Death is coming

The closer death creeps up upon me the less I am able to understand the reasons for life or living.

Yes I have experienced a close family member dying and unlike television it takes decades to handle such a thing. To think I am going to put my family through such a thing when I finally leave is more horrific to me than the thought of death itself.

My life was and is still a learning experience but when all said and done what am I to do with all this accumulated learning over my lifetime if I just die. There is no logic or reason to this.

Long ago I became aware that the God story that is sold to the majority is just a nice story to give mankind with a message of a basic layout of how nice life could be if everyone followed these ideas. Not many in life do and if one thinks about it the good and evil structures actually depend on each other. The good that can be experienced in life is only understood as good when there is it's opposite to compare it to. This is not rocket science only common sense in reality. I am not saying we need to experience bad but understanding in it is needed to appreciate the great things many of us can have in our lives. From birth to death there are many ways mankind helps his fellow man. How many ways can you help?


Monday, July 20, 2009

Wife and Husband Relationships - Hints to Have the Best One

By Ricardo d Argence

The basis for spousal relationships is respect and love. Of course you probably already knew this. Most people realize that these things are very important within a good marriage. There are some other things that are important in your relationship as well if you want to keep it strong.

Remember when you were just married? If you have only been married a bit, then think about those first dates. Remember how you treated each other then. No doubt you respected and loved them, but you were thoughtful and kind as well.

Over time when we know someone a long time, we often start becoming more unkind over the years. You would think you would become kinder, but it often doesn't work that way. Sometimes you take your partner for granted, thinking that they are a permanent fixture.

Remember the last time you talked with someone else at the store or in a restaurant. You may have talked to a stranger. How did you talk to them when you were conversing? More than likely you can across as a very kind and sweet person. They may have though about how polite you were when you were talking to each other.

Now think to the words and the tone of the voice you use with your spouse sometimes. When you get angry or you're unhappy about something, think about how you sound. Would you ever speak that way to a stranger? If you're thinking �probably not� then you've started taking advantage of your spouse.

Many people do the same thing with their kids, friends, and even parents. If your conversations were recorded and then someone played them back to you, you would probably be quite ashamed of the way you speak. If you didn't know the person so well, then you would be fearful of hurting those people.

These best relationships between spouses are kind relationships. Of course everyone ends up dealing with anger from time to time and usually you say things that you regret and you may even come across as hateful. You need to keep these problems from occurring often by thinking about how you would talk to others.

Thoughtfulness is also an important factor in good spouse relationships. People love their spouses, but it seems the longer they're together, they less they sometimes show it. Your spouse is one person you should make a point of being thoughtful toward, too.

In the beginning when you're first dating someone or first married, you might send (or receive) flowers, cards and little surprises. Generally after people are married for a while, these sorts of things slow down or stop. Remembering to be thoughtful and surprise your spouse can help makes yours one of the better spouse relationships.

Your marriage isn't something that is concrete. Your spouse could be with someone else. You need to start bringing back the way you spoke and the thoughtful things you did in the past when you were trying to win over your spouse. It is important that you are both thoughtful and kind. Along with respect and love, you will be able to use this to build a relationship that is strong and long lasting.

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