Death is coming

The closer death creeps up upon me the less I am able to understand the reasons for life or living.

Yes I have experienced a close family member dying and unlike television it takes decades to handle such a thing. To think I am going to put my family through such a thing when I finally leave is more horrific to me than the thought of death itself.

My life was and is still a learning experience but when all said and done what am I to do with all this accumulated learning over my lifetime if I just die. There is no logic or reason to this.

Long ago I became aware that the God story that is sold to the majority is just a nice story to give mankind with a message of a basic layout of how nice life could be if everyone followed these ideas. Not many in life do and if one thinks about it the good and evil structures actually depend on each other. The good that can be experienced in life is only understood as good when there is it's opposite to compare it to. This is not rocket science only common sense in reality. I am not saying we need to experience bad but understanding in it is needed to appreciate the great things many of us can have in our lives. From birth to death there are many ways mankind helps his fellow man. How many ways can you help?


Sunday, September 12, 2010

3 Ways To Restore A Relationship And Recover Your Love

By Julie Wilson

When you are in a long term relationship, there is always an ebb and flow. You will go through good times and you will go through bad times. Sometimes, you will need to give your relationship metaphorical CPR in order to have it recover from the difficult times and see it make it through to the other side. Here are 3 ways to restore a relationship that you should try if you are going through a rocky patch.

There are so many things that you can try to improve your relationship and you should not stop at 3, in fact don't stop - keep working on improving your relationship for evermore. How long it will take to improve your relationship depends on the damage that has been done and how long it has been neglected, but you can make a lot of progress very quickly.

If you are committed to restoring the relationship, then bringing up past issues and woes ad nauseum is not going to help. Yes, if you have issues that need to be resolved, then talking them through and even seeing a counselor might be useful, however, there is a lot to be said for letting the relationship gain some strength before opening up wounds.

The first thing to do is to ensure that you are spending plenty of high quality time together. Get away together if you can and if you cannot, then make sure that you are trying new things together and forming new and happy memories. Get the spark and the love back in any way that you can.

Another idea is to write a list of things that you love about your partner, things that you like about them and some of your fond memories that you have. When you have completed it, then you should share the list. Reliving some of the good times that you have had can really help to put a more positive spin on your attitudes.

Do all you can in order to make your partner feel valued and special. Listening to their needs is one of the most important things that you can do and really take them into consideration. Also show them how much they mean to you - give them a massage, give unexpected compliments, send loving text messages, cook dinner for them, give them a night off from the kids if applicable. You can do whatever it is that you know would make your partner happy, less stressed or appreciated.

You can get over the speed bump in your relationship if you are both committed to it. Getting angry, making accusations and wild generalizations that begin with "you never..." or "you always" is not likely to be helpful. Try the 3 ways to restore your relationship and help your relationship to recover some of its spark and light.

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