Death is coming

The closer death creeps up upon me the less I am able to understand the reasons for life or living.

Yes I have experienced a close family member dying and unlike television it takes decades to handle such a thing. To think I am going to put my family through such a thing when I finally leave is more horrific to me than the thought of death itself.

My life was and is still a learning experience but when all said and done what am I to do with all this accumulated learning over my lifetime if I just die. There is no logic or reason to this.

Long ago I became aware that the God story that is sold to the majority is just a nice story to give mankind with a message of a basic layout of how nice life could be if everyone followed these ideas. Not many in life do and if one thinks about it the good and evil structures actually depend on each other. The good that can be experienced in life is only understood as good when there is it's opposite to compare it to. This is not rocket science only common sense in reality. I am not saying we need to experience bad but understanding in it is needed to appreciate the great things many of us can have in our lives. From birth to death there are many ways mankind helps his fellow man. How many ways can you help?


Sunday, September 12, 2010

3 Tips For Getting Your Ex Back For Good

By Julie Wilson

Are you finding that you finished a relationship with someone really special and you want them back? Lots of us mess things up with a special person and we want to make up and get back together. Few are the married couples that have not experienced one break up during their time together. There are many things that you can do to win back your ex and several things that you should not do either. Follow these 3 tips for getting your ex back and you will have a higher chance of success.

Before you actually start on your quest you should analyze what really went wrong in the relationship in the first place. Sometimes the relationships finish with a bang that includes a lot of hurt and other times the relationship simply fizzles out and reaches a natural conclusion. The way that you approach winning them back will depend on whether you finished it, how it finished and why.

Once you have worked out the real reasons behind the split, then you should do a little personal improvement before seeking them out again. Try to work on some of the things that your partner disliked or found difficult about you, also spruce yourself up with a mini makeover to give you more confidence and make yourself more attractive to them.

Once you have spent some time on self improvement, then you can begin to make gentle contact with your ex. Going in all guns blazing begging for forgiveness is unlikely to work. Start out slowly by sending an email or text telling them about something that you saw that reminded you of them or a happy time that you shared together. It could also be something that you know they would be interested in or something they would find funny.

Finding an ally in a mutual friend can also be a very useful tool. Get them to help you with communicating how much you miss them and how special they really are to you. They can share information about how you want to repair things and what you are doing to become a better person for them.

Some people fall into the temptation of sending flowers, chocolates, stuffed animals, cards, poetry and things like that. You have to be very careful with this as you can come across as a little bit desperate and stalker like. You also do not want to become to supplicant and beg for their forgiveness, being a doormat is not going to work for you either.

If you want to get your ex back, then there are many things that you can do. By using the 3 tips for getting your ex back above, you have a good chance of getting back to where you were and making the relationship even better than ever.

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