself off and move on.

The alternative means that you will be stuck wallowing in your own misery. If that is no life that you want to have then do what it takes to get out of it. It takes work to climb back out of the pit but the work is worth it.

Don't be afraid to get help when you need it, but be careful about where you get the help. If you are seriously depressed, you should probably seek the help of a professional. This doesn't mean you are losing your mind; depression is a condition that many people are dealing with. Don't worry about others judging you; get the help you need.

You may want to turn to your close friends or family members that can help you deal with the fact that your boyfriend dumped you. Try not to put too much on these people though and if you ask for their advice they will expect you to follow it.

If you are constantly complaining about your life and the situation but aren't following up on what advice is given, they are going to reach a point that you don't want. They are going to get tired of you and cut you off or seriously consider it.

You also need to re-frame how you are looking at your situation. Look at if from a different perspective or angle. While you may be thinking its the end of you life, when you view it from another angle you will see it differently.

Try to find that other person's perspective. Try to see what good it is that you have to offer someone. What are your best qualities? For sure there is going to be someone out there who will appreciate them. Wait for them to come along.

While you are waiting, find some way to improve yourself. Find something that you have long dreamed about doing and throw your life into it. If there is something non-romantic that you have longed to achieve in life, pursue it. Do you want to make yourself better in anyway, now is the time to do it.

The end result will be a happier you. Once you have found that happiness, it will become magnetic and draw in the person that you dream of, the one that makes you smile and makes you feel like you belong. It will make you look back on this dark time in your life when you were crying because my boyfriend dumped me and see it as one of the best things that ever happened to you.

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