The basis for spousal relationships is respect and love. Of course you probably already knew this. Most people realize that these things are very important within a good marriage. There are some other things that are important in your relationship as well if you want to keep it strong.
Remember when you were just married? If you have only been married a bit, then think about those first dates. Remember how you treated each other then. No doubt you respected and loved them, but you were thoughtful and kind as well.
Over time when we know someone a long time, we often start becoming more unkind over the years. You would think you would become kinder, but it often doesn't work that way. Sometimes you take your partner for granted, thinking that they are a permanent fixture.
Remember the last time you talked with someone else at the store or in a restaurant. You may have talked to a stranger. How did you talk to them when you were conversing? More than likely you can across as a very kind and sweet person. They may have though about how polite you were when you were talking to each other.
Now think to the words and the tone of the voice you use with your spouse sometimes. When you get angry or you're unhappy about something, think about how you sound. Would you ever speak that way to a stranger? If you're thinking �probably not� then you've started taking advantage of your spouse.
Many people do the same thing with their kids, friends, and even parents. If your conversations were recorded and then someone played them back to you, you would probably be quite ashamed of the way you speak. If you didn't know the person so well, then you would be fearful of hurting those people.
These best relationships between spouses are kind relationships. Of course everyone ends up dealing with anger from time to time and usually you say things that you regret and you may even come across as hateful. You need to keep these problems from occurring often by thinking about how you would talk to others.
Thoughtfulness is also an important factor in good spouse relationships. People love their spouses, but it seems the longer they're together, they less they sometimes show it. Your spouse is one person you should make a point of being thoughtful toward, too.
In the beginning when you're first dating someone or first married, you might send (or receive) flowers, cards and little surprises. Generally after people are married for a while, these sorts of things slow down or stop. Remembering to be thoughtful and surprise your spouse can help makes yours one of the better spouse relationships.
Your marriage isn't something that is concrete. Your spouse could be with someone else. You need to start bringing back the way you spoke and the thoughtful things you did in the past when you were trying to win over your spouse. It is important that you are both thoughtful and kind. Along with respect and love, you will be able to use this to build a relationship that is strong and long lasting.
Remember when you were just married? If you have only been married a bit, then think about those first dates. Remember how you treated each other then. No doubt you respected and loved them, but you were thoughtful and kind as well.
Over time when we know someone a long time, we often start becoming more unkind over the years. You would think you would become kinder, but it often doesn't work that way. Sometimes you take your partner for granted, thinking that they are a permanent fixture.
Remember the last time you talked with someone else at the store or in a restaurant. You may have talked to a stranger. How did you talk to them when you were conversing? More than likely you can across as a very kind and sweet person. They may have though about how polite you were when you were talking to each other.
Now think to the words and the tone of the voice you use with your spouse sometimes. When you get angry or you're unhappy about something, think about how you sound. Would you ever speak that way to a stranger? If you're thinking �probably not� then you've started taking advantage of your spouse.
Many people do the same thing with their kids, friends, and even parents. If your conversations were recorded and then someone played them back to you, you would probably be quite ashamed of the way you speak. If you didn't know the person so well, then you would be fearful of hurting those people.
These best relationships between spouses are kind relationships. Of course everyone ends up dealing with anger from time to time and usually you say things that you regret and you may even come across as hateful. You need to keep these problems from occurring often by thinking about how you would talk to others.
Thoughtfulness is also an important factor in good spouse relationships. People love their spouses, but it seems the longer they're together, they less they sometimes show it. Your spouse is one person you should make a point of being thoughtful toward, too.
In the beginning when you're first dating someone or first married, you might send (or receive) flowers, cards and little surprises. Generally after people are married for a while, these sorts of things slow down or stop. Remembering to be thoughtful and surprise your spouse can help makes yours one of the better spouse relationships.
Your marriage isn't something that is concrete. Your spouse could be with someone else. You need to start bringing back the way you spoke and the thoughtful things you did in the past when you were trying to win over your spouse. It is important that you are both thoughtful and kind. Along with respect and love, you will be able to use this to build a relationship that is strong and long lasting.
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