Death is coming

The closer death creeps up upon me the less I am able to understand the reasons for life or living.

Yes I have experienced a close family member dying and unlike television it takes decades to handle such a thing. To think I am going to put my family through such a thing when I finally leave is more horrific to me than the thought of death itself.

My life was and is still a learning experience but when all said and done what am I to do with all this accumulated learning over my lifetime if I just die. There is no logic or reason to this.

Long ago I became aware that the God story that is sold to the majority is just a nice story to give mankind with a message of a basic layout of how nice life could be if everyone followed these ideas. Not many in life do and if one thinks about it the good and evil structures actually depend on each other. The good that can be experienced in life is only understood as good when there is it's opposite to compare it to. This is not rocket science only common sense in reality. I am not saying we need to experience bad but understanding in it is needed to appreciate the great things many of us can have in our lives. From birth to death there are many ways mankind helps his fellow man. How many ways can you help?


Monday, October 12, 2009

Dealing With A Break Up Before It Ruins Your Life

By Nikki Frost

Sometimes dealing with a break up is difficult. It's rarely easy unless you're so glad to get out of a situation that you can't wait to make changes and move on. A break up disrupts your whole life. Everything you do and see seems to remind you of your ex. If you had many mutual friends, even going out to keep from going stir crazy can be difficult.

One of the biggest hurdles you have to face when dealing with a break up is your family and friends. If your ex was popular with your family, you're going to get tired of questions about the situation. You must explain to them that you're dealing with a break up and moving on, the break up is over, and that you don't appreciate constantly being reminded of your ex and the past relationship.

Sometimes this is difficult for family with dealing with a break up. They want to keep bringing up the person in the hopes that you'll get back together. You can just explain, "Moving on, break up is over, that's that."

Eventually they'll come around because they're your family and they love you. It's probably going to be harder to deal with when it comes to your friends.

If you never had the same friends, it may be little easier. But if you both socialized with the same people, it will be weird for your friends when you are no longer together. And it will be even harder dealing with a break up when your ex wants to hang out with them too.

You can even collide when around the same friends. A breakup with your mate does not mean you should have to breakup with your friends also. Maintaining certain friendships may be difficult after you break up.

As hard as it may be, when you are dealing with a break up and are ready to move on, you may have to end some of those mutual friendships. You and your ex may have to come to an agreement to only hang out will some of those friends.

Just keep your closest friendships, and let your ex do the same. While this may be painful at first, it will be better for everyone, since they won't have to take sides and choose who to hang out with. And that's important when dealing with a break up.

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